Family & Relationships - 14 December 2006

ok i fell in love in a great guy and we dated off and on mostly on though for a year i thought he was the one for me and then me and his friend talked a lot and he started to like me even though we never met i liked him too then he like kinda forced me to dump his friend and i dated him instead and then he dumped me because he found out that i still liked my ex then i dated my ex again and then we dated a while and he started treating me badly and hit me once but it didn't hurt, then i said harsh things to him and he dumped me and i dated the other guy agian and we have been dating a while of time but he treats me badly too, like me and my best friend are always together no matter what and he holds me and won't let me go near her but when he wants me he won't let go and when i want him he leaves and i still am in love with the other guy and people think i am crazy because i still talk to my ex and they think i am making him think i want him but i secretly do. any advice
Tough Love <3

2006-12-14 16:12:15 · 8 answers · asked by toughlove 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I was recently awarded spousal support and was wondering if anyone knows how long it takes for them to start withholding the amount from my husbands pay, after the judges order and forms are sent in to the state???

2006-12-14 16:10:53 · 6 answers · asked by sparky111_26003 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-14 16:10:41 · 8 answers · asked by KISS ME♥*´`*•.¸★ 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 16:10:23 · 9 answers · asked by santorosko 1 in Singles & Dating

Almost every night my girlfriend calls her ex and talks to him for long periods of time, and she wants to spend time with him. I have a problem with it and so does her family. She does not seem to care that it bothers me or her family. I have told her before that I do not like her hanging out with this guy because he tells her that he loves her and wishes he was still with her. Me and my girl are pretty serious at least that is what I thought, we bought a promise ring with the intent that when we get the money we would buy a wedding ring. Now I dont know, I told her that I did not want her hanging out with this guy because he has severe anger issues and he tryes to get her to leave me, and bad mouths me all the time, she told me the more I told her no the more it pushed her away from me. I vented my frustrations to her and said some things about him that was just talk but she told him and he then confronted me and said he wanted to kick my ***. what sould i do?

2006-12-14 16:10:12 · 14 answers · asked by sprayman590 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 16:10:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf and I have been together for 1 1/2 years. When we first got together, my parents loved him. He treats me like a queen, is very respectful, loves my kids, and makes me truly happy. 9 mnths into the relationship he moved 900 miles away from here to be with his kids b/c their mother is a drug addict. He flies in once a month to see me and his family and we talk at least 2x a day. This works for us. We plan to get married next year when I finish college. The problem? My mom has said in the past that if I have anything to do with him she's "done with me". My bf is flying in for a week during christmas and I want to take him to my family's Christmas Eve get together. How do I tell my mom that I'm bringing him with me and my kids and that if she doesn't like it, none of will be there. Both my parents are very good to me and I couldn't have asked for better parents. Its just that I feel, at 29, its time I live my own life and stop letting my mom act like a dictator. What do I do?

2006-12-14 16:09:36 · 20 answers · asked by ricksgrl2005 3 in Family

2006-12-14 16:09:00 · 11 answers · asked by gummybeararmy92 2 in Singles & Dating

No parent is perfect and they make mistakes. My mother has made mistakes in the past. But that is the past I have moved on and I have forgiven her. Yet any time I'm upset about something, family related, she feels like she is a failure? I was upset with my dad about something that had nothing to do with her, yet she felt like a failure. I love my mother so much and even with her mistakes I would never trade her. How can I make her understand that she's not a failure as a parent??

2006-12-14 16:08:21 · 5 answers · asked by Gypsy Cat 4 in Family

I was born that way and seem to be, satisfied with what is natural for me. I have no biological clock. I am 37, yet I am told I look 25. I really feel that you should be happy with self before you committ to another. Make sure they are cool with who they are in their world as an individual. Remember hurt people hurt people. Be Happy with you being, you first and fore most! Then Love will follow. Heal your ills, and spare another your unnecessary pain.

2006-12-14 16:08:03 · 6 answers · asked by jrneytime 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 16:07:56 · 37 answers · asked by lovj 2 in Singles & Dating

For a first date? I'm a junior in high school and I like this girl who's a sophomore... I'm pretty sure she likes me back too cuz she bumps into me, walks with me at school, etc. we've known each other for about a year, and are friends already. Her b-day's coming up in a couple of weeks and I want to take her out. This would be our first "date". Any suggestions on what to do? (I can't drive yet)

2006-12-14 16:07:23 · 3 answers · asked by bump 2 in Singles & Dating

I am 24 years old. I am with my boyfriend for over four years now, he is my first byfriend-cause before I was not interested in boy. At the beginning I felt nothing towards him. After 2 years I started loving him but without passion, rather like a friend. He was always crazy about me, very caring, supportive, loving. Unfortunately, we quarrel a lot and I always had doubts if I should break up wit him. Once, I broke up with him, cause I met other guy, however it did not work out and I came back to my firt boyfriend. He is my best friend, he is funny, well educated, honest, nice. However, after every quarrel subconscioussly I was looking for somebody else. I aways felt that something is missing in this relationship although I am very much attached to my first boyfriend. Now I met a new guy on the Internet. We are planning to meet in January, cause then I will be back in my home country. I am feeling that he is my soul mate and I am attraced to him, and he feels the same about me. However I do not trust Internet people so I asked my cousin to check him cause she lives in the same city, and it found out that he was honest with me in all the matters I was able to check.The new guy is also great guy, but now I have got a huge proble. which one should I choose..cause I do not want to cheat on my boyfriend.
My first boyfriend makes me feel secure, I am really attached to him and I feel I love him but I am not sexually attracted to him. I never felt this sparkle towards him, altough he really tries his best. But, still we quarrel a lot and I am missing this sparkle, especially since I started feeling sth, not too much cause it is just the beginning, towards the new guy. However, I have no guarantee that it wil be better with the new guy, though I feel more attracted to him than to my first boyfriend. The new guy is also funny, we are real soul-mates. Now I do not know what should I choose, stability with the first boyfriend, and alwyas having this feeling that sth is missing, or unsecure relationship with the possibility of real sparkle. Or maybe I am fooling myself, maybe there is nothing like sparkle, only strong frendship and then love. I do not want to hurt anybody. I feel very bad, I do not know whom should I choose. I even cannot eat cause of this. I loose my weighy because I do not want to loose my firts boyfriend however at the same time I do not want to loose a real chance for passionate love with my soul-mate.
Please help me, whom should I choose, how to make a decision. I alreday have tried different techniques, answering some questions to myself, asking friends, but still I am not able to make a decision. Please help me to choose. I just want to be happy, and partially I am with my old boyfriend but still something is missing, but maybe I am this kind of person that will never feel the real sparkle, maybe I am inventing from the very beginnig that I am missing something in this relationship, please help me, i cannot stand this siuation any more.
Basia

2006-12-14 16:06:13 · 4 answers · asked by oliwia1000 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 16:06:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Today's women are totally out of line...they think they can be their own person in marriage...well that isn't how it is supposed to work...its about two becoming one and the husband is the head and she needs to follow and submit. I am almost certain that if wives were atleast 80 percent more submissive than they are now, we would have maybe a 5 % divorce rate. Am I right here?

2006-12-14 16:05:32 · 57 answers · asked by Sandstorm222 2 in Marriage & Divorce

What are some of your experiences?

2006-12-14 16:05:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For some reason, females give me no attention whatsoever and it has been this way all my life. Even when dressed neatly and dapper, I still get no attention. I am a very quiet man and I am 24 years old. I have never had any genuine interest from a female in my life. I have totally given up on ever finding a ladyfriend. I don't even speak or talk to women at all anymore because I feel I won't accomplish anything meaningful.

Please comment

2006-12-14 16:04:40 · 17 answers · asked by wayne b 1 in Singles & Dating

do in this christmas any idea?i know i will be very boring.so i thought of having a nice wine formyslv tell me which one is the best wine but not tat expencive lol and also i wanna prepered food 4 myselve too plz do give me someteaps?hummm.......i dont know anythink dis is the first time going to spentd holiday alone tell me wat to i do.above i have mention is just my plan i think it would not help me tell me frend out der how will i njoy dis holiday?

2006-12-14 16:04:30 · 12 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Singles & Dating

I guy my husband works with is always sending him porn emails....and not always like ha ha funny joke type things..that might not be so weird. But this guy just will send pic of girls masturbating or bending over ...just random gross stuff. And ONLY to my husband...is that weird?

2006-12-14 16:04:22 · 17 answers · asked by E 3 in Marriage & Divorce

next mon will be my bf's birthday?
i thought he would be clubbing with his frens and all but he told me he would be spending the whole day with me.

and i was like wth,i gotta plan for a bday for him and i honestly do not know what to do.

he is more of a flamboyant guy who's cheeky,confident and i feel his celebrations shld be more festive n stuff.
and we are tgt for only almost a month.

i wanna give him a great day to remember but i tink i gt only like 20 bucks in my pocket.he's 19 anyway.

2006-12-14 16:03:21 · 1 answers · asked by indulge in mine 2 in Singles & Dating

my friend has trouble getting a boyfriend. I personally thin kshe is just trying to hard. But every guy i ask about why they dont like her they say its cuz she is fat.. are there no guys here that have to set their standards so high?

2006-12-14 16:03:06 · 9 answers · asked by lala 2 in Singles & Dating

most people by high school age are already dating and i am a freshman looking for anyone interested in not exactly dating but be friends. i am female, dirty blonde hair, love studying hymnology & religion. i am baptist. it's OK if no one isn't interested yet. just in the process of making new friends.

2006-12-14 16:01:48 · 15 answers · asked by squidgetpj 3 in Singles & Dating

ok, my husband is coming home from iraq, what would you consider to be the best way of seducing him all night long on our date and what way to really lite his fire after the lights go out?
any and all good ideas welcome, thanks guys.
one guy just helping out another, you know?
i really just want to blow his mind...

2006-12-14 16:01:24 · 20 answers · asked by Stacy L 1 in Marriage & Divorce

as in have you ever been friends with someone and not told them how you truely felt about them...did u regret it?

2006-12-14 16:00:57 · 31 answers · asked by little_miss_bizaree 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 16:00:18 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I like to play NHL Hockey for PS2 with my husband. I am not that great but I have got better. Everytime I am winning my husband pauses the game and ups his aggression level to the max. I jokingly said he was cheating and he totally flipped out on me and called me a b@*tch . It's not just this, it's many many other things. It's like walking on eggshells with him. I am so tired of being treated this way. I don't know what would be more benificial..marriage therapy or anger managment. I'll take any advice.

2006-12-14 15:59:47 · 10 answers · asked by Jem 6 in Marriage & Divorce

why do i feel sad where i supposed to feel happy for him. he got a pretty and kind wife and both of them know i'm gay.

2006-12-14 15:59:20 · 4 answers · asked by Xian 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Quick Details:
-Me(26)
-Fiance(28)
-Known each other and have been dating since highschool
-Getting married in May 2007
-Both virgins(Waiting till marriage)
-My fiance asked me to move in with him and I want to move in with him, but I think it might be to tempting...


-Should I move in with him ?
-Is it better to live together before or after marriage ?
-Is it wrong to sleep in the same bed before marriage even if we are just sleeping ?

Thanks for everyone's help :)

2006-12-14 15:58:28 · 10 answers · asked by Mary P 1 in Singles & Dating

It is for me I never had a year like that since iwas born!! Everybody that I talked to said the same thing. Anyone else out there who feels the same??

2006-12-14 15:57:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my husband always find a way to bring up that he want a divorce if we are arguing about the smallest thing or a disagreement come up about any thing the first thing he says is lets get a divorce i am getting to the point where i am tired of it i have heard this so much for the past year that i really am at the point where i am getting tired of hearing it its always the same everytime he ask for a divorce i wonder if anyone have any suggestions...by the way last year i found out he had met someone on line and was carrying on an emotional affair with that person he has a history of doing that over the time we have been together i have found this out now i am just sick of it and tired of living the way i am living with being threaten with a divorce everytime

2006-12-14 15:57:19 · 10 answers · asked by pumpkinpie 1 in Marriage & Divorce