Family & Relationships - 2 April 2007

Is my mom ruining my life?

Well when I was 6 my mom and dad got devoirs, that’s really sucked later on I had to start seeing my dad every other weekend it was really wired not knowing what was going on in my life at such a young age after that my grades started to drop but not by that much now later on when I was about 10 my dad got married and I had to start spending the night over at his house later on….lets just say something happened to me that I cant really talk about lets just say I was betrayed by my best friend causing me to have to move 300 miles away from all my good friends and school and my dad life kind of sucks for me right now I moved to a school out here were I just cant make any friends they all seem to hate me so I got in to some trouble and now I have to be home schooled and now I only get to see my dad once every month now to my mom part there does not seem to be a day were we do not get in to a fight she hates living here to were trying to move but were to poor lol she never believes anything my dad says and if I say oh I really had a good time with my dad she gets really pissed she will say thing go live with him or something like that I really don’t want to because I know it would hurt my mom so bad but this is the thing if it would hurt her so bad then why does she keep on saying go live with him there are so many thing going on I cant tell who is telling the truth anymore she says im so disrespectful when If I was to tell he to… idk shut up or something yes I can see why she would get mad but I don’t see why she can tell ME to shut up just because im 14 and she is 46 does not mean I should not get the same rights as her it seems like she is trying to make me think that my dad never tells the truth or he is just this really bad man I don’t see why he is I sometimes seems like she is using me to get back at my dad like telling me what to say sometimes she will say oh he is only saying that to get me mad is she messing up my head my dad does not seem to be a “bad guy” or anything like that I think she is telling me stuff so I think they lie all the time or are bad people I will never love my step-mom like I love my mom but there is no reason why I should hate them plz tell me your thoughts on this and what I should do I just cant seem to tell her how I feel with out her getting mad at me I think I really don’t know what im scared of.

2007-04-02 09:38:47 · 1 answers · asked by Dark0and0light 2 in Singles & Dating

Is it a good idea to start dating a single mom under 30, or are you getting in over your head?

2007-04-02 09:38:45 · 14 answers · asked by Diamond24 5 in Singles & Dating

It started out that I so wanted to go out with him. Now I want to say NO. but you can't say no to the HOTTEST guy in school.

2007-04-02 09:38:43 · 14 answers · asked by Renee 2 in Singles & Dating

I have a big problem. My boyfriend and my best friend do not like each other! There's this girl at my skool, my boyfriend used to be in love with her in the 4th grade. Well she kept turning him down. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months, and we love each other. But any way that girl and my best friend are like total enemies. She tried to steal my best friends boyfriend and mine. Now theyre threatening to beat each other up. And I'm stuck in the middle and my boyfriend thinks I can control it. I can't! I'm stuck in the middle. I don't like that girl either, i just put up with her. What should I do?

2007-04-02 09:37:58 · 2 answers · asked by **Angel_Eyes** 2 in Singles & Dating

Me and this girl have been hanging out alot recently, always with some of her friends because I asked her out, but her dad won't let her date me because I am older. One of her friends that came with us this friday was a pretty big jerk and made me feel completely isolated from the group. She tried to make me feel a little more welcome, but it was hard for me to enjoy myself either way. I tried to call her saturday to talk about it, but her phone was off. Then again yesterday and left a message asking if she could call me back. I know she is generally busy on the weekends, and also her phone is going bad (Last time we talked she made sure I knew she wasn't avoiding me, because her phone broke and she lost my number). The new phone she has is her old one, and it doesnt work well either. Trying to decide whether I should wait and see if she calls me, or if I should call her around a time we usually talk today.

2007-04-02 09:37:04 · 19 answers · asked by Jojo 1 in Singles & Dating

I met this girl in class .I am not very certain she has a liking for me but i have been observing her. I told her i would like her to sit besides me in class ,she did oblige.she even ask me to coach her in her studies .Sometimes , she would drop compliments on me saying i am cute ,intelligent and honest .Even when we went for dinner with a group of friends , she pay attention to what i like to have. I feel like a small kid whenever i am with her .She is treating me exaclty like one. Do you think she is interested in me?

By the way, do you understand my english? How would you rate my proficiency in my written grammar? No hard feelings ,free to comment

2007-04-02 09:35:51 · 1 answers · asked by the_road_i_am_on 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-02 09:35:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my boyfriend and i have had a pretty on off relationship for a few years now. recently i've been more confident being on my own and played much harder to get and he's been much more attentive and interested.
is this really a good basis for a relationship or just the novelty of the thrill of the chase for him?
cheers!

2007-04-02 09:35:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My sons girlfriend is 27 and spanish. We live in Cape Town. She is nearly 6 months pregnant and is so possessive of my son. They do not live together as he cannot tolerate her tantrums and arguments. When they argue she continuously phones me to find out where he is and what he is doing. As I dont want to get involved, I asked her very nicely to please not involve me anymore as it wasnt fair on me. That evening I got 7 sms's where she called me a whore and basically said "I hope you die you *****. She also said that when they got married she would put me into an age old home and I could die there and good riddance. I am not even on pension as I am not that old. I feel this is verbal abuse and harrassement. Should I get an interdict against her. We are not use to this sort of behaviour in our family, and I dont really know what to do about it. Your help would be greatly appreciated.

2007-04-02 09:34:03 · 2 answers · asked by Vonnie S 4 in Marriage & Divorce

he has not been in her life much at all....we divorced here in texas,he lives in arizona....what can exempt her from going?he has no health insurance on her and no doctor for her either,she has all of that with me here in texas,she is suppose to get 8 shots in a month for 2 and a half months in the summer i dont think that would be contemp if it is a neccesary thing to have done for her health.plus he would have to file the contempt in texas and he is in arizona,because our divorce was here,and he has to have a lawyer ,pay court cost and ect.....she needs these shots in order to not have severe allergies anymore....and i dont see how i can be in contempt if she is the one whom does not wanna go as well her allergies need to be taking care of for her not to suffer with asthma and breathing problems

2007-04-02 09:33:07 · 14 answers · asked by TAM 2 in Family

Hi,
We have a relationship of more than 10 months, recently my gf left me beacuse we where both at a lot of stress because of work and college, and we didn't had a lot of time for talk, since a week and a half ago we were arguing for every simple thing, and one day after I got out of work she called me and telled me that everything was over and told me alot of stuff that I aparrently did and she never told me before, I didn't knew I was making her so mad and sad, but I'm sure she took that decision without proper reasoning, is it possible she took the decision just becasue she was mad, it's the first time it happens and I know she still loves me and I know she is confused, is there any chance to be together again and what can I do? thanks in advance, I really appreciate your advices.

2007-04-02 09:31:49 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

One guy( lets call hin S) and I really liked each other. Though, I moved, when he was about to ask me out. Now, I have a boyfriend in my new school, but whenever I'm with my boyfriend, I imagine S as my boyfriend.

2007-04-02 09:31:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm not cheating nor have
I but I love to here about other peoples experience on hopping the picket fence in search of lush grass.

2007-04-02 09:30:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am seeing a rocker, he is the lead singer. We are not in a relationship but have went out a couple of times, and have talked about making it offical. I have noticed when being at his gigs that women as they put it in the old days "undress him with their eyes". This bothers me. And i tell myself "He's taking me home" but how can I get over this notion. He admitted that he gets proposals all the time to go home with girls, but never acts on them. He gets numbers every nite. How can I become ok with this, and not want to punch every girl around me who is all googly eyed? Is it possible? And how can I learn to trust that he won't act on a proposal when I am not around? I am not being obsessive, I just want some ideas on how to handle this tough situation so that it doesn't hurt our relationship. Any suggestions?

2007-04-02 09:29:23 · 5 answers · asked by mellwith2ells 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Thing of the past. How do you cope and how do you spend quality time with them all? I am 34 this year and i only have 1 daughter but i wish i'd started sooner so i could've had a really big family. My grandmother was part of 9 of a family and her mother really struggled with it for some reason as she was poor and her husband didn't treat her right.This was in the early 40's mind you!

2007-04-02 09:25:45 · 8 answers · asked by minx_knitting_minnie 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I was told i could scare the flies off a horse

2007-04-02 09:24:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I married my husband one year ago, and soon after that we won a long custody battle for his son. My husband has sole custody.
Heres the problem. My Mother in law acts like she has every right to him. I also have two daughters from a previous marriage. Their father is not involved at all in their life, so my husband is all they know as a dad. My husband and I also have one son together.
My mother in law treats my girls like they are nothing, and also treats her new grandson like he doesnt exsist. The only one she seems to care about is my stepson.
She has been known to bring gifts for him over to the house when all the kids are here, and doesnt for one minute think that it is inapproriate. Im not saying buy things for all the kids, but at least keep the gifts at her home and give them to him when he goes to visit.
He gets everything he wants and his way is the only way when he visits, therefore when he comes home he acts like he doesnt know how to act.

2007-04-02 09:22:47 · 16 answers · asked by Kimberly G 2 in Family

She eats goats and cantalopes...what is wrong with her, im serious?!?!?

2007-04-02 09:21:45 · 11 answers · asked by Kelsey M 1 in Friends

My husband want to take me and the kids camping for about a week this summer and I don't want to go. I don't want to go anywhere and I don't want to be in a camper for a week with him and four kids ages 2,4,7, and 9. It does not sound fun it sounds like a lot of hard work for me. I'd rather stay home save money and be comfortable. But I can't tell him I don't want to do this because he'll get mad at me and guilt me into going. What should I do?

2007-04-02 09:20:34 · 30 answers · asked by heidi t 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I've had a roommate for about 2 yrs that came to stay with me because she lost her job, car, apartment. She has a 7 yr old little boy that I've known since he was born. She is currently going to school on line but hasn't been successful in finding a job due to some legal problems. My boyfriend of 1 yr, has suggested to me that she move out so we can start our own life. By the way, he and I are both in our late 40's. I'm having a hard time with this because I feel I'm dropping her on her head. She is part of my family and it feels like I'm abandoning her when she's beginning to get her life together. The only money she has coming in to contribute is her $85 a week child support and she does get food stamps which we use. Can someone please, please suggest to me a compassionate way of approaching her?

2007-04-02 09:20:02 · 6 answers · asked by Sheri A 2 in Family

Here's the story, I started liking this guy when I sat next to him when we were watching a movie in class. We flirted bigtime. He's one of those guys where he's not afraid to get physical..so yeah he touched me alot. We were pretty good friends before this happened..but then I found out he liked me and this other girl..he told me online. I should have said I liked him too, but I didn't because I wasn't really sure if I liked him anymore because I thought I'd never have a chance with him! So I said nothing. Now he is going out with the other girl, and never talks to me anymore. I'm completley over him--But I mean, we were SUCH good friends before he got a girlfriend. I asked his girlfriend if he hates me for some reason, but she said no..and he even told me he doesn't. So, I know he doesn't hate me. But still, I just want to be as close as we were before. What should I do??

2007-04-02 09:19:33 · 8 answers · asked by Abby 2 in Friends

i have a best guy friend. i thought he liked me until i saw him w/ another girl. So, i was afraid to go for anyother guy when i thought he like me. so i have a boyfriend now and we were kissing one day and my best guy friend saw us. and later that week he explained how he was upset. and now he hates me . how am i supposed to gget him back?

2007-04-02 09:19:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am looking for pictures of 3 or 4 wedding cakes on seprate cake stands. They will all be one layer square cakes, all differnt flavors. Any one seen this at a wedding before? Can you show me pictures?

2007-04-02 09:18:32 · 13 answers · asked by cheryl n 2 in Weddings

Ok, there is more to the story. Yes, there are more signs than just the call, that was deep and sounded like they were in love. They would go swimming at the lake house every weekend after everyone went to bed (just them) they talk all the time. I found them UNDER the dock at 2AM and they said they were talking. He would lie and say he was going to the store and call her, if its his sister why not call her in front of me or the kids? THey were not only talking like lovers, they were talking ugly about me for no reason....he has pics of her in her bathing suit from 20 years ago in his truck with several others, none of me.....after all this he still calls her everyday and NOT me. I have cried, lost 20 pounds ( I was already skinny) for what? I was not the one telling my new brother how much I loved him over and over again and calling each other BABY ! Last I found STAMAX in his truck, that was not for us because we were not sexual that much, he stopped more and more as the months passed

2007-04-02 09:16:16 · 12 answers · asked by peaches8866 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I really need some advice on how to move away from my family and abusive boyfriend? My family really doesn't care and as the other questions stated, my boyfriend is overly abusive. How to get away from them. I so want to move, but I can't because of the curcumstances. Any Ideas?

2007-04-02 09:13:12 · 15 answers · asked by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife of two years just informed me that she was born male and had sex change surgery a few years before we met. My wife is very pretty, very feminine, and i could never tell that she had been anything but a natural born female. Even the sex was amazing. However, now that I look back, there were some telltale signs in that she didn't have any photos of her as a young girl for our wedding photo (she said that she lost all of her photos in a hurricane, which seems logical to me); and her invitation for her 20 year class reunion came addressed to Paul as opposed to Paula, which we just laughed off at the time. My question is, how should I deal with this? I am not sure how I would have reacted if she told me before we got married, but now I feel betrayed. Your opinions?

2007-04-02 09:12:20 · 29 answers · asked by John D 3 in Marriage & Divorce

we dated four years ago he cheated on me everything was rosie but he cheated now he wants us to come back together but am not sure wat to do. should i give it one more try or not?

2007-04-02 09:12:00 · 10 answers · asked by naija queen 1 in Singles & Dating

Alright the time has come, I have bought the ring, and now I am thinking of ways to pop the question. I origionally was going to get a group of our friends together and go camping to this beautiful river, and one day go off on our own and pop it, then come back and celebrate with friends. But after getting some feedback from friends stating that they don't know if they'll be able to go or not, and it being a 4 hr drive and some other things I've scrapped that Idea. They other one I think is alot better. Now I know its not origional and some people say its cliche. But I was thinking of going to our local triple A baseball teams game and doing it either on the jumbo tron or see if I could dress up as the mascot and go over to her holding a sign saying "will you marry me?" I'd like to do something out of the ordinary and she would be all for it. We both are goofy crazy people, and like to have fun. I would have our friends there too video taping and taking pictures. Thanks for your help!!

2007-04-02 09:09:31 · 17 answers · asked by beerman0028 1 in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I are not interested in spending $30,000 on a wedding reception. We live in Connecticut (which is expensive as it is) and were wondering if it would be more cost-effective to rent a tent (and, I guess, port-a-potties) and go with a great inexpensive caterer (we are not having a super formal wedding). Many of the local banquet halls in the area cost about $100/person (we have big families and are probably having a 200-250 person wedding).

2007-04-02 09:08:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i am in 10 th grade 6 foot 200 pounds and athletic

2007-04-02 09:07:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating