My wife and I have had a pretty tough relationship,been together 6 years and married 2,we've always fought thru the tough times and worked out our problems.Recently she has been paying alot of extra attention towards one of her male co workers,she says they are just friends and thats it,always telling me i have nothing to worry about.My suspicions continued to grow and today i couldn't get ahold of her after she got off work,she is always home after work,always.Instantly i had a sinking feeling in my stomach,so i left work and headed to the place i thought she'd be.Well i found exactly what i thought i would,her and her male co worker together ,supposedly "working".She claims she forgot her phone and thinks i have no reason to be upset,because they are just friends.
Am I paranoid????
Or stupid for not leaving?????
2006-12-06 16:08:28 · 16 answers · asked by Uncertain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's always had male friends,that's why i'm so hesitant to walk.I've known her since juinor high,she's always had guy friends always.It's just the way she is being so secretive about being around this one that has me wondering.
2006-12-06 16:16:55 · update #1
well...if you trust her then, dont be upset, that doesn't help because your a guy and your always going to be jealous. its just nature.
if you really do think she may be cheating on you, or that they are spending to much time together then ask her if she can talk to him LESS, and not hang out with him, just talk at work or something you know?
2006-12-06 16:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by ThisSongsForYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no sense letting your imagination getting out of control. Even if she is fooling around there is nothing you could do about it and you getting upset isn't going to change it. Until you know for sure that something is going on I would tell you to quit worrying about it and start going out by yourself or with some buddies and tell her that you are tired of being home alone. Tell her that you love her and married her not her job and that too much overtime will not help your relationship.
2006-12-07 00:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am sorry for what you're going through. I don't know your wife and I therefore do not want to make any wrong assumptions. Sadly through personal experience I have learned to trust your gut. You KNOW deep down whats going on....whatever THAT may be. Even if it doesn't sound appealing try approaching your wife and see her reaction. You'll know then and there what the truth is.
2006-12-07 00:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by ←Shea→ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy this is going to drive you crazy.Trying to catch a suspected cheating mate is exhausting. Tell her once that you are uncomfortable with this one (don't fight about it) and you want her to nix the overtime with him. Then leave her to either hang herself or prove herself. If she really loved you she would care about your feelings. I don't think it is time to walk yet... but I wouldn't start having kids anytime soon.
2006-12-07 00:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you may be a little paranoid unless something else has happened in the past thats making you suspicious of her. i wouldnt like it either if my husband were hanging around some woman all the time. and honestly. this same thing happened to me with my first husband. i never followed him or anything. but later i ended up getting subpoenaed to her and her husbands divorce hearing where he thought our spouses were fooling around too. i think you should follow your instinct, its usually right
2006-12-07 00:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can almost always follow you instincts.
Your not stupid or paranoid. You have to have trust in a marriage or it won't work.
Talk to her and tell her your concerns don't fight just talk openly & honestly.
2006-12-07 00:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by daydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound too immature to be married.
Go to counseling!
She's being, at least borderline, inappropriate and you are being stupid and paranoid, going out to look for her & trying to "catch her".
You need to stop this "cat and mouse" game. You are only insulting each other by your behavior.
2006-12-07 00:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WAKE UP MAN any time a woman stress the point there nothing to worry about start whirring remember it's all friendly until they get caught up then it your fault for not being there.
don't allow another dawg steal your bone.
good luck
2006-12-07 00:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by TBONE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
use you head man. You arent paranoid...find a nice girl "friend at a bar and start hanging out with her and see what the old lady thinks.. dude its over. clear out the bank account before she does get a lawyer before she does and do it QUIETLY and put the ******* nails in her coffin before she can blinkand do it while shes "just friends" with the scumfack male co worker..CMON DO IT FOR US GUYS WHO HAVE GOTTEN KILLED BEFORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-07 00:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no shes cheating. i used the same line when i cheated on my husband
2006-12-07 00:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋