Parenting - July 2007

and now he is scared to hold his 6 month old child he wont even go see him or take him to his house unless, the only time he will go talk to him is if someone else is there because he is scared he might have somthing come over him and he might hurt his child, I know he would never have the heart to he is a very sweet boy(he is 15 almost 16) and he loves his kid(all kids with that fact) but he heard some where that a rape victum will most often rape other people, how can I show him he will not hurt his son, because I know he would rather die then hurt him, his sons stroler was pushed out infront of a car by a drunk man who was stumbleing down the street once and my friend got hit by the car so he could roll the stroller over to me so i know he wouldn't hurt him what should I do

my friend misses his kid he has pictures of him every where and he only had him because the babys mom thought she had cancer and she wanted to leave a baby behind and my friend cryed after they "made the baby"

2007-07-14 11:22:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

For example if you do not allow your child to drink soda do you tell relatives, neighbors, and friends not to give them any? Or if you take away their video game system do you tell their friends parents to let you play. Or do you tell their teacher not to let them do something because they are grounded at home.

I say this because on of my sons friend’s mom told us not to let her son play video games because she does not like them. She also said not to give her child sweets or soda.

2007-07-14 11:00:35 · 13 answers · asked by ....... 3

over small things like finding a parking space; lashing out at you if you tell them to calm down.................can this be a form of abuse, even though they provide for you well enough and there is no physical abuse?

2007-07-14 10:59:17 · 9 answers · asked by BobDanzig 1

I have a 1yr old son and Im also 28weeks pregnant and as bad as I want to start working I do NOT like the idea of putting my Son nor my next Baby in DayCare until they are old enough to tell me things that go on there. I have seen so much in the past year about how Kids are left in Cars turned off for hours, Babies being Shaken, Locking Kids in Closets, and I read a little boy got duct taped around his mouth because he wouldnt stop crying and they found him dead from suffocation. This all happened in care of Baby sitters and DayCares.

So, Do you think Im freaking over nothing?
Also, What is everyones Opinions about DayCares?

Please no insluting about others opinions...
Thanks

2007-07-14 10:45:48 · 36 answers · asked by Sarah 3

2007-07-14 07:13:46 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 6 year old daughter sneaks food at night and during the day, she weighs 76 pounds. We have her in sports to try and keep her weight in check. We have a lock on the pantry and she still gets into things. Just this past week I have caught her with popcycles at 6 am, soda at 6am and just now she came in from riding her bike and had chocolate on her face, she had gotten into the freezer in the garage and had eaten 2 chocolate ice cream cones. This has been going on since she was 3. I have caught her with a half gallon of ice cream in her bed. I don't know what to do. We used to have a cup hook lock on the pantry now its a combination lock, and since she can't get in there anymore she is moving on to other places where there is food. The only junk food in the house is her dads lunch stuff (cookies and chips) and Ice cream, when i buy treats for her and her brother she sneaks and eats them all. What do I do? She get's up in the middle of the night to get things.

2007-07-14 06:00:35 · 30 answers · asked by mom-of-2 2

When you see adults bring kids to violent or sexually explicit movies, do you want to say something to them? Do you ever?

My husband and I were at Saw 3 and there was a lady their with little kids. LITTLE. Maybe 2, 4 and 6. So on the way out I said very loudly to my husband "What kind of idiot takes their kids to a slasher flick? That's just ASKING for your kids to need therapy." The lady said back to me "well, why are you here?" and I replied "because I'm THIRTY."
I seriously think that people should start saying something to these stupid people. Maybe they can be shamed into being responsible, at the very least.

2007-07-14 00:26:35 · 18 answers · asked by Epitome O 3

do u find anything wrong with it if it was your own child

2007-07-13 20:17:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

????

2007-07-13 19:03:36 · 18 answers · asked by iwearprada209 2

I'm just trying to get a feel of how many parents still agree that spankings (not beatings or that sort of thing) are necessary?

2007-07-13 18:19:05 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son was born with one kidney. He is otherwise a very healthy, active 17 month old boy. The doctors have told me he will live a normal life but he must not play contact sport, drink too much alcohol or add salt to food.

Does anyone else have a child with one kidney? Being a boy, I'm worried he wont take it seriously when he's older, especially when he's a teenager. Any advice?

2007-07-13 18:04:27 · 12 answers · asked by Danni 4

This drives me crazy!! My husband took me out for a date tonight and we went to see the taylor fireworks after a nice dinner! My mom watched the kids =] Anyways the taylor fireworks are held at the carnival....my husband and i walked around for a bit and got some delicious carnival food and i can't tell you how many young kids were walking around without adults! I mean 10 year olds...and i even saw two girls who were no older than 6 walking around alone! It was a madhouse at the carnival due to the fireworks and on top of that it is in a bad city at 10:30 at night! One 12 year old little girl was getting hit on my a carnival worker and i went over to her and pretended she was my daughter because she was crying and i helped her find her mom, but her mom never thanked me or even cared that much! Isn't that crazyy...i would never allow my kids to walk around alone that late at night there, i saw three fights ending in handcuffs! Does anyone else agree that these kids needed supervisio??

2007-07-13 17:50:56 · 6 answers · asked by Dahlia 2

My dogs are both spaniels, very gentle and well behaved. They are brilliantly trained, and respond instantly to commands. They love young children and are around mine and my neighbours kids constantly, they were around mine as babies (under supervision of course!). A friend of mine has a 5 year old son, no allergies, no fear of dogs, nothing, but she is a paranoid mother who can't stand the thought of a dog licking the child's hand, or him patting them, because of the 'germs'. When they come over, I make sure the dogs don't bother them, but she wants me to lock them outside! Isn't this rude? It's my home, and my dogs are indoor dogs (no, my house isn't dirty, it's cleaner than hers!), if they're not bothering him why should I lock them away because of her paranoia?

2007-07-13 17:30:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

who can help me write a letter of complaint to my employer? on my day off, my boss called me. she wants me to go to work , because the state was there to interview regarding a case of one resident. i don't have a baby sitter that time, i don't want to go, but they insist and said just to bring my daughter. i bring my daughter and they said it's okay for my daughter to hear our conversation, which i know it's just a plain interview..nothing serious. until they are talking of serious matters which my daughters hears which cause her anxiety and even stop her summer school. she is 7 yr old. where can i complain? what will i do? me too is having anxiety because my daughter was affected.

2007-07-13 15:58:52 · 7 answers · asked by belinda a 1

He really wants a baby, so I want how he finds out to be very special.

2007-07-13 15:42:08 · 14 answers · asked by azairea3 1

2007-07-13 13:55:05 · 11 answers · asked by debvmic 2

I recently had an argument with my mom because when she picks my son and daughter up to spend time with them at her house and they get dirty, she bathes them together. My son is 6 and daughter is 2. We don't even let him see me changing my daughter's diaper! My mom thought I am raising them with an ancient philosophy. Thing is I really feel strongly about this. Am I wrong? What else can I tell her?

2007-07-13 13:14:50 · 20 answers · asked by claudine15 1

2007-07-13 13:00:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-13 11:52:21 · 21 answers · asked by all_stardusty 4

I'm 17 yrs. old. My mother's recently kicked me out of her home. We've always had our differences since I was a young child. My father pays quite a hefty amount for child support every two weeks. My mother refuses to give me any of this money at all and says by the time the courts would finish with this matter I would be 18 and wouldn't get any money anyways. In my custody agreement it states my father is to pay child support until I turn 18 unless I'm still enrolled in school. The school year starts on September 7th and my 18th birthday is September 12th. My father has no problem paying child support. My mother just refuses to give me the money so I can pay for the things I need while living with my aunt. My aunt has 4 children of her own and taking on another person in her home is obviously expensive. I'm also pregnant and not currently employed. I'm not trying to just take all the money from my child support and blow it. I have very real things to take care of right now. While I don't have to pay rent, food and other needed items are quite expensive. I have no other income. Can my mother really withold all of my child support if she's not even supporting me? I'm in serious need of advice here. If she kicks me out do they just stop child support all together? How does all of this work? Thank you for reading.

-Chels

2007-07-13 11:30:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

As a child and teen I swore I would not do alot of things like my parents. Now I find (my daughter is 3) that I am starting to act alot like them. I hated my dad for over-reacting at silly things. Like when we spilled a glass of milk at the table. Christ we would be physically dragged from the table, given a slap or two or three and thrown into our bedroom. Now when my daughter does the same, I have to bite my tongue, I really want to shout at her. I wont do it cause I know how it made me feel. But why do I want to? Why do I feel like I have the same traits and reactions as them, even though i said I would be different?

2007-07-13 11:02:53 · 23 answers · asked by Teresa M 2

2007-07-13 10:48:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

As I was growing up, my mom always tried to hide me and my brother from my dad, and she would tell us mean stuff about him daily. He is a good man though, and is the one who got custody of us and raised us. I know many other children who have moms who do the same thing to them, I don`t get why they do this? Its like they don`t want their children to have dads. I think most of the time the dad gets fed up with the moms doing this, and basically just gives up and leaves. Anyone know why moms do this to the kids?

2007-07-13 08:54:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am always surprised ( and a little saddened) when I hear that one of my daycare children has no pets at home. I feel that having pets is crutial to teaching children to be loving and caring of all creatures. Why would you have kids and then have them be the only kid in 'class' who has no pet to talk about? Is it because you had no pets growing up? Are you just not "pet people?"

2007-07-13 08:29:47 · 19 answers · asked by The Grand Inquisitor 4

Is it right for a mother to keep a child and a father apart simply because she wants to? If there is absolutely no basis for the isolation, how can she morally, and legally keep them apart? Isn't that not only unfair to the father but also to that child? And what will she tell the child when he gets older?

2007-07-13 07:47:15 · 14 answers · asked by A P 3

Ok...example....I was at the convience store the other day and a little girl picked out a diet coke. She put it on the counter and her father goes "You don't want that, thats YUCKY!"

I wanted to say "dude, if she wants to try it let her."

But instead he grabbed her a sugar and calorie loaded coke.

The same thing goes with all foods and drinks. When the parents act like picky brats and say "oh I dont like that" or "oh thats YUCKY" then don't they know that thier kids are going to emulate that same behavior?

2007-07-13 07:23:31 · 12 answers · asked by JP 1

I have a teenage son (16 yrs). Actually, he is my step-son, but we have full custody for the past 4 yrs. Sadly, he grew up most of his life in a house where MEN were considered lower than dirt. However, it is not that way in our house. My husband works really hard and is giving the utmost honor and respect from all of us. We have 2 other children, (my step-daughter 12yrs and my son 12yrs) My husband and I have no other children together. From day one, they have all been ours! My oldest son (16yrs) has always had low self-esteem. We have tried everything to build this up. We give a lot of praise around here for anything. It had gotten so bad, we had to seek counseling. He keeps us laughing at home or around the family 24/7. In public or at school, he is painfully shy and rarely says anything. He has NO friends. NONE! Never has. My 2 12yr olds have friends calling or coming over or going over there house all the time. This is not a geeky, nerdy, guy!

2007-07-13 06:25:27 · 6 answers · asked by horsecrazy72 1

2007-07-13 05:44:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

She hits and bites and climbs and breaks stuff and gets into everything no matter how much I put it up she still finds a way to get to it!!
I have tried EVERYTHING! I have tried spanking but that dont work so I quit that. I have tried calmly telling her no and explaining why she is not to do something. No help at all.
I am beginning to think that yelling at her is the only way but I dont want to do that.
Oh yeah and time outs are a waste of time.

2007-07-13 05:08:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I put her to bed about 10 or so and turn off all the lights and put up her baby gate because I dont want to shut her in her room with the door. She will literally scream for hours wanting out. I have finally refused to let her out but she still screams for hours! I do not go in there or pick her up or anything. I just kiss her goodnight and tuck her in. Then I go to bed. But she screams for hours!! What can I do to make her go to sleep?

2007-07-13 04:54:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous