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My boyfriends parents are pentecostal (?) and say they love everyone but they are quite rude to me because my boyfriend and i live together before marriage (even though we are 25 and 30 years old). Also his Mum had him out of wedlock so i dont see how she can be harsh on us. We both have very good jobs, own our own home and car and are kind, loving people. I guess my question is " Arent all Christians supposed to love and except all?"

2006-12-14 15:18:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Nope. The general rule is supposed to be, `Love the sinner and hate the sin.``

Did your in-laws convert AFTER they got pregnant?
Maybe they just feel guilty, haven`t dealt with it, and feel somehow responsible for what they feel is a failure on the part of your boyfriends. If this is the case then thay are really angry with themselves and don`t know how to deal with it.

If the harshness is JUST because you are living together, but they keep a relationship with you, remember that in their value system what you are doing is wrong. You may not buy it but there CAN be honest and loving disagreement.

Christians are supposed to be people both of love AND standards. Usually we fall too much on one side or the other. Why not ask them to explain whay they feel the way they do so you can understand them better. Do you have to? No. Will it make life easier and open future communication? Probably. This makes it worth it in my book.

2006-12-14 15:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by ethicsprof 3 · 0 0

Pentecostal people tend to be very narrow minded people depending on the church they go to.

It is scriptual that christians are ment to love everyone just as jesus has loved them. It is also scriptual that christians are not to judge others less they be judged. Unfortunately it is human nature to judge others in reference to yourself and it is not just christians that do this.

However saying that it is also unfortunate that a lot of pentecostal people are very narrow minded in the way they believe they are the only people on this earth that know the truth about God. If it wasnt for the fact that they freely share the information that they learn they would be a cult.

There is also a scripture in the bible that says to not to sit down with people that are continually living in sin. This does not mean sit down in the litural sense but not to accept what they do to the fact that you also do that. The problem with this is there is a fine line between not accepting what someone does and not accepting the people that do it. A lot of church goers misread or misunderstand this for banish that person from your life and continue to look at them with disgust. I find this dissapointing because they have missed the point totally.

Because of their beliefs and their passion for what they believe they probably find it hard to accept things that go against what they passionately believe. I am not saying they are right and I believe it. I am just speaking from their point of view.

I agree that they should at least be a little more open minded to what your boyfriend has chosen to do and accept the person he has chosen. And if he is like me I am sure he will stick by you and love you no matter what the parents think. He will not let them come between the two of you because he loves you. If this is the case I wouldn't worry about it too much. Let them have their oppinions and judgemental views and just remember. "What other people think about me is none of my business" & "each to their own"

2006-12-14 15:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by TRTH-HNTR 2 · 0 0

Actually, there is the word "actually"... actually, many people that rate themselves religious always find reasons why they "actually" heir rules, but they make exceptions. It's much easier to ask others to do so.

Don't think of them as a moral institution. They are hypocrites.

2006-12-14 15:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-09-03 15:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by peentu 4 · 0 0

THERE SUPPOSE TO LOVE AND EXCEPT ALL, BUT SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE THERE CHRISTIANS WHEN REALLY IN FACT THERE NOT AT ALL THEY WANT TO HIDE BEHIDE THE CHURCH. I HAVE A FEW PEOPLE I NO WHO DO THE SAME THING.

2006-12-14 15:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by cecilia a 1 · 0 0

psh. What else is new, that religion has been the most hypocritical and narrow minded from the start. They are anything but accepting, just accept THAT.

2006-12-14 15:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 0 0

just stay away from them, that's what I did with my in laws, you are in love with their son ,not them and the only one you need to put up with as long as you want is your boyfriend not his family.
good luck

2006-12-16 01:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by neganelly 2 · 0 0

Its just personal hypocrisy. Thats how some of my familly is.

2006-12-14 15:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah T 2 · 0 0

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