You see I got married in 03 my Husband have 4 boys I have 1.The problem is when we got married his oldest son came with us alone with his gf.Got married in Vagas.THe night of the wedding on the way out on the town while driving the son said put that cig out it's bothing us .You see his Dad and Mon smoked all his 30 yrs now its a big deal.3 yrs later it's bothering me like it was Today.I dont really care for his Gf at all and he's on my bad side also.I've discussed this with my Brother thats a Spirtual preist He said let it go .I cant I feel he was disrespecful This was my wedding day.He calls us everyday.My husband is very laid back.He tells me oh he did'nt mean anything by that.I feel he was showing out for his Gf.Now I cant stand that witch.This has put a bad taste in my mouth!Where do people get off like this.His Son knew about us from day 1.They thought Dad was going to hit it and go back to Mom did'nt happen.What can you say it's a major set back.I'm taking it out on the S&GF.Help
2006-12-10 23:58:56 · 8 answers · asked by lorraine B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do they live with you guys? if they do, tell them is time to get their own place shitt and if the smoke bothers them then smoke away specially if they are in the car with you.. and when he express that the smoke bothers them you simply say well you know what could help this?? for you and your girl to find a place to live and a vehicle to ride because in my shitt I WILL SMOKE!! CONFRONT THEM DO NOT SWALLOW YOUR FEELING IT WILL GIVE YOU AN ULCER.... its your house and you do what you want..let them know you do not feel comfortable having them tell you in your own house and car what to do. and they will get the point.. believe me. when you do this you will feel better,and what happend three years ago you will forget the reason why is bothering you so much is because you didn't say anything about it then you didn't blow off steam,and your husband if he loves you he will be ok with u expressing your feeling or simply he can tell his son ohhh she is ok she is just trying to show off for me is all.. LOL GOOD LUCK.. MY ADIVICE LET THEM HAVE IT.SPEAK UP!!
2006-12-11 00:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother was right. You are creating all your own problems by being too judgmental and not letting things go. Keep your expectations of everyone low and noone will disappoint you.
It is rather odd that your husband brought his children along on his honeymoon, but being that he did, and that you accepted this, then it really shouldn't be an issue.
If they really did want Dad to go back to mum, perhaps you should understand how they feel, and assure them that a new mother is only going to be an added extra, not a problem. Maybe his girlfriend is only reacting to you when she can feel you think she is a 'witch'. Try a little kindness to both his son and his girlfriend and you may find things turnaround.
2006-12-11 08:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the son is under 18 there is some responsibility there
but there is no responsibility for the GF
tell them to get out and live their own life
2006-12-11 08:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooooooooooo...son and g/f are a pain in the a**...deal with it. Is your entire beef that he asked you to put out a butt?...I don't get it, you sound like there is something else wrong...it can't be about that...try to take some time and figuire out what the real issue is. good luck.
2006-12-11 08:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are overeacting over a cigarette! Seriously read your question and you will see that you are getting upset over something that happened years ago and its silly. I know u r smarter than that but if it still bothering u today talk to him maybe maybe it didnt mean anything or maybe there was something behind it
2006-12-11 08:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing. how old are you again. you have no idea how hateful and unforging you sound asking that question.
so many people (myself included) have dealt with huge issues in a split family and get over it. we dont have that long to live onn this earth so why make most of those years full of fights.
LET IT GO!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 08:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by Steven Colbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...get over yourself......you really need to get a life if this is still bothering you 3 years later.....grow up...
2006-12-11 08:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bro is right, let it go...You dwelling on this is only making you mad, don't let them get to you like this...
2006-12-11 08:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋