I have known Ron 3 years. I was in a relationship w/ a guy for 6 years & just recently broke up w/ him. We had broken up w/ in those 6 yrs a couple times also. It was b/c he cheated, lied, all this.I finally said I had enough. In between our breakups though I would see Ron who I have always really liked. My ? is sometimes Ron seems to really like me & be interested in me,then he'll just ignore my calls & not call me. I have been calling him daily & I think that has pushed him further away. I keep asking why he has been ignoring me-he will say what do you mean-i have been busy. I will ask him if he would rather me just leave him alone or if I am bugging him or what the problem is-I know its not because im ugly or anything b/c he always acts like I am so perfect, but @ the same time he is ignoring me.He says he isnt ready for a relationship & he knows that if we spend too much time together it will turn into that & he knows I will go back to my ex-but I know I wont.what should I think?
2007-03-14 04:36:50 · 5 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should stay friends with the guy for right now. It is really too soon for you to be jumping into a new relationship. You need to spend a little time on yourself... I hope you don't feel that you need to have someone at all times. I was the same way i would be in a relationship and when it was starting to go bad i went in found comfort in someone else. I have now realized that it was a sigh of weakness. I still have guy friends but, its good to be single and focus on yourself. Good Luck!!
It will be hard at first, but in the long run its good for you.
2007-03-14 04:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by *SeXyB* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's concerned he could end up being a rebound guy, and also like you need some time to get yourself sorted out.
I always recommend time to get to know "the single you" right after a breakup. The relationship will have added things to who you are and how you deal with things; get comfortable with just being you. For your own sake, don't jump right into a new relationship.
Give Ron a little space - you're scared calling every day is a problem, and it might be. Make it every few days instead, and give him a chance to be the one to call you. Find other friends to spend the extra time with. Do things you like to do, just because you know it'll make you happy to do them.
A few months down the road, maybe Ron will wake up one day and wonder why you're not a bigger part of his life, and take his first chance to call you up and ask you out. In the meantime, and whether he ever does decide he wants you to be the woman in his life or not, you're fresh out of a long relationship with a guy who wasn't exactly perfect - this is your chance to establish yourself as a wonderful woman who's worth the best any man can give her! Don't waste that!
2007-03-14 11:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you've got to be clear. You've to be sure you're over & done with your ex before going out with Ron (or any new guy). Ron do not wish you to be half-hearted in the relationship. He does not wish to be your stand-by should your relationship fail with your ex (again).
Since you ex has been cheating & lying, no point sticking with him anymore. Make a clean break!
It is not advisable to call Ron (or any bf that you may have) daily especially if they're busy. Naturally, he'll find it annoying & disturbing.
Note: He has given you the main reason. He's not ready to go into a relationship with uncertainty that you may run away.
Now that you know the main reason, deal with it. It's that simple. Tell him nicely (when he's not busy) that you're trying your best to forget your ex (& maybe hint him to help you get over him). Assure him that you really wish to be with him & give both of you a chance. If he's not ready yet, at least he should show support to you as a friend.
Do not ever push anyone into a relationship. Take it slow & steady. Spend time together as friends. Things will fall into place if it's meant to be.
2007-03-14 11:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he is going to be a little standoffish for awhile, possibly because he does not want to be the rebound guy. He probably wants to give it some time to see if you guys will really fit together. Just let him know how you feel, and then back off for a while to give him time to think about everything.
2007-03-14 11:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by funkyfreshradiofree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone he said he is not ready for a relationship so why aer you calling him. And he is right it is a good chance you will end up back with the loser guy. Let him be for now and he may come around but now you have pushed him away.
2007-03-14 11:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋