iM lost, confused, and feel like i should give up on life... help?

Question

hey, im in highschool, things use to be great. striaght A's. hangout with bestfriends all the time. always smiling and laughing. now things seem to change. my grades are getting lower. my best friend doesnt hang out with me as much. im always sad. parents are always putting me down. telling me im a failure. things took a turn when the started putting me down. they started punishing me(hitting) and everytime they yell at me i cry easly. the only thing that makes me happy is my boyfriend, who they do not approve. but how can they not approve him without getting to know him. some times i feel like giving in to their words and give up on myself but my boyfriend said not to. some times i think without him life isnt worth it. i know i shouldnt give up, but it hurts when my parents stop believing in me. what should i do? they wont even listen to me. i just dont get it anymore..

i want someone i can let all my feelings out to, where do i find that kind of person? couceling?

Answer 1

First of all you have to try to stop letting what others say get to you like this. I know that it's hard not to take into account what your parents say about you, but you have to learn to be your own person and not let them get to you.

Your boyfriend is right in saying you shouldn't give up. It's good that he makes you happy but what you need to do is find your own happiness because while he may be there for you now that does not mean he will always be there. Be careful with how much you depend on others because they might let you down.

It's clear you have the ability. You said you used to get straight A's & everything else in your life was fine. You need to find out what it was that caused this dramatic change and try to get back your self confidence. You cannot let others drag you down. Your parents are probably critical of you because they care... although the hitting is inexcusable. (If it's heavy hitting i suggest you talk to someone about it.)

I think you need to analyze your life, and see what has changed to cause this dramatic turn around. Once you find what it is you can determine what needs to be changed to make you happy again.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

First of all, you need to prove to yourself that your are worth something before you need to prove it to someone else. Why have your grades slipped? Is it because of the boyfriend?Parents always have a reason why they do not approve of a boy. Hell for me, my entire family did not approve of my ex-boyfriend (childs father), I did not know why until now. They had a VERY good reason. It is a sense they have and one day when you become a parent you will have it too. Maybe you best friend is distancing from you because you are not being the best friend you used to be. Have you ever thought about that? Dont give up on life. This right here should be your drive to do something better. e-mail me if you want to talk. I have a little experience with what you are going through. Now I have a beautiful daughter, I am a single but very strong mother, that is doing wonderful with my life. let me know if you want to chat.

Answer 3

It is very sad that your parents are telling you that you are a failure. You must not believe this!!!
Being a teenager is tough. You are experiencing things that a lot of teenagers before you have felt, and a lot after you will feel. Don't give up hope.
Throw out your darker colored clothing, and your gloomy, sad songs. Put on bright colors, and DANCE in your bedroom. Find a hobby that you can get involved in. Do NOT make the boyfriend your whole world. Boyfriends will come and go, believe it or not. Life is just starting for you. YOU have to believe in YOURSELF before anyone else will. So, get up early one day, help Mom in the kitchen, put a little bit of make-up on, and SMILE all day. Do something kind for someone else, and I guarenttee that YOU will feel better. Just try it. Don't find an excuse not to do it. Just try it ONE DAY, and see if I am right or not.

Answer 4

It is dangerous to place your worth in another person. You are special because you are you. Not because your parents approve of you, and not because a boyfriend supports you. One day they may all be gone, and you will have to know how to stand alone if that day arrives.

Find a job you enjoy and work on making a successful career so that you depend on no parents or man. THEN, you can call the shots much easier.

Enjoy your youth. Until you have children, it is the best part of your life in retrospect. Don't get into trouble or drugs mind you, but DO have a little FUN!

Your parents judge your boyfriend because they think they know his type. People will do that, ain't no stopping them.

Answer 5

Honey, I have been there. I know it is very hard when your parents don't believe in you. I don't have enough information to say keep the boyfriend or get rid of him. There has to be more of a reason they don't like him. Just hang in there and try to find things that make you happy. Try to find the positive in everything. I know and understand that it is very, very hard. But as we get older we see things differently. But the number one thing is never put or rely on one person or just one thing to make or bring you happiness unless it is God, or a Higher Power. If it is just a human, there is a tendency that they will let you down. So find some new friends, find something that you enjoy doing, and really look for the positive things that bring you joy and pleasure.
Good Luck, and God Bless

Answer 6

Your boyfriend is right. What you need to do is turn this thing into a positive.The more they down you, the harder you work to prove them wrong.Then when your old enough to go out on your own, you can say you did it all on your own and be proud of what you have accomplished.Everyone has a purpose and a reason for being here so you cant give up.You have to keep pushing even harder when things are at their worst.Then when all is said and done, you will have a prosperous life and might even be able to help someone else in your situation.Good luck, keep your chin up.

Answer 7

i'm sorry to hear you're having such troubles in life right now.

your boyfriend is right -- please don't give up on yourself... ok?

you might be suffering from depression... depression can be caused for any number of reasons, and one is chemical imbalance... it's very common!

can you talk with your school counselor? perhaps if you two get together and talk about your FEELINGS, the counselor can meet with your parents.. you said your parents don't listen to you, and that you can't talk with them. perhaps a third person would be helpful to you.

if not a counselor, do you have an aunt or uncle who you trust and respect? or another adult who knows you and your family?

You might also try talking with your parents again first... ask them if they would please listen to you, and start out telling them you feel sad and you don't know why... tell them that your sadness has affected your life, your grades and you just want to feel better. Perhaps they will listen to that?

It's not your fault! You sound as if you want things to get better, you are just unsure HOW to get some help and support.

i hope you get good help and good advice from the people here, too!

sending hugz your way!

Answer 8

Sweetie,

PLEASE talk to your school counselor, a friend, a friend's parent..........someone in authority. You are severely depressed, and from your statement above, it sounds like you are getting a little too close to the 'edge'. You MUST talk to someone outside of your home ASAP.

Get this off your chest, sweetie. It will relieve some of the tension you are feeling, and maybe things won't seem as bleak. Remember..........there is ALWAYS someone out there who will listen. You made a good start asking here, but I think you would be better off talking in person to someone. For one thing, you would know that you aren't being blown off (you can see if they are paying attention), and you also would be able to interact (meaning get their opinion's on it and then talk it over).

Answer 9

Dont live life for anyone but yourself. Giving up on life is easy, but pusing though takes inner strength. Be thankful for your boyfriend, but dont let him be your only motivation. You need to depend on yourself. You obviously were doing good in life, so its possible to be there again. Believe in yourself when no one else will. I will tell you right now I believe in you. I dont know you but I know you can keep on going, and not give up. Life is never easy, but thats what makes it life. If youre in high school, you dont have much longer to go before you can be on your own. Get those good grades back so you can go away to college. Become a better person despite your parents. You can do it, put your heart into it.

Answer 10

DON'T EVER GIVE UP
Not all people are meant to be parents, and some get to a situation that they do not know how to deal with it. YOU need to be able to get above them and survive. I have been through similar situations, so if you want to email me, please do.

You have many things going on in your life right now on top of being a teenager with all that brings. You sound so on the edge, PLEASE stay on this side!

Here is a toll-fee number to Covenant House Hotline: [phone].

This is a crisis line for youth, teens, and families. It gives you a local referral throughout the United States.

Good Luck - my prayers are with you!