2006-12-06 15:51:57 · 21 answers · asked by Mary Jane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 41 and still have issues. My dad and mom divorced when I was 5 or 6 It took me til I was...... Well, I'm still having issues with it. My dad died when I was 30 actually 1 day before my 30th and we never got to discuss anything I needed to talk to him about. I'm now currently divorced because I still don't and didn't trust. I'm in something now but still not sure. We both have issues.
2006-12-06 15:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum childrens DO go through long term section effects from divorce - some for his or her finished lives- yet some locate it much less complicated to get previous or a minimum of cover extremely some the consequences of this occasion. Counseling - for individuals and toddlers - can help. If the father and mom can get previous their very own emotional reactions and cope with one yet another in a nicely mannered way which could additionally help. For some childrens, divorce could be a extra suitable selection than residing with the consistent combating that may take place whilst father and mom might desire to divorce yet do no longer. a extra suitable concern is for the father and mom to get help whilst they first comprehend they have a topic so as that they are able to cut back the undesirable section effects for each individual in contact. Divorce is gruesome no be counted what you do - possibly the terrific concern is for human beings to think of and plan extra intently previously they marry and have little ones. an oz. of preventions, inspite of each thing,is well worth extra effective than a pound of treatment.
2016-10-14 04:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your situation. My parents got a divorce when I was 5 years old......Then got back together and remarried when I was 11, then they divorced again when i was 14. It was the happiest day of my life when they split up....Both times......Only because my Dad was an alcoholic and very abusive to my Mom. He was a great Dad to us kids. I was so relieved when we didn't have to live like that anymore. I am 37 years old now. No I don't have any long term effects............Good luck. You have to weigh out your circumstances.
2006-12-06 16:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's saying, "yes?" That's stupid. If the parents are happier after the divorce, that's what matters. A child needs happy parents. My parents divorced when I was 13. Best day of my life. They were miserable together. Also, my father only moved a few blocks away, so we saw him a lot. Yeah, it's like someone else said - don't bad mouth each other. And make sure the kids have a lot of love and access to both parents.
2006-12-06 15:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think there are but there are effects from staying in a bad unhappy marriage you just need to weigh the difference & do what is best with your children.
Never ever bad mouth each other in front of the children no matter what the circumstances are.
2006-12-06 16:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by daydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on certain factors. communication is the key. tell ur kids u both love them very much and that the divorce had nothing to do with them. just that the love for one another isnt there anymore. it has an effect on children when the parents drag them in the middle of everything, no communication with them, no love, no support, these things can have a great impact on them.
2006-12-06 15:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. They are not good. However if the intact family is extremely dis functional the negative effects of staying together might be worse than the effects of divorce. There are research studies about this situation, which might be helpful for you to read.
2006-12-06 15:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! I am a divorced mother and have custody of my son. He was 3 when we left the abusive situation and at first he had lots of promises of going to see his dad and his dad told him he would do things for that he never did.....like buy him his first bike.....take him to a monster truck show and so forth. They are devastated and as they get older (he's 11 now) the effects start to really show up. He cried a lot when he was younger but now its full on hate as his dad has not tried to make contact with him for years now. So yes and no matter which you are the partner with custody or not..........please please remember that you child will need lots of love and attention. They need to know it had nothing to with them and no matter what both will love the child forever.
2006-12-06 16:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by akafinewine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! no matter what you do, you cannot avoid the effects, why are you planning to have a divorce? please don't do it, it may be ok for both of you parents after few months but for us your children it will never be gone! and everytime we see others like us it hurts us even more! why would you do it anyway?
2006-12-06 16:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't fight all the time or hate each other's guts.
My parents got divorced when I was about 11 or 12. I still hate it, it gets me depressed, because they hate each other. They don't talk to each other, and they hardly ever show up at my birthday at the same time because they don't want to see each other. It's hard, just don't do that.
I'm 17, almost 18, and I really can't stand it.
I don't even want to get started about CHRISTMAS TIME!
2006-12-06 15:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by ?Johanna Loves Superman? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋