My financee is in Iraq, working with a Army sub-contractor. He asked me to join him in Germany on his R&R. I told him I couldn't just landed this great job, but to have fun. He lied and met up with a girl he was sending flowers to in Australia. I found out this is the second time, he lied about his R&R and seen her. I know he was sending flowers, but they never said I LOVE YOU, like all my flowers that he sent. I know this for a fact because I investigated the floral recorders. When I caught him in his lies, he cried and said he'd do whatever it would take to build my trust and he loved me. I love him, but am very hurt. Intially I called off the engagement. I have been faithful to him and had several guys hitting on me. He comes back in March. Can he ever be trusted? Should I go ahead and go through the pain now and end it? Help
2006-12-14 15:09:59 · 10 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NEVER! because you might be able to forgive him, but your trust has obviously been broken. You wouldn't know what you might put yourself through if you marry him, theres a good chance he'd lie to you AGAIN. Be sensible, marriage is a lifetime commitment. There needs to be an honest foundation. Sometimes you can't always listen to your heart, but whats logic. You should find somebody who is worthy of having you, and wants to make you happy.
2006-12-14 15:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by bu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he comes back and goes out with his friends will you worry? What is he comes home two hours later than he should have? Will you start thinking he's cheating? Then he'll come home and you'll fight. Nasty things will be said about each other's mama, etc.
I would pull the plug now.
2006-12-14 15:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it this way, if you marry this fool you will find nothing but hearache and sorrow. Move on with your life and forget this lying scum bag. He's lied like a dog to you before, what makes you think he isn't lying now?
2006-12-14 15:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard because hes stationed overseas....life isnt easy and im sure hes lonely....guilt keeps you trying and love of course, but he wakes up everday not knowing if its his last....maybe you should wait till march and sit down with him, the distance should be the conversation and im sure trusting him once your in a stable situation wont be a hard thing...under these circumstances its just not fair to you or him....so i would wait till march...not long,,,,sit with him and make a descion, if hes leaving again maybe you should end it if not...start all over again
2006-12-14 15:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay with him you should realize that their is a very high probability that he will have affairs, because he is having one now.
Also, he will know that you forgave him once, so if he gets caught again, you may forgive him again.
Just a thought. You have to make this decision.
2006-12-14 15:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it. you will never fully be able to trust him. you can live with the thought of what if hes cheating and not ever know the answer or you can find someone with who you dont have to worry about that
2006-12-14 15:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it, if he messing with another girl now he's going to keep doing it
2006-12-14 15:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it, now, i think you know you should or you wouldnt be asking.
2006-12-14 15:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by mickey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , you are too young, move on sweetie, find someone else...
2006-12-14 15:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by HappyGoLucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask...the answer is no.
2006-12-14 15:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by Edward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋