My boyfriend has told my little sister that he has £3,000 stashed away in his bank account.
I only found out about this today when I spoke to my Mum. He lied and his explanation is that (and I quote) "This is how I test people..."
For reasons unknown to me, he has a problem with my little sister.
Obviously, there is more to the story than this, but I need to let off some steam about a few things that are bothering me about him and our relationship in general...
1) We've been together for nearly a year and he still hasn't told his family about me. When I pull him up about this he says he daren't tell his Mum in particular about me because she has hold of about £1,500 of his money and that she won't give it to him if she knows about me. He's 31 years old, I think I should add. Shouldn't I be more important than this £1,500?
2) He begs me to come back to his flat whenever I try to stay away for the night and when I do come back, he spends most of his time texting people...
2006-12-10 23:50:11 · 11 answers · asked by celestinerocks85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
...and ignoring me. (I even came back early on my Mum's birthday eve to be with him)
3) A lot of his conversation seems to be about his bitter feelings towards his ex-fiancee because they got into a domestic which ended their relationship and she has full custody of their 2 year old son.
4) He lied to me a few months back by telling me that his family knew about me.
Sorry for rambling, but I feel stupid for putting him above my family on numerous occassions and am seriously considering ending it with him. Any advice?
2006-12-10 23:53:01 · update #1
he sounds like a right fool - at 31 he shouldnt be under his mothers influence and what is she doing with his money anyway??
If I were you I would give him a level of ground rules that he adheres to if he wants to be with you - and that includes telling his family about you - he sounds mentally challenged at 31!
If he refuses - then Id go and find yourself a REAL man.
good luck! xx
2006-12-11 00:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really weird.
Making up stupid stories about how much (or rather how little) money he has stashed away, or held by his mummy, makes him sound really young. When I read how old he is, I was shocked.
Sounds like you aren't happy with him at all. I wouldn't hesitate in leaving him as soon as possible.
If he's 31 and only has £3000 in his bank account, (which may not even be true !) then get out as soon as you can and find someone who can support you properly !
2006-12-11 07:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by savs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. Sounds like he has some big issues to deal with. Lying and not involving you in the bigger picture as far as his family is concerned is a big no no. What on earth has any amount of money got to do with his family knowing about you. I would think long and hard before continuing in this dishonest relationship. Break away while you can!!
2006-12-11 07:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by deebradley2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That makes no sense. He has no business "testing" your family when he wont even introduce you to his. For being 31 years old and still being scared of 'mommy" is really lame. It could always be worse. But it definitely doesn't sound good. And I would flip out if somebody decided they needed to put my sister to the test. She did the right thing by telling you anyhow, blood is thicker then water. In my opinion you art not over reacting. Give him your worst, send him crying to mommy.
2006-12-11 07:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good does it? I would have a big problem with him not telling his family about me, whats with that? why does he feel the need to test your sister? and he's lied about telling his parents! Give him the boot! and move on, he seems to be hiding too much.
2006-12-11 08:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Celestine,
Please find someone else to kiss under the mistletoe. You'll never be able to believe him - whether he's 31 or 18 he acts like a baby.
2006-12-11 08:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Isabelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All sounds a bit odd to me. I'd dump him. 31 and he's still controlled by his mum? Sorry but that's not normal.
2006-12-11 07:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
advice?? since he cares more about money then he does you i suggest you end it. if he's sounds bitter over his ex then chances are he isnt fully over her. 1500 is worth not being honest and upfront about you? its ultimatum time. but make sure you mean it or it will just go on and on.
2006-12-11 08:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not surprised this annoys you, it would drive me mad, talk to him and tell him what you want him to do, give him a month or so to do it and if he wont then get rid of him
2006-12-11 08:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its an odd case here, either he lies to you or his a mamakias (in my language means he is controlled by his mammy). Either the one or the other, trust me you shouldn't be involved with him.
2006-12-11 08:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by maran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋