2006-12-10 23:58:42 · 13 answers · asked by baseballdottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
An 8 and 5 year old will know what death is...You can tell them there dad is no longer with us...Trying to explain he committed suicide, may be a little to much for them. If they ask later when they are older then you can explain that part...Let them grieve for there fathers life now, don't keep that part a secret....
2006-12-11 00:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly encourage you to wait until after May 21, 2011. I am absolutely certain that you will be fine. If you are christian than you know that the bible teaches that noone knows the day or the hour that judgement day will come. It also warns you of people who try to convince you otherwise: Matt. 24:4 4Jesus answered: “Watch out that no one deceives you. 5 For many will come in my name, claiming, ‘I am the Messiah,’ Matt 24:36 “But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son,[f] but only the Father. I am an atheist but I took time to answer this question because I am furious that someone would scare a 13 year old child with this crap.
2016-05-23 04:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have read some of the answers and i have to agree. you should not tell them. however rumors will start as they get older. mean kids will bring it up and until then i would not address it.
but when it does come time stress the fact that it is the cowards way out!!!! but also tell them that he saw no other option.
i attended a conference on suicide and if i can find the book i would be happy to copy some pages for you if your interested?
one of my best friends had their father wait until they walked through the door before he committed suicide so unfortunately they saw it:(
2006-12-12 01:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is someting that is very hard to deal with as an adult further more for a child. I think that you shouldn't tell them just yet to make it even harder on them that their father died. I think that you should wait till they are at an appropriate age to tell them abou the incident where their father is concerned. I know that you might think that they have a right to know but you should wait. 8 and 5 is not the right time to change a child's view of their father's image. When you are at this age your father is super man and your only hero. They have already loosed part of him don't make them loose their image of their father.
2006-12-11 00:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get those boys into some counseling. And quick. And I do not think you need to be completely honest with the fact that their father committed suicide. They are too young to handle or understand what that means. Just tell them their father is dead, he died. God bless****
2006-12-11 00:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get the help of a counsellor and have some family counselling and find out when and at what age it is best to tell them of the circumstances of their fathers death....dont go this alone it would be mentally draining enough on you as it is.Best of luck for you and your sons futures, may life bring you joy .
2006-12-11 00:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
way way to young
YOU DO NOT TELL THEM ! !
he is just not here, PERIOD..let it go for along time..
then when they are of a good age ( whats a good age ? ?) when they are much more older nearing maybe late teen years or even older..
hey it is fine to just say he is gone, and your not sure where he is..isn't that the TRUTH..he IS gone, and your not sure where he is..did God let him in or send him down..your not sure, and that's what you tell them..until they are old...it is a simple thing, you do not want o mess them up any more than they may be by him not being there...there is plenty of time in their lives for this, and it is not for another 15-20 years away
OK
please do not say it to them
2006-12-11 04:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by david s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't!!! Not until they are in high school or old enough to understand excatly what the situation was. They are just at the age to really understand death, so you don't want to send them into an overload.
2006-12-11 00:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your 5 yr old is too young to understand...let them understand first that there was a problem about their dad and so on...your 8yr old may understand it, explain how it happened and never take it as an example.
2006-12-11 00:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Luisa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless they ask, don't tell them: the eight year old should understand his father is dead
2006-12-11 00:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋