It's been 5 months since the breakup with my ex was finalized (with him being a jerk and breaking my heart all over again)... and I just can't help feeling like I should have someone else in my life by now. much better looking, much better human being... and I am SO far from that. Doesn't it seem like people can just jump in and out of relationships so easily? I'm sure he's had several already these past months... I really think there must be something seriously wrong with me(?). I just never meet guys in my city (especially any that I would be interested in) and I'm always by myself...
2006-12-06 15:47:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe the right person hasn't showed up yet. Have you been going out to where people are, so the opportunity to meet people might present itself?
Hang in there. Get out there someplace and smile that gorgeous smile of yours at someone tomorrow.
2006-12-06 15:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel sorry for yourself and enjoy your life now-with or w/o a BF. You may want to get a transitiion guy now just to be even with your ex but if is going to be unfair to this new guy then leaving things as it is would be better.
Think that life w/o him is a lot better! CELEBRATE!Do that when you wake up,sing when your in the shower,have fun in everything that you do and don't remind yourself of your past life with him. Don't imagine the fun you had on the beach or how romantic he was!is is just that A MEMORY! IT IS FINALIZED! so -dump your dreams of getting him back and move on coz if you don't you will have more heartaches and it is bad for your health. Worse he will think that you are a loser.
Women after a bad relationship becomes lazy-hair all messed up,dresses up sloppily,eats plenty!-it is all part of depression and it is easy to overcome. Think that you will never be able to get a new guy if you are a mess. Shape up and start life anew. Be sexy! Go out! Announce to the whole world that you are free and ready for the taking :)
I am a guy and if I see a phoenix coming out of the ashes victoriously then I get turned-on. So in your situation-you are the winner!!. Now don't get him back even if he begs you.
Tell him you already have me-better looking,more humane, and more importantly richer!!LOL! He spends his time in Yahoo Answers and wait for the bank to send him interests. LOL
5 months? What a loser! He is a jerk ! SO?
Don't wallow in sadness!Enjoy your life! You deserve it!
2006-12-06 16:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in counseling after my divorce, I was told that jumping right back into a relationship is the worst thing one can do. Statistically speaking, counselors say you should wait one year for every five years you were married before you start seriously dating again. My four and a half years are over and I can see now that I wasn't ready to start dating again. Give it time, I know everyone says that, but I know it's true from having gone through it myself.
2006-12-06 16:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more sensitive and human you are the longer it will take before you are ready. If he's well on his way by now, that's a pretty good sign of how shallow he is, isn't it? Take your time and work on YOU. When you have confidence in yourself you will be practically irrestable to others. You will find the right one, just wait long enough that you will do the choosing, don't just take the first one to come along. Be choosy.
2006-12-06 15:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people can rip off the bandaid and be with the next joe whatever in the next 5 min. other take some time to mend the wounds of a broken heart. there's no like datebook that says you should be dating again in 2.3 hours ect.. I'd take my time and let love just find you.
like I always say loves likes you surprize you, like being run over by a huge truck.
2006-12-06 15:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Chickengoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all pamper yourself get a new hairdo, do something that makes you happy, the guys are out there but you're just not looking and stop beating yourself up over your ex, he is over and done with..move on!! Once you're ready then guys will be crowding through your front door !!
2006-12-06 15:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by ginger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you want. Dont be with people just cuz your lonely, that is how the worst mistakes are always made, when the time feels right you'll know it and when that right person comes along, you will want to move on and you will be glad you waited.
2006-12-07 05:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by mikeyswifeyof4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. you need to have time to yourself; you don't need a man to feel complete
2. If you don't feel compelled to date; don't, it's perfectly normal.
3. If your alone become a foster parent for dogs or cats at least you'll be busy.
4. Pick up strange men in a bar and just sleep with them and never call them back it always helps me.
2006-12-06 15:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Leslie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just seems like people are doing it easily. I thought that too once. When your ready it will happen for you. don't rush anything your going to regret just because you think you should be with someone. Good Luck
2006-12-06 15:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going out with friends first, maybe you will meet someone while you are out. You should be dating by now, maybe not in a serious relationship, but dating.
2006-12-06 15:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋