Is it a good idea to start dating a single mom under 30, or are you getting in over your head?
2007-04-02 09:38:45 · 14 answers · asked by Diamond24 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should try it, try to guage what kind of mom she is. If she's a total party animal, which may be what you're into, she may not be the best mom. I'm a single mom, guys like you drive me nuts, because you're afraid to give us a chance. Thing is, most single moms are forced to be more mature, they simply can't afford to be out of their minds. They also probably won't have as much free time as girls without kids, which means they won't constantly be up your rear. But if you're looking for somebody who has the freedom to up and leave at anytime, it may not be for you. Just remember take it slow, don't try to meet the kids until you're sure you may want to stick around for awhile, and be honest about it with her. Were not toads, were just a little more complex.
2007-04-02 09:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a single mom under 30, I would say that it is a good idea if you are serious about her. If you really like her, then go for it. But if you are a player, leave it alone.
You can tell a lot more about a single mom a lot quicker. For example, you can see how responsible she is....job....balancing work, kids, money, etc. You can see what kind of a mother she is and what kind of a person she is by seeing how her kids act and how she interacts with her children.
If she can't take care of herself and her kids, then I would step back and see if you are ready to contribute to that. But if she is mature, responsible, and a loving mother, what do you have to lose? ....What more could you ask for?
I am a single mom for over 3 years now and I have put myself through college and have an awesome job now. The trouble I have is finding someone that is responsible enough to take care of their ownself. A lot of guys under 30 can't take care of theirself and that to a single mom is scary. Because I feel like if I can take care of myself and my two kids, then there is no excuse for them to not be able to at least take care of themselves.
Just think about what you want and how you feel about her. Don't be scared off too quickly. Give her a chance. It doesn't have to mean you are going to marry her....just date her and see what happens. I am sure that she didn't plan to be a single mom.....she just had a failed relationship like everyone else in the world, except she got a beautiful child out of it. :-)
Good luck with your decision.
2007-04-02 16:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably no more dangerous than playing with fire, juggling containers of nuclear waste or any thing that you can think of where there is disaster waiting just around the corner. Where is your common sense and what does a title like "Single mom" say to you, duah. If your new to the idea of retreads then do some research and find out what could lay ahead for you, then if you are willing to take that chance you have a sneak preview of what is to come. "Single Mom" has already given you a sneak into the past. You could just go ahead and play in traffic and eliminate all of the things that are going to be in your future and the end result will be the same. Don't suffer, either make a good decision and apply it to something worth committing to for life.
2007-04-02 16:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definently depends a lot on who you are and who she is. Ask yourself these questions:
Are you ready to have kids yourself?
Can you accept her kids or will they be a nuisance to you?
Will you be jealous of them?
Is she a nice girl who is interested in you or just trying to find a baby daddy repalcement?
Even if you don't end up in a serious relationship with her you have to think about these things ahead of time. If the thought of having kids of your own scares the heck out of you then don't do it. If you think she's just trying to use you don't do it. If you hate kids or would be jealous then... you get the point. And also be ware of getting too close to someones kids too soon if you do like the little critters...if the relationship doesn't last it will be hard on you and the kids.
2007-04-02 16:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by freemonkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not. If you don't try it you might miss out on something really special. Everybody now a days has some kind of past relationship history. You might get along great with her kids too. Good Luck
2007-04-02 16:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mary G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times it is great, it could be all about her getting some, and you could be that guy
or it could suck she could be looking at you as the Husband of her kid or kids, before you even get to know her, that would suck
or you could fall in love with the kids and want more then she is willing to give, that would suck too
what ever you do, do not, do not ,meet the kids for a long time, you do not want them getting attached to you too early and you could turn out to be just another guy who left they Mom and them
good luck it could turn out great, like it did for my friend, married loves the kids
or it could suck, as it turned out for a few dudes I know
2007-04-02 16:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally not. You will have to deal with her ex. And the kids might resent a new parent figure or they wil get attached to you. If you break up with this woman then the kids will get hurt. If you still want to date her........ make sure you don't meet the kids; it will bw easier on them.
2007-04-02 16:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by megan261980 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's fine to date someone with kids if you are comfortable with it. If you hate kids then I'd say stay clear.
2007-04-02 16:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation and how you feel.
If you really like her, and the fact that she has kids isnt making you run away then go for it.
2007-04-02 16:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by jesssikahhh_x3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over your head
2007-04-02 16:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Ima Stressed Out 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋