how bad do your kids have to be before you spank them.?

Answer 1

Don't let some liberal wacko catch you spanking your kid. You will wind up in courts and in trouble with the DCFS. That is why so many kids have turned out bad and joined gangs. The LIBERALS want it that way!!!!

Answer 2

I think spanking should only be used as a last resort, when all else has been tried when everything has failed, there is always a spanking to get there attention, but its not something that I would just issue out here and there with out any justification. Spanking in my house would be the equivalent of sending someone to the chair, its a capital punishment that is only dealt in the most extreme of cases when no other punishment will work or has not worked. I often find that a time out works perfectly well and once they have calmed down you can tell them why they were given time out. What i don't do is try to reason with a temper tantrum struck kid because you will get no where fast except to losing your patients and that is when you tend to smack, i find if you can keep calm (i know its often difficult) but if you can then you will bed in a better state to deal with your child's bad behavior rather then just spanking and feeling guilty for doing so.

Answer 3

It's never to bad or when a child should be spank, is how the parents hit their kids. I mean kids should not be discipline by a spank just by simple words or by a good time out, or just take their favorites things away from them and a bet that they will recognize that once they did something wrong it should not be done again i think, :) good luck!

Answer 4

I don't spank my children much but I do yell a lot. My husband says it drives him crazy. I don't like spanking them only because I was disciplined that way and really all it does is cause pain what are we really teaching them? Nothing. I try talking to them sometimes I end up raising my voice but kids are kids and things will happen try to be patient with them

Answer 5

As a foster parent I have had some kids who acted very badly but I have never resorted to hitting them. Same with my bio and adopted kids, they have never done something that was worth me taking out my anger on them. When they truly tick me off I go for a run or walk around the yard outside. The kids deserve my best, the don't deserve to be beaten just because I am bigger than them and I can hit them and it might make me feel better. Discipline is about teaching the child not placating the parent.

Answer 6

My kids would have to be pretty bad. I don't like to 'hit' kids. I have on one occasion acted out of desperation. My little girl was running into the street into oncoming traffic. I got a hold of her JUST as a speeding car flew right by and damn near clipped her. I spanked her right then and there and told her why.

Answer 7

I spanked both of my daughters after finding out they threw rocks at a neighbors window. Did I want to beat them down. HECK YEAH! But I knew I'll be in jail because of just that...beating my children which is different from spankin.The only other time they receive a spankin is when they act up in school and that's after me sitting down with them ONCE and explaining to them how they should conduct theirselves while in school and that they're there to receive an education. The same as when they are other places. If they cut up a second time they WILL get a spanking along with being punished for WEEKS because I don't play. My children know that I will only speak to them once with a low stern voice while I'm looking them straight in the face at their eyes. I use to yell but I noticed that after awhile I was being ignored. I will not repeat myself. I never hit them with my hand. I always use a belt and make sure that the belt is hitting their behind. Spanking and beating is two different things in MY OPINION. I discipline my children and I'm not going to let anyone including the authorities tell me how to raise my children. Why? Because I don't collect a check by the State to take care of my children. I worked hard every since I was old enough to work and took care of them without any State's help. I'm RAISING THEM not anyone else...You have to remember that your children's actions and character especially at a young age shows the type of parents that you are...that's why I was very disappointed and embarrassed when my children behaved the way they did with the neighbor's house which had me questioning if there was something I done or was there a way I conducted myself recently that my children witness for them to cut a fool...I'm not raising demon children....If your way of discipling your child works best for you then don't criticize my way of discipling my children because it works for me....

Answer 8

My oldest is 27, and my youngest are almost 8, and in all that time not one of my six kids has even been spanked, or even had their hands slapped. Physical discipline is never an option for me, my husband or anyone who ever watched them.

And no child has ever been "bad" enough to "need" to be spanked.

People need to stop punishing and learn to TEACH which is true discipline.

Answer 9

I cannot belive that someone said you can scream at them as much as you want but not spank, emotional abuse is just as bad. I spank my children when they have done something really really bad i dont hit them hard so it leaves a mark, just enough to shock them and to let them know that they did wrong.

And just a note it never taught me violence is ok nor did it teach my husband that, or my brother or my sister or anybody that was born before all this rubbish came about.

Answer 10

I spanked my son three times in his entire life. When I say 'spanked' I mean I swatted him three times on the behind, with my hand. Of those times, now that I look back...I think two of them could have been handled differently. The one I don't regret...he was 6 years old and thought he'd get in my face because I made him tell another child she couldn't come over to play that day. I don't mean that he became angry...I mean that he went OFF on me! That was the first and LAST time he ever did that. It was a test on his part, and because I SO RARELY used physical discipline, it made a very real impact. He's 25 now and says he has absolutely no recollection of me EVER using physical discipline. Still, he's a very responsible, productive, decent human being...so basically, he's living proof that you DON'T have to use physical discipline. You just have to find other means to guide your kids, and be consistent.

Answer 11

If you have to ask, better to a get rug and name it the naughty rug. The little bad deed doer has to sit there in plain sight on the naughty rug for 3 minutes and then has to apologize for behavior. I personally only gave on swat on the behind, for dramatic license, and that was for 911 inappropriatness.