I found out that my sons fiance 19, is cheating on my son 21 for 5 mos, they have a baby, What now?

Answer 1

I think he should have a DNA test done to make sure he is the daddy.

Answer 2

Get a home DNA test done on the child, without your son and the mother knowing.

If it comes back that the child is your sons, keep your mouth shut about the other situation. Your son will only end up angry at you. Eventually he will figure out she is worthless on his own and you can be there to support him and your grand-baby when he does.

If the DNA test shows the child has no relation to you or your son, you need to sit down and tell him the whole situation.

These things are so hard and so messy. I'm sorry that you have to live with this on your shoulders.

Answer 3

I hate to tell you this Katy but don't tell. The reason is as soon as you tell him your son is going to be mad. Now he is going to be mad at his fiance but he is going to be mad first of all at hearing the news and the person who told him, namely you.

What you can do is to research the laws of your state about getting full custody of the baby, if that is the road he wants to go. Second, set up his fiance so that he is that one that finds out. Ask the fiance in front of your son, were you having car problems on Monday/ She will ask no, then say oh, because I saw your car parked at (in front of his house or at a hotel) just didn't know. At this point she will probably panic. Be as calm as you can but look at her straight in the eye.

The saying goes once a cheat always a cheat. If she is cheating on him before the wedding, she will probably cheat on him after. So you have to convince her that you know, and if she doesn't break if off you will spill the bean.

Good luck its a tricky situation.

Answer 4

First off get real proof of her cheating before you tell your son and you and him build a case against her to take the baby away from her you know a sneak attack cause the baby deserves a better life then some one like that cheating slu# can give them.

Answer 5

From a mother to a mother, I would sit my son down and explain to him what you know. It's up to him if he wants to do something about it! Just at least you have cleared your conscience that you had told him.

And about the baby,,,,, he will always be a dad to that child regardless. Just take it a day at a time.

But at least it will be in the open and you can let him handle that the way he chooses.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

That's totally up to your son, and his fiance. You need to stay out of it completely! Taking sides, or even offering advice, could blow up in your face. It's fine to be there for your son, and listen to him, but let him solve his problems by himself. If he doesn't know that she's cheating, don't, I repeat, don't tell him. Your son, unintentionally, could blame you for any negative outcome. I know, as a mother of grown children myself, that it's hard to keep your mouth shut, but it's the smartest thing to do, especially if you love your son. Best of luck!

Answer 7

Depending on the kind of evidence you have and the relationship you have with your son, you might find it possible to approach your son and let him know what you have found out. Then, let the two of them sort it out.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Dont listen to anyone who tells you to stand back, and DONT listen to anyone who says you should confront her first. IF you confront her first, she could tell him that you are making up things to try and break them up. The people who say to stand back, have probably cheated on people before and they didnt want anyone telling their other about it. I say tell HIM! He needs to know, and if you know it for a fact, then you need to tell him. Also, be prepared, he might choose to stay with her after all of this. So dont come off as I HATE THAT GIRL, but instead act as if you need to tell him so he can decide what to do. Its his choice. Good luck

Answer 10

chances are that if you know-he does too. sorry to break it to you, but when a spouse is cheating-you know. U may be in denial at first, but you know. u have this gut feeling-"something is not right!" So, your son may need to be talked to-heart felt of course, about opening up his eyes a little wider. maybe his child is also stopping him from seeing clearer. Also, why not talk to her to be sure. whatever you do-always come from the heart! no one likes a busy body mother in law. Good luck

Answer 11

If he doesn't know, you need to pull her aside and let her know that her actions are not going unnoticed. This girl needs to get her sh*t together and stop playing around!!

I don't think it is out of line for you to say something to her, after all, she is the mother of YOUR grandchild, and YOUR son's heart is at stake.

Tell her that if she doesn't tell him, you will. Let her know how extremely hurt and disappointed you are that the mother of your grandchild can't even calm down enough to focus on family life. Tell her to step up and take responsibility for her actions, and to put taking care of her child and planning her future with your son her first priority.