what should i do and is it ok?

Question

ive been broken up with my x for 3months now i miss her so much and i know im still in love with her but i want to move on im kinda seeing someone but im afaid to let her in or am i just seeing her to try to get over my x im not sure any advice would help thanx

Answer 1

i've been through a very similar experience so i probably know alot about how u feel and u have my sympathy....it depends alot on how u were dumped and how long u were with her....sometimes when guys are dumped, especially by their first gf, it can mentally scar them forever unless they treat themselves. on the other hand, guys can usually forget all about it and get a new gf, it depends. u might have developed this case where u are always sub-concsiously afraid to go out with other girls and be confused with why u were dumped.....alot of guys ponder over if its their attitude or looks or something and it totaly changes their self esteem. its most likely u want a new gf for alot of reasons, maybe to get over ur ex, maybe to prove to urself that u can get another gf. i'm only listing possibilities since u didnt provide alot of details, but one thing u should do is DROP HER. (ur ex) dont try to be good friends because shes so awesome and u still want her or watever, she'll think it's pathetic. just be polite if she approaches you and thats it. seeing another girl will definetley help though....good luck

Answer 2

this sounds painful. anyways, u are obviously not over your ex yet. not sure if u r seeing this new lady to get over your ex or the fact that u like her and she is good company. whatever the reason is, you are not ready to have a serious relationship or make promises to this new lady other than just dating her. until u sort out your feelings for your ex.

u said u want to move on. this will take time. to heal, to get ready. in the meantime, be honest to yourself, and not try to heal on the expense of anothers' suffering (which the new lady might be if u and her have different objective or understanding re your current state of relationship).

all the best!

Answer 3

Strangers can not tell you how you feel. You are the only one that really knows what is going on in your mind.

If you have reservations, as you obviously do, then you need to take a step back ans sort out your feelings. If you are seeing someone on the rebound there will be nothing good to come out of it. You need to be honest with yourself and not drag someone else in on a situation that is incomplete. Does not seem fair to the other person, does it?

Answer 4

You need to find someone to talk to about your real feelings for this ex of yours. If it's a guy friend, a colleague, or anyone else you just need to tell them about your feelings for this girl and soon you will realize that there is no reason to still like her and therefore move on!

Answer 5

Hard to say. What happened? You need to give a bit more detail. People breakup for many different reasons. Sometimes it's good to move on, other times it's worth talking about.

Answer 6

First you have to wait until you know exactly what do you want because you can be hurt more than you are.
Go travel somewhere for some time and relax, you need time to start again and to forget someone. It is true that time heals so you need time...

Answer 7

if you still loe your ex then maybe you dont need to move on, mauybe you need to try and work things out with her. If you still love her dont see other girls, its not fair to them when you still love your ex and it'll make it harder for you to ort your feelings out. I suggest you stop seeing this girl, take some time alone to sort ot your feelings then if you still miss and love your ex, get in touch and try to work on your relationship.good luck xx

Answer 8

i have been with the same woman for 26 years. so think about it real good.what u do today. u will sleep with 2 night. good luck.

Answer 9

we dont know why you broke up.