Family & Relationships - 6 December 2006

My wife and I have had a pretty tough relationship,been together 6 years and married 2,we've always fought thru the tough times and worked out our problems.Recently she has been paying alot of extra attention towards one of her male co workers,she says they are just friends and thats it,always telling me i have nothing to worry about.My suspicions continued to grow and today i couldn't get ahold of her after she got off work,she is always home after work,always.Instantly i had a sinking feeling in my stomach,so i left work and headed to the place i thought she'd be.Well i found exactly what i thought i would,her and her male co worker together ,supposedly "working".She claims she forgot her phone and thinks i have no reason to be upset,because they are just friends.

Am I paranoid????
Or stupid for not leaving?????

2006-12-06 16:08:28 · 16 answers · asked by Uncertain 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what do u do if your little brother threatens u but knowing he is bigger then u and know he can do damage to u but u love him so much.

2006-12-06 16:04:49 · 14 answers · asked by hclover21 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 16:04:19 · 40 answers · asked by sandeepa r 1 in Marriage & Divorce

There is this guy and he was Orientation assistant for college. Well, it always seemed like he singled me out...he always says my first and last name when he sees me. my friend says he looks at me when i am not looking and always talks to me when he sees me. On the last day of orientation, he sat down with me while I waited for my parents to pick me up and he told me a little bit about his family. I really thought he liked me, but maybe he felt obligated to make me feel comfortable....it seems to me that he likes a lot of attention from girls though. but sometimes, it just seems that he is interested in me....i don't know! HELP!

2006-12-06 16:04:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have known him since i was young i lost my virginity to him 4 years ago and he had 1 child at the time and cheated on the babys mom now he has a second child and is 1 month old. after 2 years of living in a diffrent town i move back & i thought i didnt love him but yet at times i hate seeing him.I have been seeing him for almost 5 months now and last week his babies mommy caught him coming out of my house?i tell him why he is w/her if there is no love & he says his babies r what keep him from leaving here.Eventually he plays it so well to seem like he cares about me he buys me all i want and spends a lot of time with me.i dont understand why he does so much for me and still can go with her and come back to me?what should i do?i am confused i dont know if he really feels something after 4 years of a past thing.Now he acts as he is my boyfriend and we pratically do everything together what should i do?he sti;ll is with that gurl and has babies from here?

2006-12-06 16:02:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my friend is always complaining cause of her life is so bad, she says its not the worst but it is pretty bad...she doesn't have alot of family where she lives.she does not talk to her grand parents cause they didn't call her for her birthday and where they were visiting it was expencive to call and she said so ur onley grandauther is a price just to call for 2 sec and say happy birthday her uncle seems not to like her or act like a uncle i noticed hes acting like a stanger who just says hello everyday..her mom yelles at her everyday for nothing or for stupid reasons.her parents are devorced her dad does not care and doesn't call her in a month so she can come over and spend time with him.she thinks shes very ugly and nothing is fair she hates school.and i would say myself there is alot of things wrong with her life and very f***** up, she always listens to that song runaway love by Ludacris and its sad to watch her now shes asking me if she should runaway....what should i say or do?

2006-12-06 16:02:16 · 11 answers · asked by WWE Diva~Cobra~ 2 in Friends

2006-12-06 16:02:08 · 8 answers · asked by JASNJ 2 in Family

I am very confused about how I feel and what it means.

My boyfriend communication style is to shutdown, and mine is to bare all and work it out. He does believe in working to communicate though. We have been dating for 6 months. My needs have not been met in the past and it was very painful and hard to communicate them. Things are on there way to getting better. I am trying to be patience. I enjoy spending time with him very much, but I feel lonely in this relationship. I am confused and scared.

I am lonely because I feel like I am waiting for him to met me head on. To meet me in how I feel for him. For him to reciprocate.

I do not believe I love him, because I am heavy hearted and sad. Love is suppose to feel good. He has not said he loves me, and I do not think he does.

As friends, before we dated, I respected his advice.

My two question are:
1) Why do I feel this way?
2) Should I ask his advice for how I feel? (in essence telling him)

2006-12-06 16:01:49 · 12 answers · asked by cloverpondering 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 16 and i really like this girl that is in one of my classes. The thing is that she also has a boyfriend, although it seems as if there is much going on in their relationship. I keep wondering if she likes me the way i like her but it's hard to tell because she keeps sending me mixed signals. One day we will be having a really good time together or have long text message conversations and the next day we seem like we are barely friends, like sometimes i'll be talking to her and someone else will walk up and she'll start talking to them and leaves me feeling like an idiot. I have a lot of trouble not thinking about her through out the day and even send her a meaningless message just so i can start a conversation with her. Can anyone help me figure out if i should tell her how i feel or if i should keep her as a friend because i don't want to mess that up, but i still can't stop thinking about her. If you think i should let her go, could you try and tell me how, Thanks.

2006-12-06 16:01:23 · 5 answers · asked by jason 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 15:59:51 · 22 answers · asked by Indievoter 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Obviously I realize everyone is looking for something different.....just doing some genreal research!

2006-12-06 15:59:17 · 16 answers · asked by Nastassja V 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 15:57:11 · 11 answers · asked by Rachel T. 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

What are the signs?

2006-12-06 15:56:10 · 12 answers · asked by charmed one 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 15:55:58 · 13 answers · asked by finest_man_in_fl 1 in Friends

As before married we never seen each others body naked open and after marriage when I saw mark of burning line (as when she was 8 year old her hand was burn because of boiling water and as she grow up that line became thiker and larger) on her hand it’s make me unhappy and I was in deep depression. As I did her plastic surgery but still it’s not recover so I am always with unsatisfied mind but I don’t want her to give divorces because she is beautiful and kind hearted but these thing always keeping me in depressed. I took depression treatment but still its heart me. My principle is sex satisfaction is the great thing for me others not much important that was the reason it’s heart me lot and make me depressed as because of that I am not able to keep her happy and she also some time getting in depressed. As we both good looking and intelligent and but not matured ,because of this thing our life really got screw up. We are in 50/50 for thing divorce but I and she not sure solution??

2006-12-06 15:55:36 · 14 answers · asked by vinvet4u 1 in Marriage & Divorce

You guys were great in aswering the first question.
My wife came home after being at her moms for 3 days this last weekend. We had to go to the bankrupcy court on Monday and the kids had to get to school. We drove together and I tried to talk what I thought was sensible conversation. The talk turned into memory lane where we both cried about our childrens stories. I told here that after 16 years of marriage there must be something that she could find in her heart to stay for. I have never touched her in anger and I have always been faithful. I know that the Bankrupcy thing is hard to deal with but she still does not want to talk. She gets online every night and chats with her "friends" I usually don't see her untill bedtime. If she hates me so bad then why is she still here? I have 3 possible ideas on the matter. 1.Christmas is around the corner and she does not want to spoil it for the kids.2 She is punishing me for all of the problems of the past then she will go.3. There's a chan

2006-12-06 15:55:04 · 8 answers · asked by mixedupmike 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok well me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months and as you all know christmas is coming up and I dont know what to get him.I asked him and all he said all he wants was me and that was really sweet of him but I want to get him something. So PLEASE give me some good ideas, no stupid comments either. THANX

2006-12-06 15:54:49 · 15 answers · asked by ~*mwah*~ 2 in Singles & Dating

I have tried to discuss it with her but she won't even talk. I ask her why and she just says she doesn;t want to. I've tried everything I know. If she won't talk and for sure won't have sex( been over a year) I am at my wits end. I need some good advice

2006-12-06 15:53:56 · 17 answers · asked by grandpawalton05 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I suddenly broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years because of commitment issues (mine). I immediately regretted it, and it took a week for me to get him back. However, during that time he had hooked up with another girl. Nothing like this had ever happened before, and after apologizing profusely he says it was because he thought his "life was over". He forgave me for breaking up with him, and I told him the truth about my own feelings (that I want to marry him and that fact scares me to death). However, I am still so angry about what he did, often times I think life is perfect, think about what happened for a second, and am in tears again, with mental images of him and another girl that make me ill. I always thought we had a story book romance but since he kissed someone else its been ruined. I still love him to death, I just don't know how to get past this. Please help, it's a terrible roller coaster of emotions I am on.

2006-12-06 15:53:34 · 10 answers · asked by anonymousplease 1 in Singles & Dating

Theres this girl i like and i asked her out but her boyfriend that i didn't know about had just broken up with her so she didn't want to go out with anyone. How long should i wate to ask her out again? (i'm sort of wanting answers from more girls then guys sence they'd probably know abou this a little more. guys can still answer though)

2006-12-06 15:53:12 · 7 answers · asked by Gone Soccer Crazy!!!! 2 in Singles & Dating

a friend of mine lost her vcard to this guy who claims he likes her and vice versa. Yet she says she can only see an physical attraction to him..i asked her to tell me one thing besides sex and she couldn't even do that..She says she knows there is umthn in here deep down in her heart that she can offer him..wut should i advise her?

2006-12-06 15:52:50 · 11 answers · asked by ace30815 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 15:51:57 · 21 answers · asked by Mary Jane 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-06 15:51:51 · 7 answers · asked by ken_wang 1 in Singles & Dating

They have a 5 year old son.My twin is stubborn,not too bright,totally under the influence of her abusive husband,who himself didn't and still doesn't have a normal caring relationship with his (now the alchoholics) parents or his older brother,who is total oposite from my sister's husband. My brother in law is possesive,controling,mean,has no boundaries for himself.He bounded me from their home(I still go to see my nephew;I was bound by him when he was in one of his"I'm drunk,don't care about anything,don't argue with me,everybody is stupid")episodes.My sister is passive,stayed with him after numerous beatings.He's not a good father.Their son is not getting the "right"attention.Little boy is lost,lacks discipline,doesn't obey,doesn't have much self confidence(already!)and there are other things happening with little boy. There was an incident,where my brother in law tried to hit my sister while she was driving(with their son in the car). An accident almost happend. My sister stayed

2006-12-06 15:51:48 · 7 answers · asked by daina 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She's the only meaning of my life. I feel so hurted, so lonely, so cold...

2006-12-06 15:50:24 · 19 answers · asked by AlvaDaGansta 4 in Singles & Dating

Why did my best guy friend use me for sex... now he won't speak to me. What should I do?

2006-12-06 15:49:22 · 5 answers · asked by L♥G 5 in Singles & Dating

It's been 5 months since the breakup with my ex was finalized (with him being a jerk and breaking my heart all over again)... and I just can't help feeling like I should have someone else in my life by now. much better looking, much better human being... and I am SO far from that. Doesn't it seem like people can just jump in and out of relationships so easily? I'm sure he's had several already these past months... I really think there must be something seriously wrong with me(?). I just never meet guys in my city (especially any that I would be interested in) and I'm always by myself...

2006-12-06 15:47:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What should i do? When we go out, he pays for my meals. He kisses/hugs me and calls me sweety/honey/baby. But when i asked him what is his role in this relationship. He doesn't want to have committment even as a boyfriend because he is with a work permit and it is going to expiry in April. But he pointed out that he wants to apply for immigration to canada (where i live). However, since he doesn't have a job now, he has to delay his immigration and may even lose it. He said he is confused now and he found that it is stressful to have committment. He just wants to stay with me cus he likes me and i like him. But it kinda hurts me and slow me down too.

So, do you think i should wait for him? Or are these excuses?(the situation he is in now is absoletely true) What kind of support does he need now? What should i tell him (other than everything will be OK, just wait and see) even as a friend?

2006-12-06 15:47:01 · 11 answers · asked by polinatora 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-06 15:46:40 · 24 answers · asked by metalstefl 3 in Singles & Dating

It started when i was assigned to sit next to him in math. he tapped me in the back and asked me a math question. from then on we slowly started getting to know each other.

its weird because id never imagine knowing him like this. We hung out a couple of times, i invited him to come with my friends and he brought a friend.. those times were fun

he asked me to go to the movies once but i was busy

i wonder if he would ask agian?

he still sits next to me .. but now a days all we talk about is classwork and math.
he asks me to go to tutoring with him at lunch but i know that the tutoring doesnt help him much.
he asks me how to do problems he knows i dont know how to do as well..
whats going on? he tries to make other conversation.. but seems like we have nothing to talk about because we never discuss things after we hang out..
its all good when we hang out we talk but after that those days ischool are ackward.
hes friends wit a lot of girls and im only a frd 2?

2006-12-06 15:45:59 · 4 answers · asked by sam3345 1 in Singles & Dating