I am wondering what I should do. I have known my boyfriend for six years. we were friends first and started dating six months ago, everything is wonderful and I couldn't be happier but there is a problem. We always use protection even though the condom broke once. I get myself tested for HIV and STD's every 4-6 months since I have become sexually active and I have been healthy up until now. I found out that he has given me something (it's not life threatening thank GOD!) I know he hasn't cheated on me because we are glued at the hip and we live together. I told him and he said that the last time he got tested was a year ago. now I don't know if I should try to work things out or leave him alone. I still care for him alot! someone please give me advice on what to do!!!
2007-03-14 04:34:13 · 6 answers · asked by lostone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you like being "active" then dump him.It's not really worth it.But if you still have feelings for him,then just stay friends.
2007-03-14 04:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this happened to you. You don't really know if he has cheated on you. Don't be so confident. Talk to your doctor or someone who won't let your fears get in the way of their honest answer. Find out about the "thing" he gave you. Find out how it progresses and what the symptoms are. Find out what the symptoms should look like after 6 months. Is the level of infection you currently have consistent with 6 months or 1 year.
If he's cheating on you then the relationship isn't worth it. But, set that aside for now. You both have been in active sex lives with and without each other. Sex has been a huge part of both of your dating. It is time to have a talk about your value of sexuality and your value to commitment. If the commitment is not there then he is not worth your time unless you don't care about marriage. If marriage is not in the picture then you really don't have a leg to stand on except to demand that he not give you anymore infections.
If marriage and commitment are part of your values then it is time to review what it is that you believe in and want out of life. Take care of yourself and set boundaries. Be only with someone who shares your values and dreams. Don't trust to the point where you don't see the writing on the wall. I wonder if deep down inside you really know the answer. Face the answer and take care of yourself.
2007-03-14 11:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what he gave you. Maybe it was something that was dormant in him (some std's stay dormant in men but show symptoms in women right away) and now that you've had a broken condom, you got exposed. You should have some idea, depending on the type of std he gave you. If men want to cheat, they will find the time, somehow. Speak to your doctor and be very careful with this man.
2007-03-14 11:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI i read your question and think you should just try to work things out. Most likely there are treatments for whatever you have that can keep you healthy. I'm sure your boyfriend didn't know but you should get him to get checked in case he has anything else, and im sure he would do it for you. Just keep your relationship the same and don't change anything This is just a little bump in the road.
2007-03-14 12:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by iluvsuperman84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get tested and treated! and if you are so close and (glued at the hip) how did he get it??????? (think hard) but I wouldnt leave him for something treatable. but I would learn to buy stronger condoms!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-14 11:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by angelofmusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone there's nothing to work out if your health is at risk.
2007-03-14 11:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by maua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋