No car, No money, How do I move?

Question

I really need some advice on how to move away from my family and abusive boyfriend? My family really doesn't care and as the other questions stated, my boyfriend is overly abusive. How to get away from them. I so want to move, but I can't because of the curcumstances. Any Ideas?

I have a two year old. I can't just leave him behind. So that needs to be taken into account

Answer 1

First, get out of the mind-set that you need UN-CARING people to support and approve your actions.
You don't. Zillions of people make their own decisions and take care of themselves every day.
Get your mind-set right first---you need to take care of No. 1, and that person is you.
The abusive boyfriend won't change, so let him find someone else to abuse.
If your family doesn't care, don't take it personally---many very good families give relatives NO HELP or even encouragement, and there's no reason to expect it--it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you at all.

Take charge of your life, don't be afraid of making mistakes, and don't waste time trying to be perfect. Do what you can today.... decide what "stuff" of your own you really need to take with you, how much space it will take, and what you can leave behind..... then get your assets together, count them up, and if you have to, get a job for a short while to save some money.....then look for housing available to you. Unless you are in a VERY rural area, look for some sort of housing near a bus line and a grocery store. If you are in a very isolated area with no public transportation, you may have to move to a larger city.
Get your stuff, and some money together, and move on---people do this every day to improve their lives, you can too.
You will make some mistakes at first, but that's the way to learn life-skills. Just keep at it.

Answer 2

Well, I can understand your stiuaton totaly. Here's the thing. If you really want to make improvements and move, you'll have to find a substantial job and start socking your money away. As for your abusive boyfriend, if he's hitting you and things like that, you should be calling the cops and pressing charges. Don't let anyone know your plan, it will make things worse for you. If you're 18 and older, maybe find a shelter since your family is selfish enough not to care about your situation. If you're under age, I'm suprised Child Services hasn't been out to visit. I wouldn't discuss your plans with anyone, find a job or two if you have time and really start putting money away. If no one else is on your side, this really is the best way to handle things. Best Wishes!!

Answer 3

Surely there has GOT to be a friend or a family memeber that is sympathetic to your situation. If not, then there is more to this story than you're telling because I find it hard to believe that NOBODY is willing to help you because they just flat out don't care. Figure something out where you can stay with them for a few weeks until you can save some money and make a move. If you are TRULY on your own, then joining the army as somebody already stated doesn't sound like a bad idea if you are TRULY that bad off (free housing, free medical, free food, and service to your country).

Answer 4

Get on online, or call some shelters in your area.
There are a lot of shelters out there that will help you get back on your feet, but you have to be willing to deal with their rules and a made up mind to go ahead with your life.

Look in your local telephone book, or call the information (211) in my area for guidance.

Answer 5

Find a shelter to go to. Don't be shame!!! I would rather be livin at a shelter than at a home where somebody is beatin my @ss. You can go to a shelter, then try to find you a job until you can move. Go to a temp service. They are more than likely able to find you a job to put money in your pocket. Don't stay where you are now and get beat up. Life is too short and too complicated as it is for you to be abused.

Answer 6

You could join the peace corp or the military.
You could move in with a friend.
You could be ridiculously brave and take a bus to some exotic locale that you are interested in and find a job and a roomate.

Answer 7

If you enjoy taking care of children and don't have any of your own, try applying for a nanny job in another state, you won't need a car, they pay for your living expenses etc. I did it many years back and it was a new start for me in a new area, I made new friends through the agency. It was fun and I enjoyed it!

Answer 8

Call your local church and get the number of the abused woman's shelter. They will help you move and get away from everyone. Help you set up in another city too

Answer 9

Join the Army...they will send you AWAY, they will take care of your transportation, moving and housing arragements for you while you are in training. While you are in training (about 3 months) you really don't need a car and after you move, then you will have plenty of cash and a steady job to buy one.

You will always have a place to live while in the Army, you will have full medical and retirement benefits, and plenty of peopel your age to hang out with.

PS/ They have a $10000 (ten thousand!!) sign in bonus now, plus a 30k scolarship for you to go to college. 10k is more than enough to buy a decent car.

Good luck

Answer 10

go to a womens helath clinic and tell them you are scared for your life or the hospital or even better the cops... they will be able to give you shelter until you can get on your own. Most of all just pray about it. Pray Pray Pray!!!