I was going out with someone recently who was big into blood tests to prove fidelity ..didnt work out ..he contacted me to say he was ill with a disease Herpes and said I gave it to him I know I didnt but I wondered if he had it maybe he gave it to me ..so I got tested ..I am fine now ..3 months down the road he says it was a lie so I would get a test to prove I had nothing ...I dont know what is the truth ...and he wonders why I am mad at him...he says he did it so I would prove I love him by getting a test done ..is he mad ...what do I need to do ..he needs help
2006-12-10 23:51:00 · 13 answers · asked by pineforestkim 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you all for confirming what I already knew ...it is going to be so tough to fine a best answer here ..you have all said what I have felt inside
2006-12-11 00:15:04 · update #1
If he can't be truthful with you from the start then dump his butt. If he truly loved you , he wouldn't play immature games with you and lie to you. Most mature people will just say "I'm really worried about all the diseases out there, would you mind getting tested so I can feel more comfortable in our relationship. Of course I'll get tested too." Since he has a problem with honesty you need to get rid of him now before something bad happens. Find someone that won't play silly games!
2006-12-10 23:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by party_pam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a new boyfriend. Telling you he had herpes to make you take a blood test was very low. If he can't trust you, you have no relationship. Now you know you can't trust him, so I would move on. He seems a bit carried away with the blood test proves infidelity. I'm not sure how, just because someone cheats doesn't necessarily mean they will catch a STD. It's possible, yes, but not automatic. The fact he thinks you took the test out of love is also warped. If some guy I slept with ever told me he had herpes, you better damn well believe I'm getting a blood test to see if I have it, but it has nothing to do with my love for him, it has to do with my love for myself. This guy seems like he's going to be nothing but trouble. Find someone else to date that doesn't play little kid games with adult issues.
2006-12-11 00:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's everyone's responsibility to get tested regularly. If you sleep with someone then theres' always a possibility of disease. However his methods are ridiculous and you don't need that kind of behaviour in your life. I find it disgusting that he accused you of giving him an std, that's the lowest insult. I don't know if talking to him will do any good. The point is that you don't want a person like that in your life, what if he tells other people that you gave him an std? Your reputation would be ruined. My advice is stay away.
2006-12-10 23:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Diet_smartie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be mad at him, coz what he did was uncalled for.if he wanted to prove that you love him then why didnt he approach you as a real man and ask you to test. you'll never check someone if he/she loves you by doing that. even me if someone does that i would be angry. wasting all your energy going there to check if your are diagnosed, that's trauma if he said he had the disease. just think about the trauma, every night thinking that "what if you are". the truth is that " HE DIDN'T TRUST IF YOU LOVE HIM OR COULD CHEAT ON HIM"
2006-12-11 01:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by silvergolfaustralia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is strange, he must not love you because he "lied" instead of just asking you to take the test. Has he ever showed you any papers proving he was lying about having herpes. It doesn't even matter stay mad at him, and change your number!
2006-12-11 00:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a person and you should make up your own mind, about taking a test or not, you should kick his lying @ss to the curb, he does not deserve you. I'm sorry to hear that thát happened, but you must pick yourself now, he is not worth your trust. And the next time he wants you to do something for him, he will lie again and he will think, you believe him.
YOU are important, not that 3 time LOSER.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 23:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds alittle warped. Lying about having any disease is NOT funny. If he thinks THAT was a good idea, you don't know how low he's willing to go to FORCE you to do something. Walk away from this loser.
2006-12-11 00:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
You don't need to test the ones you love.
2006-12-10 23:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by freaky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trully love the person you dont need to prove anything and do something like that.
2006-12-11 00:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by labs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he lied then he's a jerk and if he is trying to cover up the truth then he's a sick bastard. Move on.
2006-12-11 00:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋