I am 16 and i really like this girl that is in one of my classes. The thing is that she also has a boyfriend, although it seems as if there is much going on in their relationship. I keep wondering if she likes me the way i like her but it's hard to tell because she keeps sending me mixed signals. One day we will be having a really good time together or have long text message conversations and the next day we seem like we are barely friends, like sometimes i'll be talking to her and someone else will walk up and she'll start talking to them and leaves me feeling like an idiot. I have a lot of trouble not thinking about her through out the day and even send her a meaningless message just so i can start a conversation with her. Can anyone help me figure out if i should tell her how i feel or if i should keep her as a friend because i don't want to mess that up, but i still can't stop thinking about her. If you think i should let her go, could you try and tell me how, Thanks.
2006-12-06 16:01:23 · 5 answers · asked by jason 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also have another question involving this girl. In my school, a lot of people know me as a guy who is really nice to everyone and is just a good guy all around. I was talking to this girl about this and how people think of me and what she thought about it and she said that nice guys are really rare and i shouldn't change. But it seems as if now a days the nice guy really does finish last because even though she told me that she doesn't seem to act like its a good thing to be a nice guy. What im wondering why is it that being a nice guy isnt always a good thing? Also i have always been there for this girl and helped her through tough times so why doesn't she ever see me as more than friends, its really messing with my head! Please help if you can! Thanks.
2006-12-06 18:05:03 · update #1
this is a tough one, especially because she is already in a relationship. if she were single, i would say definitely tell her because as a girl there is nothing i respect more than a guy who has enough guts to say he likes you. since she is in a relationship, you might want to slip in a friendly how is your bf doing into a convo. you should be able to judge by her answer how things are going. i would be apprehensive about telling her if things are going good, because that would just make a big mess for everyone.
as far as getting over her if she doesn't like you, it definitely feels like a huge blow to your ego when someone doesnt feel the same way about you. chances are, its just your chemistry together not a truly rude feeling.
hope that helps!
2006-12-06 16:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by carbonatedcolor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, getting involved with someone who is in a relationship is a bad idea. The girl you like, though she is sending you mixed signals, it doesn't sound like she is serious about it. The fact that she ignores you sometimes makes me think that while you guys are really close and you have some sort of chemistry going, some part of her doesn't want anyone to know about her closeness to you. Possibly because it will upset her current boyfriend and possibly because she may not think you are cool enough. I mean that as no insult to you, because I was in a similar situation with a guy once. I realised that he was so insecure (and immature) in social settings that he displayed really childish behavior. Chances are that is what she is feeling, and either way, you dont want someone like that as your girlfriend! If she is flirting with you while she has a boyfriend, it is likely that she will flirt with other guys. I really think that you should let her go, but try your best to remain friends if possible. You deserve a girl who would treat you 100 times better,and I am sure you will find her. Spend some time with your other friends...get away from her for a while...chances are that you have also been feeding her ego, so take that away from her too, just be sure to focus your energy on someone who is worth your time and effort. Focus on yourself, on your own life goals and achieve as much as you can. It wont be easy at first, but just keep reminding yourself of your reasons for refocussing on your goals. Good luck!
2006-12-06 16:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might. I think I am doing the EXACT same thing to a guy, and I am worried about it. I like him, and sometimes we'll text for hours,but a day later I might blow him off. I always feel bad, but soemtimes it feels like he does the same thing to me... Iy's wierd becasue we never talk about our text conversations, and we act like they don't happen. He keeps sending me silly texts, and one day he even started texting me having a conversation with himself... It was silly. Maybe u should wait till she breaks up with him, and take advantage of the situation. Whats her name?
2006-12-06 16:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE YOU NEED TO MOVE ON, SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND AND SO SHE WILL NEVER FELL AS YOU
DO FOR HER. AND THE ONLY PERSON THAT WILL BE
HURT BY HER ACTIONS. IS YOU. THIS BACK AND FORTH
IS NOT GOOD FOR ANY ONE. TIME TO MOVE ON. AND FIND
SOMEONE THAT WILL WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND ONLY
YOU.
2006-12-06 16:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you talk to her anyway you never know .
2006-12-06 16:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by goodguy7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋