Family & Relationships - 14 December 2006

My husband and I have been married for almost 6 yrs. we have 2 childre, and we meet in HIgh School. My husband moved out of his home state away from all family and friends to marry me and raise a family. He has a history of drinking until the eve hours of the morning... not all the time but maybe 4-6 times a year. 2 days ago, I woke up in the middle of the night and decided to look into his inbox on his cell phone. There I found text mess. from a girl that read I want to like you all over your body. When I questioned him he said she jokes around with everyone like that.. its just what she does. He claims to never pay any attention to her and usually ignores her. She is a coworker, and he states he never even read the message, which he didnt because it was new. Also last wk he was out of town, and I went through the history of all calls made and there I found a call to her cell phone number made at 1:30 am on the night he was out of town. He cant remember calling her, now what do I do?

2006-12-14 15:25:34 · 18 answers · asked by Mystic Bell 3 in Marriage & Divorce

im like crazy over my best friend she knows i care bout her more then any other guy but shes afraid of a relationship between us becuz she thinks our friendship will be different and we wont talk as much i dont understand it but she says she likes me as a friend and nothin more but she doesnt wanna hurt my feelings goin out wit this guy ik im not sure why she wont give me a chance and idk if i shud ask all ik is i really like this girl and need 2 know wut 2 do

2006-12-14 15:25:18 · 13 answers · asked by guy 1 in Singles & Dating

We argue, we dont have sex. He's lazy and he expects me to do all the house work and taking care of our son even though i ALSO work full time and go to school part time. I can't take it anymore! He's driving me nuts and the one and only thing i ask him to do is to take out the damn garbage and he still can't even do that! I'm so pissed that I just got out of work and now i have to clean the ENTIRE house again, because it was trashed when i got home. ANY help, words of encouragement or advice would be GREATLY appreciated!

2006-12-14 15:23:22 · 10 answers · asked by ~Mom2A&G~+1 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok I am 22, 118ibs, tall(5'6) and long but smallish medium frame even though only large clothes can fit me because I am so wide. I am skinny with a pot belly.

My mom said I am obese and shouldn't gain more weight. Uh I thought obese is FAT?? I'm nowhere near fat lol! The reason she said that is cuz I said I'd like to reach up to 125 and stay there.

People tease me that I'm skinny and I'll blow away jokes lol I think they're cute! So what you think is wrong with my mom? lol

am I really obese?

2006-12-14 15:23:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I got in a fight with my bf earlier today and I think i gave him the idea that he is not a good enough bf. i felt horrible once i realized he thought this because he is a great bf and i love him to death. i feel like i really hurt him and wish there was something i could do to REALLY reassure him that he's great. I apologized to him and tried to reassure but i wish there was other things i could do. Does anybody know something or anything really that i could do to further reassure him of this fact? (plz no stupid answers telling me i should already know what to do or anything...)

2006-12-14 15:20:47 · 15 answers · asked by Bethany 2 in Singles & Dating

when you cross them or disrespect them?

2006-12-14 15:20:32 · 7 answers · asked by jacko p 1 in Singles & Dating

what is the greatest age diff. that , that you would find unerstandable, amoung high school students ages 14-19

2006-12-14 15:20:16 · 17 answers · asked by Allen C 1 in Singles & Dating

Please help me??? My friend who I met on here, well, now he wants to take it slow a bit. I am confused. He tell me he loves me,wants me and will come over to meet me and my son,yet he has been hurt so have I. Just wondering if He has already given up on us because of the distance between us.

We met on yahoo answeres. I shared everything with him and I feel he is bailing out on me.

Any advice as what he his thinking now. I wonder if he didn't like one of my questions or answers.

Please serious answers. Thanks.

2006-12-14 15:19:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi,

I exchanged cellphone numbers with this nice girl that i met at the mall. We had a great conversation. She's spanish, so i mentioned a resturaunt that has excellant spanish food and live spanish music. She said to call her and that maybe we can go there. So i call her the next day, early in the afternoon around 2:00pm and get the dreaded ring, ring, ring, ring into voice mail. Didn't think much of it, and left a nice message for her to call me back. I even left my phone number, even though i gave it to her yesterday. It has been five days now and no call back. Should i call her, or text her. I'm not big on texting, so i don't even know what kind of message to text her. If you have some thoughts on this that would great.

2006-12-14 15:19:16 · 21 answers · asked by Johnny 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 15:19:11 · 7 answers · asked by _Got2LuvMe4Me_ 1 in Family

Do you think exhibiting jealousy on an occaisional basis is healthy? Does this mean that someone loves you so much they are afraid of losing you or is it only a reflection of their own self esteem issues? Why do people say that exhibiting jealousy is ususally done by cheaters? Any thoughts on this?

2006-12-14 15:18:56 · 10 answers · asked by chcknbizkit 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriends parents are pentecostal (?) and say they love everyone but they are quite rude to me because my boyfriend and i live together before marriage (even though we are 25 and 30 years old). Also his Mum had him out of wedlock so i dont see how she can be harsh on us. We both have very good jobs, own our own home and car and are kind, loving people. I guess my question is " Arent all Christians supposed to love and except all?"

2006-12-14 15:18:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

One of my friends told my other friend that i like her and i didnt know bout it. Shw found out yesterday and today she acted normally wit me. She hanged out wit me and she even flirted and was very nice to me. Wat does it mean? IS she tryin to just be nice or......... I just found out that she knew. Im in GRADE 12 SHES IN GRADE 11. Sorry i made a mistake earlier.

2006-12-14 15:17:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

do you men,when walking down the street,turn around and check out the womens butt,and also do you women do the same thing to us guys?

2006-12-14 15:15:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am feeling really lonely coz my family lives 5 hours away, and we live in a pretty rural area, and not having a liscence I dont really get to see my friends unless he drives me. The baby is due in 3 months and I know that after that I wont be able to leave without packing a million things, I asked him to take me out to our friends house tonight coz i am feeling lonely and he said no he was too tired, but then 5 minutes later told me that he was going to another friends house, that i dont get along with. So I am stuck here by myself. I tried telliong him why I was upset, but he told me I was whinging and left. How do I talk to him about it when he wont listen

2006-12-14 15:13:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im 18, engaged and very happy. I have my class B CDL, working in the construction field making really good money(1000 take home a week); to show I can support her. I have the nice car and the things I wanted, use to be a Certified Nurse Assistant(soon to be a radiologist, here in 3 years). I have accomplished so many things for being my age.

I'm not the type of dude to go out and party and get "laid" with all the girls i can get my hands on. I'm laid back. I want a family after 3-4 yrs of marrage. So...the love and commitment is there. I can also be supportive for her materially.

I want to marry the love of my life, travel and want to enjoy my youth with her. Many support us.

In my opinion..people give up to early in their marriage. I know marrage isnt all honky dory at times..but its rewarding. My fiance and I wont ever give up. I know it also...I cant and i wont live without her...is that all that matters????

2006-12-14 15:13:14 · 56 answers · asked by Michael and Samantha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

cute(pretty)(handsome) / hot

which ?
say why if you wish.
tks

2006-12-14 15:12:24 · 18 answers · asked by Nick723 3 in Singles & Dating

I was in a long relationship for 6 years. Things between us started falling apart 1 year prior. He ended up moving and we tried to continue the relationship, but with no sucess. we remain friends, but it is hard. I thought that our love was stronger then this and boy was I wrong. How do you move on and find love or happiness again?

2006-12-14 15:12:23 · 10 answers · asked by shay 2 in Singles & Dating

I liked this guy that i knew for 6 years and found him once again but he just ignores me and doesn't seem like that he is exicited to see me again. and i made me feel so stupid that i never let go of him all these years what do i do

2006-12-14 15:11:16 · 7 answers · asked by mylene t 2 in Singles & Dating

i wonder if there is any women out there that like older men, or is that just a fantasy from the movies???

2006-12-14 15:11:14 · 9 answers · asked by Traynor 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been married for 4 months but have not yet changed my last name. what exactly do I have to do? where do I even start? Confused

2006-12-14 15:10:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mother in law is always trying to tell us what to do.Her latest scheme is she thinks I should stop working for my wifes brother because he is just now getting his business started and she thinks he can't afford to pay me.I hate control and that's exactly what this is!What can I do?

2006-12-14 15:10:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We finally met in person after talking on the phone for several months.

We made out in my car on our first "date". He told me that I am hot, but it sounded like he was hesitatiing to say it.

Also, he said in a joking manner - you're so beautiful - (laugh, laugh)

Also, he never complimented me on anything except, "nice boots". Yes, nice boots was my compliment - not "nice outfit", "you look nice", "you have pretty eyes." - nothing.

I even told him that he was very handsome and reminded me of Tom Cruise - he didn't return any compliments.

Arrrgh. I just can't tell if he's attracted to me - especially when he jokes about me being "hot" after a long makeout (am I hot, or my kisses, you know?)....and then hesitates when he calls me beautiful - and then laughs.

How does a grown man show someone that he is attracted to her?

2006-12-14 15:10:30 · 7 answers · asked by sephia 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-14 15:10:10 · 9 answers · asked by loveistheanswer 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My financee is in Iraq, working with a Army sub-contractor. He asked me to join him in Germany on his R&R. I told him I couldn't just landed this great job, but to have fun. He lied and met up with a girl he was sending flowers to in Australia. I found out this is the second time, he lied about his R&R and seen her. I know he was sending flowers, but they never said I LOVE YOU, like all my flowers that he sent. I know this for a fact because I investigated the floral recorders. When I caught him in his lies, he cried and said he'd do whatever it would take to build my trust and he loved me. I love him, but am very hurt. Intially I called off the engagement. I have been faithful to him and had several guys hitting on me. He comes back in March. Can he ever be trusted? Should I go ahead and go through the pain now and end it? Help

2006-12-14 15:09:59 · 10 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Singles & Dating

We have a 19 year old former foster daughter who has chosen to return to our home to live after a turmultuous couple of years away from us. She has a former live-in boyfriend that she is still involved with. He isn't the kind of person we would chose for her although until recently we thought he was a fairly nice guy, although without a doubt a "loser". She agrees he's not a great prize but feels like she "owes" him for his past support and doesn't want to "give up " on him. Now we find out he often gets drunk and becomes mean. If we tell her we don't want to support their relationship by welcoming him into our home, she may feel we are making unfair judgements. If we continue to allow him to come to dinner and visit, we feel like we are supporting their relationship. How do we handle this?

2006-12-14 15:09:57 · 9 answers · asked by wolfmusic 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok. I'm 18 and a senior in high school. She's a senior as well so thats where it starts. We don't know each other. We see each other once every few days in the school's farthest parking lot. She is really shy. She doesn't start conversations (I've noticed) While waiting for a ride every so often at school, she'll walk by really slow, look around (she waits for a ride too) and she'll linger for a little bit and then wait somewhere else. I notice she'll smile at me when I'm on my phone and she's walking away. I want to ask her out but I have no knowledge about her; other than she's shy, keeps to herself. I don't want to scare her away but I'd like to start something with her. I can tell she's a great person. Does anybody know any good conversation starters for two complete strangers??? [keep in mind, she's really shy and I'm a little =) ] If things go well, does anybody know any places for a first "ice breaker" date with a shy girl? Enough to get my point across but not too strong. thnx

2006-12-14 15:08:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my bf and I are together for 2 months..he loves me so much and he is being so serious with me,,he introduced mt to his parents and older brother and he was like, guys this is the girl that i want to marry! he's been asking me when can he meet my parents to talk to them about it..I am so happy coz i love him alot..
anyways, lately he's been asking me not to do this and that and when i do them he gets really angry then i ask him why didnt u tell me why i shouldnt be doing this and that he says i shouldnt know why i just have to obey!! like what i have done today! i went to his brother and gave him a small gift coz he graduated with a master degree..my bf asked me not to bring his bro anythin but his brother was helpoing me alot lately to make things work between my bf and me whenever we fight!! it hought it would be a nice thing to do!! and his mum loves me so much she keeps talkn about me all the time which made him nervous! he said am rushin things and am acting as if i was his wife!!

2006-12-14 15:08:03 · 12 answers · asked by rosa 1 in Singles & Dating

My ex and I have two little girls..a 2 yr old and a 10 mth old. When I was pg with my 1st, he broke up with me only to ask me to get backup together before the baby was born b/c he wanted to be a family. Didn't last long. I found out he cheated on me 4 months after we got back together. After we broke up I found out I was pg again. During this pg my daughter and I had nowhere to go so I had to live with him. This killed my spirit completely b/c the whole time all he did was sleep with lots of different women. I begged him one morning not to go to another woman's house and lay up with her and to stay with me and our daughter but he didn't care and went on.

I've since moved to another state and my ex gets the girls every other month but everytime I see him that pain in my heart returns. I think and dream about how he hurt me all the time. I know that any man who would treat a woman this way is a coward and must have emotional issues.

How do I finally get over this hurt for good?

2006-12-14 15:07:58 · 9 answers · asked by LuvMyGirls 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

What is happening to me, this is sudden and really terrible thing for me to feel?
lately ive been this other person, i used to enjoy hanging out with a bunch of people and really felt one with them,i even called them my friends, but because of certain power grabbing, competition about leadership, i no longer want to be with them or hang out even,
i also begin to be rude with my brother and sister, i feel no love coming from them, i cant even express gratitude anymore
i am beginning to not care about my family or anyone not even the ones i used to like, not even my crushes, i totally am staying away from people i know right now, is it normal to feel so much hatred and i usually just want to be on my own and not care for anyone right now,
i hope i get out of this mood or this mind set, it could really destroy me, i am being such a selfish person here, i claim that i am a friend just so i could use people for my own gain, im becoming a narcissistic individual
what could you possibly tell me, so that i would care for people around me again..im becoming a fake

2006-12-14 15:07:33 · 18 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Friends