Parenting - July 2007

We just found out yesterday that our twins are boys! I have an 11 year old daughter, but I have zero experience with little boys. Any advice or tips on raising boys and caring for baby boys? Especially the circumcision and caring for it after we get home. I'm a little worried I won't know what to do with two little boys. I'm so used to caring for a girl! Any advice is appreciated.

2007-07-17 04:07:43 · 13 answers · asked by Lotus 6

2007-07-17 03:58:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

People tend to blame parents for actions of irresponsible kids, do you think this is right?

2007-07-17 01:56:38 · 35 answers · asked by swish 4

So the debate about spanking does on and on and on. I just don't feel as though spanking a child on the backside is a form of abuse. This happened to me when i was younger, and i have absolutely no problem with it now.

I think when a child is punished in other ways, there are still 'cop out' opportunities, ie with no tv find something else to do, and in time out there is always SOMETHING to find to entertain yourself.

I know there are extreme cases and people will always mention that they were abused etc. and i don't brush that off lightly, but remember these are extreme cases.

What i am referring to is simply smacking with the HAND, on the childs BUM, nowhere else.
What do you think?

2007-07-16 19:47:30 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't stand people who keep having kids just for the sake of having them. Even if they know they are not being as good of parent as they can/should be.

Example ~ I know this couple (not married) who have 5 kids & they live in a 2 bedroom converted into a 3 bedroom house. They have to older ones babysit a majority of the time & they really never do anything as a family "unit" They will leave the kids home & go out to dinner etc... They make the older 2 ages 15 & 13 work odd jobs with other family members to buy clothes etc. Money shouldn't be a problem for them they both work & have good jobs. They just like to spend it on dumb stuff for themselves. Now they want another baby??? WTF?

2007-07-16 18:57:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-16 18:47:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-16 18:43:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was thinking awhile ago as my four year old daughter gave me a hug how great it feels to be a mom, there is nothing more in this world better than the love your kids have for you and although life brings alot of stress and bills and hussle bussle at the end of the day when your kids are hugging you and saying i love you doesn't it feel wonderful?...it makes everything you do so worth it.....just thought i'd share that and ask how you feel about that....

2007-07-16 17:40:50 · 27 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7

My son will be starting 3rd grade this year. The school he will be starting is new to him with the exception of having gone only the last semester last year. His grades went down drastically because of the change I 'm assuming. He is a slow learner compared to the other kids in his class and I want to place him in special education classes to see if that helps him catch up and to help him with his self-esteem. My husband is totally against my placing him in these classes even after explaining to him that it can benefit our son. I don't want him to fall behind and possibly be held back because I didn't do what is right. What else can I do?

2007-07-16 16:45:39 · 11 answers · asked by helpful one 2

when they cry lot all time that ture

2007-07-16 15:01:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so ALL my friends have a myspace page and i want one REALLY bad because its summer and i don't really see all my friends from school. so i figured a myspace would be a very good way to keep in touch. well heres the problem, my parents are like the myspace nazis. they watch all the dateline nbc catch a predator things and they think myspace is like this horrible website and all the people that use it get stalked and raped and they just refuse to let me have one. i am 15 years old and i would definatly keep it private and only accept people as friends who i know. would should i do? is there anything i can say to them to change their mind? i'm like a really good teenager (lol that sounds corny) but i have good grades, and i never get into trouble at school or anything. what should i do?

2007-07-16 14:24:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

what does that mean!! or what bif it stays in and nothing comes out?????

2007-07-16 14:24:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 15 and i love the punk/emo stuff. I dont do bad stuff though im all good. But i really want to dye my hair like just like expect for the pink i would sub in blue. The only thing is my parents are kinda narrow minded when it comes to color. So what it the best way to talk to a parent about this?


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2007-07-16 14:20:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like whenever I want something. I know I will get it and I don't need to beg but I cry and I can't control it. Why?

2007-07-16 14:20:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-16 14:14:47 · 28 answers · asked by Christine B 2

HI! As a formerly sexually abused child, I try to protect children. My brother and sister had children very young, and although they don't regret it, they wish they waited till they will older. This 14 yr old girl confided in me, and told me she had sex, I, as a 28 year old female, was concerned and told her mom, a friend of mine, that I was concerned for her and didn't want her pregnant and that she was having sex. Also, this little girl, who I volunteer with, who confides in me, she has cancer now for 6 years,she is 13. She told me she did a lot of bad things, like weed, but I never told on her because I was worried how much time she had to live, since it is stage 4. However, she started doing more bad things-drinking, selling pills, taking pills and who knows what kind of pills, I was worried for her safety. So I told her mom, who approached her kindly, but her mom never said I told on her. I also call the cops if I see a parent driving drunk with a child in front seat-not protecte

2007-07-16 13:15:00 · 13 answers · asked by Tracy L 1

My kids are 7 and 3. One of my neighbors has a pit bull and we see her walking the dog alot. We were outside yesterday and the neighbor happen to be walking her dog. My kids asked if they could go over and pet the dog and I told them no. My neighbor said it's ok - the dog's very friendly. I told her I just wasn't comfortable with my kids around pit bulls. She seemed a little annoyed - but that was the end of it.

Was I being too overprotective? I know pit bull owners always say the dogs are so friendly. What do you think?

2007-07-16 12:54:20 · 24 answers · asked by hotmomma 4

I'm asking this because i hate the fact that if your kids misbehave like in a store they stare at you like you can't control them but if your spanking your child in the store people also stare like your being so dang mean to them, so i'm at a loss at what to do?...can i get in trouble for spanking them in public?...i haven't been much of the spanking type, and now my kids are out of control so time out and taking things away doesn't work but a firm spank on the bottom gets there attention but i feel like a aweful mom when i'm spanking them and everyones staring at me...and i feel aweful when there running all over the place not listening and i do nothing...so, what does everyone else here do/...i'm at a loss and wanting some opinions....thanks....

2007-07-16 09:54:50 · 32 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7

2007-07-16 08:41:20 · 19 answers · asked by J Jacob 4

in the growing stages fathers seem to apply more authoritarian control on their daughters,
and when some of these girls grows up they seem to transfer the same forced respect to their male partners. others hold the rage until they are old enough to resist. then god helps the guy that pisses her off.

it is not democratic when something out of the ordinary happens, because the position of authority is much more than less taken by any male who is present, no matter how stupid he may be.

all of a sudden it's alright i'll take care of this. or you stay let me see whats going on, i will go for help. if it's 2 guy around they ask each other questions in order to solve whatever.

on the other hand girl want guys to "share" their plans with them, but whenever the guys suggest that they take control. he gets, oh! so why don't you do it. or why are you having me do this, is there something going on that i should know about?

is this somewhat clear?

2007-07-16 08:15:49 · 12 answers · asked by jonasc1r 1

He is 21 mo old. He doesn't want anyone other than me or my husband to come near him. If god forbid someone should accidently touch him, he will melt down. I'm not concerned about it, because he will warm up to ppl eventually it just takes months of them slowly getting closer and closer to him. All of my friends know this about him and are happy to get to know him at his pace. But I have a friend I mentioned earlier who thinks it's funny to sweep him up from behind and hold him while he kicks and screams and cries for me. I always run to him and take him from her but sometimes she will run away from me or hold him tight so I can't get him. She thinks it's hilarious. When I get him back from her it takes about 20- 30 minutes to calm him. I think it's just awful. I told her she's mean and she laughed and said I know! How do I protect him without feeding his introvert side? Does she think she's gonna break his fear this way or is she trying to make him look like a brat to others?

2007-07-16 08:00:08 · 6 answers · asked by . 4

I am pregnant with my second child and I'm worried that I will either not love this child in the same way I love my first - Otherwise I feel guilty that I will love this child, and it will feel like a betrayal to my first child. I love my first child sooo much and I'm already feeling guilty. Is this common?

2007-07-16 07:44:19 · 16 answers · asked by APPLE123 2

When will ANYBODY start taking personal responsibility for their actions?

Everybody has an excuse for EVERYTHING instead of simply admitting guilt and taking responsibility.

This continued behavior is insane!

Great job liberals!!!

2007-07-16 07:37:27 · 9 answers · asked by elmar66 4

My husband and I went out Sat night and came home to find marks on the hallway wall about 3 1/2 ft up. When I asked the babysitter what happened she said she went to put my 2yr to bed while my 6yr, Cal, was downstairs and when she came back the marks were there. She said that she watched the baby so there was no way he did it. When she left I asked Cal what happened and he told me the babysitter did it. I told him he wouldn't get in trouble, I just wanted to know the truth, but he still said he didn't do it, she did, and started crying. The thing is Cal never lies and he loves this babysitter. He can't keep secrets and doesn't know how to lie. Nor do I really think he would color on the wall. I can't though for the life of me understand why a 18yr would color on the wall either. We used her many many times over the last year and if there was ever a problem/accident, she's told us.
I'm not sure what to do. Any suggestions?

2007-07-16 07:11:26 · 16 answers · asked by Emily M. 1

They had plenty of food and just didnt feed the kids cause they were playing dungeons and dragons on the computer. CPS has taken the children and they are charged with child abuse.

2007-07-16 05:26:14 · 10 answers · asked by elaeblue 7

Hi

My wife & I are currently potty training our nearly 3 year old daughter. She has taken it really well & doesnt use the potty- she uses the toilet instead: which is fantastic for us. She has started to go dry through the nights now & she gets up sometimes to go to the toilet rather than going in her pull ups.

But we have a problem that she will not do a poo on the toilet or the potty.

She knows she doesnt want to do it in her knickers (which she wears in the day) or pull ups (at night). She has only been twice in 7 days.... any help/advice?

2007-07-16 00:54:41 · 14 answers · asked by Puzzled Santa 2

I was wondering if there was a website that caters to the audience of rather lifestyle focussed moms - you know, the kind of mothers that are interested in designer wear for kids or splendid getaways with the family.

If you know of any, a link would be greatly appreciated!

2007-07-16 00:18:52 · 2 answers · asked by isdaron 1

My neighbour and I used to be good friends, but we've had a disagreement over some money she owed me that she spent on her car, and our kids have always played together. The thing is that she did a pretty awful thing and I'm just ignoring her now. I have no problem with her kids coming over, but she keeps coming with them and acting like everythings fine. I'm trying to let her know I'm not fine with it but don't want to take it out on the kids. What can I do?

2007-07-15 22:24:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-15 22:05:13 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

my family have moved many times. my brother really liked it at the previous town and school because he have friends there. we moved about 2 yrs ago and ever since he have not made new friends here. and he has no social life. tv, game, gym, music& internet. thats what he does.

he seems depress and angry all the time. i mean so angry that i'm afraid to say a word. and he's violent too.
sometimes i hear or see him talking to him self in the backyard, living room and his room. he sits there and laugh. sounds like someone who's going to snap soon. a phychotic laugh. and he sleeps with his freshman yr book next to him.

2007-07-15 20:14:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous