2006-12-06 15:59:51 · 22 answers · asked by Indievoter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes when it happened to me i wanted to smack her good, but than i thought about it, and realiazed it could not have happened had he not allowed it to. if it hadn't been that one it would have been someone else, because it was in his thoughts, in his heart, so he is really the one u need to be upset with. she may have initiated it, but his lack of self control and intregedy caused it to happen, maybe we think we know our mates, we think we know everything there is to know, but in reality how well do we really know anyone. he is the one we didn't know, there was something within him we failed to see. he is the one who caused it more than her.in trying to get revenge on them, it will just hurt u more. revenge is to have them see u as a self confident person, one who respects herself, and one who would not stoop that low to do that. why dignify what they did to u?
2006-12-07 04:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she should be punished. If she knew your husband was married. I have been through this crap and I know how you feel. I would never give my husband up to a whoring slut. Fight for him for all your worth and when it is her time she'll get hers. Give me her address and I'll do it for you!!! My son in-law or X son in law now left his wife my beautiful daughter and grand baby for a whore she knew that they were working on there marriage many times over 3 years but would not get here nose out of it. My daughter is left heart broken. But had to move on with her life. She now finds it hard to trust anyone. Now the slut wants to meet his daughter. She has a lot of girls out for her so my advise to any girl out there that sleeps with a married man is that it might be fun with him but the after fall with his wife will not be pretty. I know that people and the the psychologists say that you have to forget and forgive and you will feel better. Well we are not able to do that and frankly seeing her/them pay for it good will be the best medicine of all.
Hope I helped you.
2006-12-06 16:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by crazynuns 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
10 to 1 its your husband who initiated the affair. You probably want to punish her because, otherwise, you would have to take your anger out on your husband (if you haven't done so by now). If you don't think he's done this before, please go to counseling. It can work wonders. And good luck to you. It must be very difficult for you and I hope you can get through this with some good support from friends.
2006-12-06 16:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, do you mean women (plural) or just one woman?
Whatever...I guess you want her to suffer because she (and he, by the way) caused you pain.
But she may already (or they, if it was more than one) feel badly, who knows?
It is understandable, but take the higher road and try to focus on your husband. He's the one you should be worrying about. Will he do it again? Did she force him? Of course not. So, he holds some responsibility for the affair, too, wouldn't you say?
If you want to work things out w/him, then don't waste your time/energy thinking of ways to make her miserable. Just try to repair the relationship w/your husband, if that's what you want.
Good luck and happy holidays!!
2006-12-06 16:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i like being spanked for the time of intercourse, yet not plenty as a punishment. you're able to ask your significant other and notice what she'd like, once you're thinking of an actually spanking consultation. stable luck!
2016-12-11 03:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by minissale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HaHa, I was just in this situation, a female asked my husband to move in with so yea of course he did, free **** ya know. so she said all this bad stuff about me, i got in her face on her yard, and she said you better get out of here or i am going to call the police i said go ahead do it i dont care. and then a couple of days, hubby came a couple of days, he just never went back to her house, and never talked to her again, after he came home, she called repeatively and wouldnt leave us alone, we had to change our cell numbers. I told her if she called 1 more time, i would come to her house, and kick her ***.
2006-12-06 16:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You feel that way because she is the one wh slept with him. However you have to consider if she even knew about you. Some men dont even tell the "other woman" about their wife when they want something (sex) out of them. So you have to find out first if she even knew that you were even in the picture but first you need to punish him and kick his a*s for even doing something like that especially if yall were still having sex because he could have bought you something back and then you go to her and kick her a*s thats if she already knew about you. Best Wishes
2006-12-06 16:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
normal reaction...they stepped on your turf..what ya need to do is turn it to your husband...the other women may not even known you exsisted, because most wouldnt have done it if they did.. but if they did know he was married well lets hope they get syphallus and there uterues fall out
2006-12-06 16:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is absolutely normal ! did not want to punish the woman who had an affauir with my husband. I wanted to kill her or get a gun for hire. The devil comes out of you when you are angry.
2006-12-06 16:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you feel compelled to punish your husband, too? Because unless she tied him to her bumper like a hunting trophy, he was a willing participant.
2006-12-06 16:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋