i no whomy dad is but he cant stand me how do i tell him how i feel and i been cuting my slef to how do i stop

Answer 1

dude, i'v had that proble, ppl would ay see a phychologist but it depends on you

Answer 2

You gotta get professional help for the cutting. That's number one, and you have to be willing to go on to the next person if the first one doesn't help you with it. As far as your daddy goes, you might not want to even mention the cutting to him if you don't have a good relationship and you obviously don't. That help has to come from someone who likes you or is paid by someone, the school or insurance, or whoever to help you. Or both. Re your father, he may have had such a bad relationship with your mother that you won't be able to have a decent relationship with him until you're older and more of a competant person in your own right. If that's the case, then telling him that you want to know him better and that what's between the two of you is just that might help, but it won't fix everything. Good luck and hang tough. It'll get better.

Answer 3

You have to realize that it is not your fault that your Dad doesn't want to be around you. I would not be surprised if he doesn't know you. I know people in the exact same situation. He may not see you as the person you are, but as something from his past.

You can't take it out on yourself. Take a piece of paper out privately and write all the good things about yourself, and the things you enjoy and all the people you care deeply for (little cousins, certain bands). Focus on these things. Give your Dad time. Focus on the fact that there are other people that love you very much.

There are people out in the world right now, that you don't know, that will one day love you and think the world of you because you are you. Hang in there.

Answer 4

You know something? You need to understand something first and for most... if your father cannot stand you, as you say, then it is HIS loss, not yours. I mean, do you really need a father who doesn't want anything to do with you? It is hard to see now, but please understand, there is only one thing you can do... you can simply talk to him and tell him that you love him. If you don't get a response of love back to you, than give it up. You will do better without someone who doesn't want your love anyway.

Now about the cutting. Sometimes people will cut themself, because they feel like they have no control over a situation... you see, it looks this way in this case as well. Listen to me when I tell you that you DO really have control over it. What you can control is yourself... and you have to before it is too late. You do not deserve the abuse you are doing to yourself, (and this is EXACTLY what you are doing.) What you do deserve is a happy life without the worry of whether or not your father wants something to do with you. To be very honest with you, hun, there are MANY people who have grown up just fine without a father... another thing you don't deserve is the mental abuse he is giving you by acting the way he is.

I can give you something else to try instead of cutting yourself... if your talk with him doesn't go well then please know that he is not planning to change his mind. Your negative behavior will not ever make him change his mind... the cutting yourself will only make him be able to rationalize his choice to not have any love for you. What you have to do is turn yourself around and put all your anger into being positive. Do everything in your power to make yourself someone that anyone could love.

I am going to give you a great place to start... make something, and go down to a local nursing home. Ask the nurses what resident has no family who ever comes to visit, believe me there are MANY of them... ask them to help match you up with a very nice person. You would not believe how good it feels to know that there is someone out there who is WAITING and LOOKING FORWARD to your visits. You will learn something very important, you are not the only one, and you need to surround yourself with something that will not only make you happy, but it will also make another person very happy. You will also be very impressed to hear the stories they have to tell. I was never bored when I would go into one of these places.

For heavens sake, believe in yourself and give yourself a chance. You will also be very shocked to find out that you are a very wonderful person as well!

Hugs to you and I hope this helps you... if you ever need someone to talk to, email me, there is a link on my y answers profile. I am here...

Answer 5

I don't mean to sound Condescending but You need to talk to someone that has trained for this kind of situations like a councelor or a therapist. You might be in serious danger and trust me every life has a meaning, please don't waste your life over someone that doesn't want to listen. I know he is your dad and you want to be able to talk with him now but by finding a third person to act as a bridge you guys might be able to fix things and in time you will feel bettter. But PLEASE! talk to someone, don't put it off any longer, I would hate to see another life wasted when there is hope. One day you might be able to talk freely with your dad but if you take your life then there is no hope for a future.

Answer 6

okay, you can't do this on your own... you need some help.
do you have a mother? sister? aunt? school councilor? tell her what's going on in your life... you need to talk to someone who can get you proper help... also... google self cutting and read about it... it will help you understand why you are doing this and how to get help.

Answer 7

You need to open a new piece of bubble gum I cannot understand a damn word you say!!!