Family & Relationships - 14 March 2007

My ex and i were together for a month short of 3 years but he decided he needed time out of the relationship indefinitely. That was 4months ago... we've been in touch on and off. He's gone through periods of calling everyday and then backing off and there being no contact at all. A couple of weeks ago he said he wants to see me... i suggested about an hour before he started work in the afternoon but he said no that he wanted to see me properly and "spend more time". So, we arranged next week... but again, he's not been in touch at all for a week.... what does this mean? I'm baffled. I even told him i was leaving his life but he stopped me... so if he doesn't wanna be without me, why the lack of contact? And if he wants to see me, why isn't he in touch regularly? I'm confused?!.... someone please shed some light! xxx

2007-03-14 04:39:20 · 6 answers · asked by gorgeous_ami 2 in Singles & Dating

we've been married since nov 2006 and we fight alot about bills and buying things we don't need to so my husband got pissed off and moved out now stays with his ex wife. says he's been praying and God said to move out.

2007-03-14 04:39:18 · 10 answers · asked by texasunshine56 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my ex and i broke up about 4 months ago. i didn't want to be friends because i found out that he was not who he says he was. but he called me again yesterday and was asking me to give him a chance; i refused. i told him he didn't deserve to my friend but it was so hurtful because he didn't understand why i needed to let him go. he tried to tell me how amazing he thought i was and any guy would be crazy to not want to be with me which i really didn't understand. am i crazy for not wanting to be his friend again?

2007-03-14 04:39:11 · 1 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't like living with my sister-in-law because she gives me an attitude of I don't like you, the reason why I'm respecting you is because of your mother and brother. I have to stay with her for the next 7 days. I only been in her house for one day and I want to move out.

If I tell her the things that bother me about her, I know we are going to get into arguments and I don't want that.

I want to move to my aunty's house. Sister-in-law knows I don't feel comfortable living with my aunty's house because of aunty's husband.

So, how do I tell sister-in-law that I want to move to aunty's house? If she say why? Should I lie or tell her the truth that I don't want to live in her house because she has given me the Cold shoulder?

2007-03-14 04:38:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my boyfriend told me that he is getting tired of me playing head game with him saying that im not ready to have sex with him he said that not the only thing he wants out the relationship he want to go further in it i dont know want to do about it how i break it off or still with him cause he say that he love me no matter want

2007-03-14 04:37:51 · 6 answers · asked by Brittany C 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-14 04:37:32 · 28 answers · asked by kay h 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-14 04:37:29 · 2 answers · asked by sgsingle2003 1 in Singles & Dating

Me and my wife are going through a mutual seperation with every intent to get back together and I noticed she took her ring off. It kind of makes me wonder. Shouldn't one take their ring off when a divorce is agreed upon?

2007-03-14 04:37:21 · 20 answers · asked by paul b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Better yet, all of them do. I have tried to tell them that I have lost interest with them and to move on. But they don't seem to listen. I also tell them that I am still focusing on my most recent ex. But they just feel the need to hold on tighter.. what do i do?

2007-03-14 04:37:04 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley Sweets 2 in Singles & Dating

I have known Ron 3 years. I was in a relationship w/ a guy for 6 years & just recently broke up w/ him. We had broken up w/ in those 6 yrs a couple times also. It was b/c he cheated, lied, all this.I finally said I had enough. In between our breakups though I would see Ron who I have always really liked. My ? is sometimes Ron seems to really like me & be interested in me,then he'll just ignore my calls & not call me. I have been calling him daily & I think that has pushed him further away. I keep asking why he has been ignoring me-he will say what do you mean-i have been busy. I will ask him if he would rather me just leave him alone or if I am bugging him or what the problem is-I know its not because im ugly or anything b/c he always acts like I am so perfect, but @ the same time he is ignoring me.He says he isnt ready for a relationship & he knows that if we spend too much time together it will turn into that & he knows I will go back to my ex-but I know I wont.what should I think?

2007-03-14 04:36:50 · 5 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been married to my husband for one year now. I love my husband for all the right reasons, but I am highly jealous, and feel that I have to compete with the younger women now that we are married. I don't feel sexy and I don't think that I pretty, but he tell me that I am all of the time. Why do I feel like someone is going to take him away from me? Please help me.

2007-03-14 04:36:44 · 12 answers · asked by cindywrly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Over 2 years ago, I rented a house with my bf. Not long after moving in I had a breakdown and went into serious depression, I have had problems with depression for years and it finally got on top of me.
I couldn't get out of bed each day, let alone earn a wage so we were really tight on cash. My Mum found out about it when she popped down one day and saw the state of me and the house.
She asked us if we wanted to live back with her and my Dad. After thinking about it, we moved back in but now it turns out that she only invited us back because she wants money from us paying her rent every month.
For years she has taken money off us, if I say no - she plays the guilt trip untill she gets more and we never get it back. On top of rent (which I don't mind paying), she has had thousands off us.
Now; we hate living here. They are always noisy & inconsiderate. What can we do? How can I stop myself from feeling guilty to move knowing she can't afford living without our rent??

2007-03-14 04:36:24 · 20 answers · asked by LauraMarie 5 in Family

My fiance is coming on the same day of his bday! Any idea of what i can do for him? I was thinking to take him to one of the nicest restaurant here. but i dont think is good enough... cuz he had done aloooooooooooot for me plus hes also the one in charge with the expenses of our wedding. YAy!!! i cant wait!!

All answers will be take as granted =)

2007-03-14 04:35:47 · 3 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2 in Weddings

We're not in our 20's or 30's, so it just looks wrong when we're out together. I really don't like them at all, but I only asked him not to wear it when we go out together. He says I'm trying to control him. (We live in the U.S., if that makes any difference.)

2007-03-14 04:35:41 · 19 answers · asked by scaredeycat 3 in Marriage & Divorce

F A M I L Y

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.


He s aid, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."


We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.


But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.


Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.


When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.


He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.


While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,


"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.


Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.


Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.


He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."


By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.


I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.


"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.


I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blu e."


I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."


I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."


FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died to morrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.


And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?


Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

2007-03-14 04:35:22 · 9 answers · asked by ckgene 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a younger relative who USED to have a nice figure, & she always wore sexy clothes. (tight pants & dresses, short skirts, tube tops, etc..)

Now, after two children, she does not have that figure anymore. She is huge & out of proportion, however, she still wears the same kind of clothes, & it looks a mess.

Family members have told her that she shouldn't wear those types of clothes until she loses some weight, but she just ignores them, gets mad, and she might feel the same way if I say something to her. On the other hand, she has always looked up to me, so she MAY listen to me.

Every time I see her, I am embarrassed for her and myself. When she comes around my friends, or to bars that she knows I hang out at, people look at her in disgust, & they know she is my family. My friends think I should "school" her, but even though she is younger than me, she is still grown.

She needs to understand that she can look and feel sexy if she wear clothes that flatter her body

2007-03-14 04:34:49 · 23 answers · asked by CJ 4 in Family

Ok, this is a long one. probably kinda stupid but i dont really know what i should do. Ok so, for a while now i had suspected my best friend at the time, of having an affair, her behaviour towards the idiot guy is just far too close to be just friends. I spoke to her about it as she has a husband and children, so i wanted to make her realise she had far to much to lose. We have been very distant friends since i asked her about an incident that i witnessed (which she denied) oh ps: me and the man shes just 'friends' with had a blazing arguement once so we dont speak. On the night of the arguement my friend didnt stick up for me once, it sucked. So anyway ive just heard they were caught kissing at our workplace and everybody knows except them. I hate what shes doing to her family but i know how she reacts when confronted, should i tell her what i know, or keep my nose out? Its so irritating watching them all over each other knowing she has a lovely family....help....

2007-03-14 04:34:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I am wondering what I should do. I have known my boyfriend for six years. we were friends first and started dating six months ago, everything is wonderful and I couldn't be happier but there is a problem. We always use protection even though the condom broke once. I get myself tested for HIV and STD's every 4-6 months since I have become sexually active and I have been healthy up until now. I found out that he has given me something (it's not life threatening thank GOD!) I know he hasn't cheated on me because we are glued at the hip and we live together. I told him and he said that the last time he got tested was a year ago. now I don't know if I should try to work things out or leave him alone. I still care for him alot! someone please give me advice on what to do!!!

2007-03-14 04:34:13 · 6 answers · asked by lostone 1 in Singles & Dating

One of my friend (let him b X) and another Y they r very close to each other, now X likes a girl that girl said to Y that someone is trying to break friendship of X and Y this thing is causing slight misunderstandings between X and Y.
wat should i do in order to get back their friendship back to normal?

2007-03-14 04:34:13 · 3 answers · asked by rockubabe 1 in Friends

"When I drink beers, it puts me in a mood to cook, clean, laundry, and listen to music while I do these things. I don't believe females should slave and labor for me while I sit around doing anything around the house. I also love karaoke, dancing at clubs, and enjoying myself while I drink. I'm not saying drink everyday. Your body needs to rest and repair itself."

2007-03-14 04:33:36 · 22 answers · asked by southpark392006 2 in Singles & Dating

we have been 2gether 4yrs. his mom moved from IL to CA.we were looking for a apt and he decided to live on his own with his bro. things got xpensive bro. was not helping with rent and he lost his job. my boyfriend then decided to move with his grannny to nc. i am still in il and he is in nc and we have been apart for 3.5 months. he proposed to me last month and we were planning a wed for 4/08.he doesnt make a lot of money but his granny has recently told him he needs his own place by june/06 b/c her rent will go up.that means he will not be able tosave for our wed his money would be going to his apartment. he has been going to church paying his tithes and obeying god, we can't decided if this is the devil attacking us or are we not meant to be together. i dont want to move with him not being married and there is not telling when we will have enough of money saved up for a wedding. any advice how to look at this situation. we take one step forward and get bpushed back two steps.

2007-03-14 04:33:29 · 9 answers · asked by ucme 1 in Weddings

I have recently began dating my high school boyfriend (we are both divorced) after 25 years of being apart. He's a great guy but unfortunately has put on weight (a lot !) since then, whereas I have only gained about 10 pounds. I hate to sound shallow, but I think most of us would admit that you must approve of your partners physical appearace, to a certain degree, in order to be happy. I think we could make a go of it if he would lose about 50 pounds. Should I try to encourage him in this effort, or just walk away if I can't fully accept him just the way he is?

2007-03-14 04:32:48 · 3 answers · asked by 13th Floor 6 in Singles & Dating

Parents: HELP!!!!?
How do i deal with my mom being so strict my curfew is 5 and i cant hang out on fridays and saturdays at 10 its just so un fair i always have to lie to my mom if i want to go somewhere what do i do and sometimes my step dad is mean to me also my mom has temper problems cuz wen i come in 1 minute late she freaks the high schol calls to tell her how well im doing she yells at me wat do i do wat do i do !!!!!!!!!




How do i deal with my mom being so strict my curfew is 5 and i cant hang out on fridays and saturdays at 10 its just so un fair i always have to lie to my mom if i want to go somewhere what do i do and sometimes my step dad is mean to me also my mom has temper problems cuz wen i come in 1 minute late she freaks the high schol calls to tell her how well im doing she yells at me wat do i do wat do i do !!!!!!!!! i am 15 going on 16 also i do listen to her all the time and i am nice to her but sometimes wen she yells at me i give her a little !?!?!?!?! bahahaha

2007-03-14 04:32:33 · 18 answers · asked by ~Shan~ aka Shannon B 1 in Family

Situation: Seven years in this relationship. 2 old friends of my wife have popped up strangely in the last couple of weeks. They've not been in her life for several years and when they were around they caused alot of chaos.

Background: One or perhaps both of these women relate well to her and they have good times. But they are both pathalogical liars with some deep emotional problems and various situations arose that moved them out of our lives. I know a few of their exes and it was not pretty.

At issue: I am a big believer in leaving people be who they are and I don't want to in any way control who she befriends. I am however, catagorically against these two women coming back around. Although I believe people can change, I also believe what is from the past should stay in the past. Why bother when we already know what they're made of?

2007-03-14 04:32:04 · 4 answers · asked by donewiththismess 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

any ideas, i know its linen, but??

2007-03-14 04:31:52 · 6 answers · asked by sunflower 2 in Weddings

I've seen this guy a couple times this past month. And at the start I was forward about my intentions and what not. But it's going so slow. Sometimes I think we are casually dating othertimes it seems like we are just friends hanging out.

he's coming over tonight to watch a movie (i get advance screeners in the mail), how can i bring up all this, and straigthen things out (at least for me).

2007-03-14 04:31:05 · 8 answers · asked by naturegg 1 in Singles & Dating

instead of just watching me? ??♥

2007-03-14 04:30:52 · 5 answers · asked by kitten 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

my daughters 16th birthday is coming up and one of the presents i want to get her is a ring that says something like "to our beloved daughter,love always, mom and dad."
where can i get a ring that will engrave that. I tried tiffanys but they dont engrave things like that.
please help??

2007-03-14 04:30:48 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

hey, im in highschool, things use to be great. striaght A's. hangout with bestfriends all the time. always smiling and laughing. now things seem to change. my grades are getting lower. my best friend doesnt hang out with me as much. im always sad. parents are always putting me down. telling me im a failure. things took a turn when the started putting me down. they started punishing me(hitting) and everytime they yell at me i cry easly. the only thing that makes me happy is my boyfriend, who they do not approve. but how can they not approve him without getting to know him. some times i feel like giving in to their words and give up on myself but my boyfriend said not to. some times i think without him life isnt worth it. i know i shouldnt give up, but it hurts when my parents stop believing in me. what should i do? they wont even listen to me. i just dont get it anymore..

2007-03-14 04:30:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

When getting over that special 'first love' in our lives, its my contention that it takes guys much longer to get over than it is for women...so lets hear how long it took everyone to get over that first love, i mean really get over...??

2007-03-14 04:30:21 · 18 answers · asked by wild1 5 in Marriage & Divorce