Aren't disobedient wives the reason for the high divorce rate in our country?

Question

Today's women are totally out of line...they think they can be their own person in marriage...well that isn't how it is supposed to work...its about two becoming one and the husband is the head and she needs to follow and submit. I am almost certain that if wives were atleast 80 percent more submissive than they are now, we would have maybe a 5 % divorce rate. Am I right here?

Answer 1

It's the men that are out of control and being disrespectful. If more men were obedient to their wives, there wouldn't be as high a divorce rate.

Answer 2

The reason is because men are not sole providers anymore. Now a days women make just as much money and support the hosue hold just as much as the men do if not more. So what respect does a women need to give someone she is equal to? Equal by the right that she has to work, care for the children, cook the food, pay the bills, shop, take kids to school and home etc. Sounds like superwoman to me.
In my home my husband works a full time job and so do I.
I clean, cook, work and he does the exact same thing. Why should I revere him for doing what I do?
I look up to him and respect his opinions, how hard he works and etc. But he respects me also. Why should I be submissive?

I dint think you are right here, because the men would be more respected in a relationship if they brought something extra. But they dint. That's the fact. Men need to know how to raise children, clean, cook work etc. Because I feel that if If women are contributing as much as men are, then it is not about being the head of the house anymore. Cause they both share the responsibility's.
So in conclusion, if men want to be the dominating figure in the home then they need to make sure that they do their manly duty and support the home, buy a house, have a car, provide all of the essentials in the marriage, then they would have a reason to be head of the home, like back in the day. But that will never happin. Cause men WANT women to share the finantial burdons as well as the monitary ones. So it was actually the men who made it this way, lol. Kinda funny hua.

Answer 3

Honey,are you from another place and time period? Yes marriage is about becoming one and not the one who trys to tell the wife she can't be herself in the marraige. Just because the couple has a marriage lisense doen't mean the man has the right to tell his wife what to do,when to go ,what to eat and so on. This is a partnership not a master buying a slave.,he does not OWN her. No one owns anyone. Why would the wife be made to not be herself in the marriage,Hell if I had to constanly do what my husband wanted and had to live like that I would rather be dead. This is 2006 not 1956. We have rights just as you do and I am thankful for it. I just wonder just how long a man would put up with that if he had to listen to the wife all the time and do what she said and what she wanted -- it wouldn't last a week. And if the woman is supposed to submit THE man is too do the same,remember AS ONE.

Answer 4

Hahahaha, oh that's funny. The idea that women need to submit to their husband's it's absolutely ridiculous and came out of some guys twisted mind and probably because his mother beat him as a child. Did your mother beat you as a child? I know you're thinking it came from "the bible", but in reality if you continue to read that passage, husbands are to submit to their wives as well not that 'the bible' is much of an authority on the present or the 'supposed tos'. It's a good historical text though, helps us understand where we came from in western society, but even your bible says that marriage is about equal partnership (two or more becoming a functional 'family' unit) not dominance and submission.

I think the high divorce rate has more to do with the fact that marriage is no longer a need in our society. Yes, part of it has to do with equal rights between the sexes, but even before that movement there was a general need that we as humans have for ourselves and our own contentment. It's individuality. Marrying for love is very different than what people used to marry for. Before, people married almost like a business deal. Now, we don't need that. Now, we marry for love and human love for eachother is imperfect, but needed. While commitment, on the other hand, is a good want, but it's not necessary for our survival anymore.

Answer 5

I don't think so Jason. This isn't Colonial times here, woman ARE there own person. They have lives and contribute to society in so many ways. I think the high divorce rate is, in some degree, due to all of us....men and woman having soooo many choices and distractions to deal with. In most cases these days it takes 2 paychecks to support a family. A woman not only has a career to juggle but a husband etc. For me...I'd take what we got any day of the week. I just love the emancipated woman of the now .

Answer 6

Just ask that lady who blew away her domineering Pastor husband in like Georgia or wherever last year. Being totally dominant does not work. Submission and doing whatever he says out of fear is no way to go through life. Wives do important things even if they dont work outside the home. Yes, they can be pains in the ***, but they do a lot of the behind the scenes stuff. It should be a healty relationship of "equals", at least she has to think that, but IMO, yes, the husband should be the more of a boss, especially if he is the sole worker. If she makes more scratch, thenshe should be the general. How can you say the woman cant be her own person? You need to find some dumb rube from some rural ancient indian tribe or something if you want total submission, not the way it works (ask my wife)

Answer 7

I have to disagree with you, although I am sure that couples have gotten divorced because of what you speak of, I think the major culprit behind the divorce rate would have to be either money or infidelity. I don't think however that woman need to be more obedient, after all obedience is what you use when you are referring to a dog. To make a marriage work you need to be mature, reasonable, and display a level of selflessness that many people simply do not have. I blame that on Hollywood and making people believe in the fairy tale, love at first sight BS. Personally I believe that love and marriage take time and effort.

Answer 8

My theory is since the divorce rate is now at 80%. I am certain that women now are starting to realize the dont need to marry to live a full life. Or dont need to marry to have a child. But I also believe that if women stopped getting married altogether. We would soon find ourselves being held as sexual slaves by all the men who thought up the idea of marriage in the first place to have sex when they want and to have a mommy to take care of them.....

Answer 9

Simply put, yes, Jason you are right. I am an intelligent, well-raised woman who lived the independent "strong" woman life, not by choice but because the choices I made created that life. I was a single mother and I loved it. I was the head of my household and I loved it. Above all, I was and still am a bible believing person. So, according to the bible, yes, women are FOUND by good men and when entering into marriage we are told to submit to our husbands. Our husbands are supposed to love us as Christ loves the church and "gave His life for it." When you are truly loved THAT way, submission is a PLEASURE. If people read and believed the bible, they could more easily marry the correct person and stay married through a lot of good and really crappy times. The bible also says to submit to one another, so while the wife OBEYS and submits, the husband is also influenced by his wife. So many people SAY THE VOWS, honor and obey and then scoff when they are expected to do what they themselves said they would do. My marriage will last because I am obedient to God first, then my husband. I willingly submit to my man because he is the ONE God created for me, and beyond many marriage proposals, I only said yes to the one I could follow. High five, Jason.

Answer 10

Ok, your taking that wives submitting to their husbands out of the Bible and your taking it WAY out of context. A marriage is a partnership, and it's NOT always women who are to blame for divorce, actually it's more because of men, especially men who only think of themselves or think of themselves before their wives. Instead of putting thier wife and her feelings and needs before his own.

Also another reason that the divorce rate is so high is that our society says that if problems come up, just divorce instead of trying to work them out.