I have been married to my husband for one year now. I love my husband for all the right reasons, but I am highly jealous, and feel that I have to compete with the younger women now that we are married. I don't feel sexy and I don't think that I pretty, but he tell me that I am all of the time. Why do I feel like someone is going to take him away from me? Please help me.
2007-03-14 04:36:44 · 12 answers · asked by cindywrly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let "paranoia" ruin the great marriage you have! He loves YOU! He married YOU! Enjoy him, and your marriage!!He's not going anywhere!
2007-03-14 04:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cindy,everyone here will give you some input that might work with you, but the reality of life is its only natural if you feel this way. A lot of women are also jealous type,some doesn't show it because it makes them feel weak, and you like some that knows how to show emotion. Your in love with your husband and it makes you feel scared because you finally have the man that you dreamed of,so don't let it consume you.
Do your self a favor, stop telling yourself that your not pretty, nor you don't feel sexy, don't you think if your not pretty nor sexy your husband will marry you??.just think about it and you'll see that its one of those feeling that you have trying to make you feel scare,........if you need to talk, I'm here...
2007-03-14 04:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has not caused you concern for you being jealous then I would say the cause of it is due to insecurities on your part. Somehow something or someone of a past experience or experiences, has cause you to believe you are not worthy of being loved. Therefore, you do not believe your husband when he tells you he loves you and or that he findss you sexy and attractive. Just know this, if you want to keep your husband, being jealous is a sure way to lose him. Seek ways to build your self esteem. Learn to accept the fact that he loves you and think of all the reasons you are indeed worthy of that love. It is not easy to put our trust into one person for fear of being hurt, so we put up defensiveness. But with love comes risk, with risk comes trust. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-14 04:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your insecurities. YOU are the one HE chose to be with. YOU are the one he loves and wants and until he makes you feel like he doesn't want you anymore, you shouldn't feel the way you do. I know what it's like to not feel sexy or pretty, and my husband also tells me that I am. But it's hard when you don't feel it yourself. Just know that as long as he's coming home to you, it's all good. Good luck with the self esteem issues.
2007-03-14 05:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by tandtfowkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because no matter how hard our men try,we feel inadequate and our self esteem is low.Along with the fact that all we have to do is read to days statistics to see how much of a success rate marriage has...I'm very jealous and I have been married for 30 years...
2007-03-14 04:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Dixie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy comes with being a woman. Haven't you seen a pair of shoes on somebody else that u wd rather wear. Or maybe at the gym somebody elses legs, butt or breasts. However, being highly jealous could prove to be problematic. If he's the man of your dreams then REVEL in your fantasies sweetie.
2007-03-14 04:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel your pain. It's understandable to feel jealous when you are so happy but is it really jealousy or is it fear of losing this happiness? I am in a similar situation except I feel prettier and more confident than ever before. My advice is to keep talking to him and tell him your fears. He will help you ease the fear of loss and maybe he feels the same. Just don't let it take over, or start accusing him of things.
2007-03-14 05:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your insecure and have no self confidence. You need to work on both before your jealousy ruins your marriage. See a counselor or take some classes or read some books...
2007-03-14 04:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a very normal feeling. Though we like to say it isn't. It is considered one of the deadliest feelings of all human emotions. And the ugliest. How ever I don't believe there is a person alive who can honestly say they have never felt jealousy.
I will admit. I feel it often if I feel another woman is in my space with my old man. LOL
Another woman cant take your old man unless he is wanting it.
2007-03-14 04:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think because you love him so much you are afraid you may loose him one day. However it sounds to me like he loves you very much and you really don't have to worry. As far as jealousy. A little is flattering to anyone but to much will push a couple apart. If he has never given you a reason not to trust him then you should love him enough to trust him.
2007-03-14 04:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by Janst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋