my boyfriend and i have had a pretty on off relationship for a few years now. recently i've been more confident being on my own and played much harder to get and he's been much more attentive and interested.
is this really a good basis for a relationship or just the novelty of the thrill of the chase for him?
cheers!
2007-04-02 09:35:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ps in response to one answer below i used the phrase playing hard to get as a well known colloquiallism not a suggestion that my relationship is based merely on game playing
2007-04-02 11:07:35 · update #1
HUNNY NO DONT LISTEN TO NO ONE. BE YOURSELF AS THATS WHEN YOU FIND THE PERSON FOR YOU. PLAYING GAMES OR BEING SOMEONE YOUR NOT DONT DO IT. AS WHEN YOU DO START TO NOT PLAY GAMES THAT PERSON MIGHT BECOME BORED OF YOU AND NOT WANT YOU. ever heard the saying wanting what you can have that is the point of that game to make someone want you. way i see it hun life is short dont waste your time playng games of heart tug a war....find someone who wants you for you thats when you will find your happiness..
HEY I HOPE I GET BEST ANSWER I THINK I JUST TOUGHT MYSELF SOMETHING WITH THAT ANSWER IM GOING TO BREAK UP WITH MY WASTE FULL BOYFRIEND AS IM ALWAYS TRYING AND NEVER GETTING NOTHING BACK
2007-04-02 09:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by MissTee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the moment you have no basis for relationship, because it would appear neither of you know each other. Everything is just a game, or an act.
If you have feelings for your boyfriend then it is time to stop the games, & talk to each other like adults. Only when you do this will you find out about whether you have the basis for a relationship, or if your boyfriend is interested in the chase.
When this happens will you know if you have a future together.
2007-04-02 17:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thrill of the chase and nothing more.
The whole playing hard to get is old school, most confident women don't need to play games like that. It's mostly young girls and immature women who find it necessary. Strong confident men will just pass those girls by on the way to better ones.
2007-04-02 16:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you begin your query by an indication that you're :"PLAYING" hard-to-get, it doesn't sound like you want a "GOOD BASIS" for a serious relationship...when you're mature enough to not resort to Game-Playing, and you have open and honest communication with a mature partner ---and you want the same things and you're on the same time-clock...then you may have what you want...but you can't Manipulate people into being what you want them to be...it blows up in your face and turns out negative...try Honesty and Patience...and sometimes, in being honest with Yourself...you just have to cut your losses and move on...There's someone for you...the RIGHT someone...you've got to Start by Believing that's true.....Good Luck~
2007-04-02 16:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jain D' Vine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men naturally like the thrill of the chase it's in their instincts and they do get bored if you give in too easy to them. I think this is valid with regards to men of any age. I read in a relationship book that even when you're married you should play hard to get with your husband and he will appreciate you a lot more.
2007-04-02 16:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't make yourself so hard to get that he gives up and goes after an easier option.
2007-04-02 16:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the chase is what makes it fun, as long as the chase does not turn into work
2007-04-02 16:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by outg426 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play hard to get if you really like him.
2007-04-02 16:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by oldcaligirl92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really in my opinion if you want someone go after them. games are not good for a long term.
2007-04-02 16:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by vgigaijin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋