im like crazy over my best friend she knows i care bout her more then any other guy but shes afraid of a relationship between us becuz she thinks our friendship will be different and we wont talk as much i dont understand it but she says she likes me as a friend and nothin more but she doesnt wanna hurt my feelings goin out wit this guy ik im not sure why she wont give me a chance and idk if i shud ask all ik is i really like this girl and need 2 know wut 2 do
2006-12-14 15:25:18 · 13 answers · asked by guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gods I know that feeling... I've been passionately in love with my best friend in the past... and on occasion I've even gotten involved with her... and its always ended badly.
Tell her how you feel and talk about it if you really need to... as your best friend, she will hopefully understand. On your part, you need to accept how she feels as well. And from the sounds of it, for whatever reason (fear of ruining a great friendship, fear of a great romantic relationship... whatever), you need to be her friend and be supportive of what she feels, wants and needs.
I've seen some of my best female friends make some truly horrible relationship choices, when I was there desperately wanting to love her the way she deserved. Its incredibly painful... but you have to respect her choices, whilst encouraging her to aim higher in who she chooses to be intimate with.
Over time, and a lot of conversation (and heart ache for both of you), there is a chance that the two of you will be together romantically.
Its really hard, because there is so much fear of losing the good thing she has, in you as a best friend... but if you give it time, and are always there for her as a friend.... you may end up having a truly great relationship together.
Be patient, be a friend.
-dh
2006-12-14 15:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could give it sometime or just move on. I say this for twp reasons. She probably doesn't want to date you, because she's scared of losing your friendship, like you said, or because she's had some rough relationships. Either way, it's not so easy to just jump into someone's arms especially when you want things to go smooth. She may also not be that attracted to you, and I mean emotionally. Sometimes, girls as well as guys really do only like their opposite sex friend as a friend. Just give it time to see a change, if not, find someone else, make them a friend, and then make your move, and make sure they like you the same way. Good Luck!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-14 23:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres only one answer here. You've got to try & win her over gradually, dont push too hard or you'll intimidate her. Be extra nice and when you feel the time is right you should take her into confidence and express your feelings to her. At the same time dont be a snail or it will end up the "KAL HO NA HO" way minus the last 20 mins of the film.
2006-12-14 23:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by chris f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give her time. but just dont sit around and wait for her either if someone else comes along jump on it. but do NOT push her into a relationship with you that will only make her resent you
2006-12-14 23:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back and let her envolve on her own.
If she really wants to be with you on a higher level eventually, she will. At some point if that's what she wants, she won't be able to ignore it. Don't push her.
2006-12-14 23:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Friends With Benefits Just Mess Around with her thats what I did (0_0)
2006-12-14 23:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by DAMER 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friendship will be totally different if this relationship ends... I know from experience
2006-12-14 23:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by t5KayaGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not sexually attracted to you. you have a lot in common--that is why you are friends--but she simply does not share the same draw to you that you do to her. this is the true answer.
2006-12-14 23:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Hushyanoize 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask... it all means she doesnt like u and ur better off friends
2006-12-14 23:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chad Sexington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow and show her another side of you
be romantic but while your still friends
2006-12-14 23:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by godschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋