Almost every night my girlfriend calls her ex and talks to him for long periods of time, and she wants to spend time with him. I have a problem with it and so does her family. She does not seem to care that it bothers me or her family. I have told her before that I do not like her hanging out with this guy because he tells her that he loves her and wishes he was still with her. Me and my girl are pretty serious at least that is what I thought, we bought a promise ring with the intent that when we get the money we would buy a wedding ring. Now I dont know, I told her that I did not want her hanging out with this guy because he has severe anger issues and he tryes to get her to leave me, and bad mouths me all the time, she told me the more I told her no the more it pushed her away from me. I vented my frustrations to her and said some things about him that was just talk but she told him and he then confronted me and said he wanted to kick my ***. what sould i do?
2006-12-14 16:10:12 · 14 answers · asked by sprayman590 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She doesn't like you enough for you to take any more trouble with her. Break up with her! You deserve better. Tell her to go back to her chump and leave you the hell alone. Good night!
2006-12-14 16:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, it's all up to her. She can't have both of you. I was the exact same way a few months ago. I finally made a decision and I'm trying my best to stick with it. I kept in contact with my ex because I feared commitment, and I tried to keep him close " Just in case" my new relationship didn't work out. But, I finally got past that. So that could possibly be her problem as well..
2006-12-14 16:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to me closely, because I have been where you are. You must stop this relationship. This young lady could care less about your feelings. When you vent to aperson you love and tell them that something they are doing is bothering you, and they don't try and change, that is a clear sign that they don't give a damn about you. Please don't stay with her. She is obviously running over you, because she feels she can.You need to let her know that it is over. YOU WILL GET YOUR HEART BROKEN IF YOU STAY! I GURANTEE THIS 100%. However you do not need a woman who is in love with another man. If she wants to talk to him so bad... tell her to go back to him and leave you the hell alone. She will find out that the grass was not greener on the other side. When she tries to come back to you.. do not let her. She wants her cake and you too. Do not be a fool. She is trying to use you. She wants to use you for her personal benefits, and then leave you for him when she gets ready.
2006-12-14 16:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one you shouldnt take your anger out on her. fighting gets you no where. you'll just fight some more. take her to lunch or just sit down and have a talk with her. in a relationship your suppose to work together and respect your partners wishes. You dont go out disrespecting them. also if theres no trust what do you got? So just sit down have a talk with her and if she doesnt care or doesnt want to listen then maybe you should jus call things off dont get yourself hurt
2006-12-14 16:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Shelbalina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take back your promise ring...I have a few male friends but if they knew I was promised or had an engagement ring...they would jump ship in a New York minute...
2006-12-14 16:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
i think that my current boifriend might feel the same way, i mean well secretly i still like my ex soo maybe she still likes him but she is happy with you also and doesn't want to hurt you and it's really not easy to choose between your past present and what or who you want in your future. Good luck boi w/b k
sighned toughlove
2006-12-14 16:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by toughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes girls talk to their ex's because they are more like friends. Tell her to make a decision if she wants you or him. Its as simple as that. You cannot have three in a relationship
2006-12-14 16:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HER RIGHT NOW, no Im not kidding she has no respect for you. Would she allow you to behave the same way? Bottom line is she keeps him around as a back up... As a woman I would NEVER allow anyone to threaten my boyfriend expecially one of my ex's
2006-12-14 16:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason may be out of the following:
1) sweet memories of the past
2) his fortune and wealth
3) your ineffeciency to handle to the best of her satisfaction
What you should do ? your another question ...
Matured minds always feel freedom.
2006-12-14 16:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they were once a big part of her life and they are part of what has made her who she is today! give her a chance! she may have a valid reason! they know her better than anyone else! now it is up to you to surpass them that is all! you can do it!
2006-12-14 16:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋