Family & Relationships - 10 December 2006

Don't mind the avatar or name, this is my wife's account. I am writing because I am the youngest of four children, who have left to take care of my mom. She livesalone.

The other three siblings fell out with me and my mom, for differing reasons. I am married, work full time as well as study, so making time for my mom is not easy.

It's even harder when she refuses or is unable to do things to help herself. She is 66 (but does'nt look it) she is generally healthy although won't go out the house alone, relying on me to meet her, take her to teh shops and anywhere else.

She retired five years ago, but has'nt had a retirment plan, any ideas I put to her, she rejects, because she wants to be taken around be car, because she claims she has agorophobia but I don't think that's it.

It's hard when she won't listen. She goes through periods of not calling me at all, not answering the phone, locking her door and not letting me in to calling loads of times, usually at the most busy times. help

2006-12-10 23:59:29 · 14 answers · asked by Jodie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Anyone ever been proved by their loved one that he or she was truly sorry for the wrong choices they made at one stage in their relantionship (and which caused you a lot of pain and loss of trust)? Maybe even after a vey long pause?

2006-12-10 23:59:12 · 13 answers · asked by yayoch 1 in Marriage & Divorce

You see I got married in 03 my Husband have 4 boys I have 1.The problem is when we got married his oldest son came with us alone with his gf.Got married in Vagas.THe night of the wedding on the way out on the town while driving the son said put that cig out it's bothing us .You see his Dad and Mon smoked all his 30 yrs now its a big deal.3 yrs later it's bothering me like it was Today.I dont really care for his Gf at all and he's on my bad side also.I've discussed this with my Brother thats a Spirtual preist He said let it go .I cant I feel he was disrespecful This was my wedding day.He calls us everyday.My husband is very laid back.He tells me oh he did'nt mean anything by that.I feel he was showing out for his Gf.Now I cant stand that witch.This has put a bad taste in my mouth!Where do people get off like this.His Son knew about us from day 1.They thought Dad was going to hit it and go back to Mom did'nt happen.What can you say it's a major set back.I'm taking it out on the S&GF.Help

2006-12-10 23:58:56 · 8 answers · asked by lorraine B 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-10 23:58:42 · 13 answers · asked by baseballdottie 1 in Family

2006-12-10 23:57:09 · 13 answers · asked by dev d 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 23:56:44 · 15 answers · asked by sonai 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 23:56:27 · 8 answers · asked by iunona_33 2 in Singles & Dating

i m 15 years old.i have a 23 year old sister,my mum used 2 give me n my sister the same attention n love.but as my sis started getting older,my mum n my sis started getting closer.my mum often scolded me n even told that she didn`t love me as much as she did b4.when my sis went to k.l. to study my mum n i were aloneat home.she started complaining 2 everyone that my sister did not want to come back.so i called and told my sister that my mum was complaining bout her.my sis got very angry n today both of them had abig fight n my sis refuses to come back.now my mum is telling everyone that she was wrong bout me n that she likes me a lot now.m i at fault 4 both of their relationship fight??

2006-12-10 23:54:29 · 5 answers · asked by mouse genius 1 in Family

We are getting married, we have a budget we need to stick to and we have 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen - i am looking for a nice gift, probally necklace and earing sets for the girs and the boys? Possibly personalised Hip flasks? Any one know any reasonably priced places i can go to online to look for idea's? Thank you

2006-12-10 23:53:10 · 9 answers · asked by simonandtrish2006 1 in Weddings

2006-12-10 23:52:34 · 8 answers · asked by Kakhuisdraaksemaat 2 in Singles & Dating

think deserves to be called numberonebstard????

2006-12-10 23:52:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

what would you consider to be your worst habit?
A work colleague was just onto me about how annoying her boyfriend was with constantly leaving dirty cups around the place - got me to thinking - what would you openly admit to what your own personal worst habits would be? Thx! xx

2006-12-10 23:52:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am feeling uninspired and a little bored on Y!A now...can anyone keep me interested in staying here? LOL

2006-12-10 23:51:07 · 12 answers · asked by I'm Loving Life 3 in Singles & Dating

I was going out with someone recently who was big into blood tests to prove fidelity ..didnt work out ..he contacted me to say he was ill with a disease Herpes and said I gave it to him I know I didnt but I wondered if he had it maybe he gave it to me ..so I got tested ..I am fine now ..3 months down the road he says it was a lie so I would get a test to prove I had nothing ...I dont know what is the truth ...and he wonders why I am mad at him...he says he did it so I would prove I love him by getting a test done ..is he mad ...what do I need to do ..he needs help

2006-12-10 23:51:00 · 13 answers · asked by pineforestkim 3 in Friends

my life and job sucks....i feel lonely since I started working in a call centre environment where I am required to work on shifts...because of that I am no longer have the time to meet up people and old friends due to scheduling conflicts. So most of the time I am alone.....eat alone, watch movies alone...shop alone..is this normal? is there something wrong with me? How can I fix this and have my life back?

2006-12-10 23:50:28 · 14 answers · asked by ultrasonix53 1 in Friends

My boyfriend has told my little sister that he has £3,000 stashed away in his bank account.

I only found out about this today when I spoke to my Mum. He lied and his explanation is that (and I quote) "This is how I test people..."

For reasons unknown to me, he has a problem with my little sister.

Obviously, there is more to the story than this, but I need to let off some steam about a few things that are bothering me about him and our relationship in general...

1) We've been together for nearly a year and he still hasn't told his family about me. When I pull him up about this he says he daren't tell his Mum in particular about me because she has hold of about £1,500 of his money and that she won't give it to him if she knows about me. He's 31 years old, I think I should add. Shouldn't I be more important than this £1,500?

2) He begs me to come back to his flat whenever I try to stay away for the night and when I do come back, he spends most of his time texting people...

2006-12-10 23:50:11 · 11 answers · asked by celestinerocks85 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am in a dance group at school. Apparently my dance partner thinks that I like him.
There is this part where we have to salsa dance and a part where I must stare in his eyes to create charisma, emotion and tension and attracrtion. I'm not worried about doing that, I just feel uneasy and I want to change my dance partner but it is too late now.
He told me he does his part for real and that he keeps on thinking about me. I don't want him to see me as more just as friends because we are.
My boyfriend hates my dance partner so much,I can understand that. What should I do?

2006-12-10 23:47:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i'm not lesbian but it seems that most girls love my company .. and i even had some of their boyfriends are angry at me since most of the time the girls will leave the bf just to go out with me .. sometimes i feel that i'm the third party in their relationship...i do feel guilty and tried to avoid the girls but they will be the ones calling me .. and i even know some of their relationship broke because of me.. mind u we are not young anymore ..


i donoe if anyone experience this..

2006-12-10 23:47:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

truck I get a little jealous. Our SUV is a little dated and they just bought a really nice Cadillac with all the bells and whistles. I am thinking that we should get a Hummer just to out-do them. Does anyone else have conflict trying to keep up with the Joneses? How can I keep myself from turning into the "green-eyed monster" everytime and over something so ridiculous?

2006-12-10 23:47:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My parents have been divorced for over a year now, and my mother thinks it is time to start dating again. However, after 15 years of marriage she has let her looks go considerably. This is a photo of her

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y30/Lomia/699573999_l.jpg

How can I help her find a man who will appreciate her charms, kindness, and wonderful personality? How can I keep men from laughing at her or just using her for one night stands?

I care about my 800 pound mother very much.

2006-12-10 23:46:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

just for fun???...what do you think...i seem to inadvertantly started down that path...maybe i should carry on...;0)

2006-12-10 23:46:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I rejected this girl back in highschool. She's really pretty and she's nice I just rejected her and i know i broke her heart. we've remained friends throughout highschool and we're in our first year of college and I started to miss her. I spoke with her a lot on the internet and told her how much i miss her. When I try to apologize and say stuff like "i shouldnt have done that to you" or "im really sorry can we start from scratch" she ignores me. but when i start an actual conversation with her she starts talking with me... anyways i kept asking her out and i asked her to marry me (as a joke i guess) and she was like "im not marrying you. EVER." i kept on being persistent and showed her how much i cared about her and i guess she gave in and she said we'll get lunch when she gets back (even though she says she extremely busy). Anyways, Do you ladies think she's just trying to get back at me for rejecting her or does she still like me?

2006-12-10 23:46:16 · 6 answers · asked by waterbottle09090 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a couple of friends who cut their gums and claim that the feeling of bleeding gum is similar to orgasm, or they tend to brush their gums really hard in order to make them bleed. Sounds weird, doesn't it!! I would like to find out if someone heard about sth similar?

2006-12-10 23:44:08 · 6 answers · asked by desajuno 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Personal opinions wanted

2006-12-10 23:43:51 · 9 answers · asked by Morningdew 3 in Family

because you might have wronged them, or been rude to them (when in reality, you were just shy)

2006-12-10 23:42:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ive been broken up with my x for 3months now i miss her so much and i know im still in love with her but i want to move on im kinda seeing someone but im afaid to let her in or am i just seeing her to try to get over my x im not sure any advice would help thanx

2006-12-10 23:41:23 · 9 answers · asked by devildog_3025 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I will be married 6 years this coming April. We have had custody of his 2 sons for 4 years now. The older son who is 15 listen great, is doing good in school and is a pleasure to be around. Satin's seed on the other hand is a nightmare, he lies, he sneaks around the house, he steals from us and from his classmates in school, he has been arrested, and hurts the family pets. He is do to go back in front of a judge the 14th of this month and since he won't listen to us and do what he is told they are going to place him in states custody until he's 18 years old.

2006-12-10 23:40:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i really like this guy but ive heard that he likes the chase. he has been chasing me for ages. we have only kissed eachother.

After we have got together, he doesnt seem to chase me. i always seem to be chasing him. then, after a few weeks has passed, after ive given up on chasing him, hes back chasing me again!

Whats going on?
Is it best not to chase him at all and let him do the chasing?
Why stop chasing me for a while after we have met up and then start chasig me again?

2006-12-10 23:40:21 · 9 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Singles & Dating

in the morning i wake up with a hard on so i play with my self on till i come the onlly touble is i have nothing to wip it up with

2006-12-10 23:39:51 · 15 answers · asked by christopherfarrow3 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Many girls these days are shallow, they go for looks and dont get to know the not so goodlooking guys..what if that guy had a good heart,personality,funny, treated you how you wanted to be treated..but you wouldnt know that because you never give them a chance because of their looks..

2006-12-10 23:39:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating