can my 12 year old refuse to see her biological dad on his summer visits?

Question

he has not been in her life much at all....we divorced here in texas,he lives in arizona....what can exempt her from going?he has no health insurance on her and no doctor for her either,she has all of that with me here in texas,she is suppose to get 8 shots in a month for 2 and a half months in the summer i dont think that would be contemp if it is a neccesary thing to have done for her health.plus he would have to file the contempt in texas and he is in arizona,because our divorce was here,and he has to have a lawyer ,pay court cost and ect.....she needs these shots in order to not have severe allergies anymore....and i dont see how i can be in contempt if she is the one whom does not wanna go as well her allergies need to be taking care of for her not to suffer with asthma and breathing problems

Answer 1

I would take it to a judge, explain your reasoning plus (from what I understand) that your daughter doesn't want to. Let your daughter tell the Judge herself. The dad does have every
right to to see his kids but, only if he can provide the care they need. Tell the Judge he is unable to (with proof).

Answer 2

She has the right to speak up but you will have to go to court and get his visitation order changed or else he can get the police involed and charge you with obstruction of the custody arrangement. Shots or no shots. The judge would tell you to schedule them around the visit or make arrangements for her to get the shots she needs while visiting him. He doesn't have to have separate insurance on her to do that. Your doctor can set it up with another doctor in Arizona for it and have it covered the same as your insurance plan. Try to work things out with your ex without getting the courts involved. If that doesn't work then you'll need to get a lawyer going and work it out that way.

Answer 3

What you say makes since, but what you are going to need to do is file a petition with the courts and have the custody order amended to State that because of your daughters health problems he must have health insurance for her a Pediatrician all the things that he doesn't have.

If seeing his daughter is important to him them he will comply by the court order, but more than likely he won't, but at least you know in your heart you did it the right way and later in your daughters life she will know that you wanted her to have a relationship with her dad only if it didn't mean in dangering her health.

Answer 4

In my experience, it depends on what state you and her live in. Like Texas, where I live with my daughter, she can refused to see her bio father at the age of 12. If that is not the case in the state you live in, then you need to visit your lawyer or a lawyer to see what your options are.

Good luck!

Answer 5

She is 12 and has a right to her opinion legally. If he does file contempt all she has to do is explain to the judge that she refused to go.

Answer 6

yes. she has the chance to say somthing now that she's 12 years old. I remember hearing that u would really have to be 12 maybe, or 13, but she does have the choice.

Answer 7

BY LAW of court order an order is an order but ..... you can get a lawyer and see what they can do but YES THEY CAN FORCE YOUR CHILD TO GO WITH VISITING PARENT, WITH A COP STANDING THERE TO SEE EXCHANGE IS MADE,,,,,
Been there done that gee it sucked.Get a lawyer

Answer 8

your daughter is 12 years old, she is old enough to tell the courts that she does not want to go there and why. This should be her decision at this point anyway.

Answer 9

can my 12 year old refuse to see her biological dad on his summer visits?
YES ! if she's brainwashed

Answer 10

Review the custody agreement, and find out what he wants to do. It is okay for you to demand that reasonable health arrangements be in place if she is to go visit him.