I caught my 12 year old daughter kissing a boy?

Question

do u find anything wrong with it if it was your own child

Answer 1

If you're confident that you've instilled good enough morals and values into your children, than there's really nothing to worry about. Just remind her of those morals.

Answer 2

I am 13 years old and it is normal for a child to have a first kiss from age 12-14. Just cause she kissed a boy does not mean she will have sex. Don't do anything and see what happens. If you notice she is doing it again or she is wearing short short and tight shirts maybe talk to her about becoming more pure. Maybe it was just a one time thing and everything will be okay/

Answer 3

well, i kissed a boy for the first time about the age of 7, and didn't have my first time until i was 17. it depends on your child. if you think it was just an innocent first kiss, then no biggie. if it was full out making out with his hands down her shirt and her hands down his pants,then that is defenitly a problem. i would talk to her about it, just make sure that she's intelligent about the use of condoms and the like, don't want any accidents. some girls have sex earlier than others. hopefully she wont, after all, i hear right now one in every four High schoolers are going to get an std this year.
dont be condemming of it, it'll make her want to do things like that more. just make sure the lines of communication are open, make sure she knows that if she decides to go all the way, even though you dont want her to, make sure she does it 'smart'. consider taking her to the health department in your town to get on planned parenthood (a nifty term for birth control) that way, if anything does happen, she's at least a little protected from having a baby.

Good luck. and welcome to the worst part of raising a daughter. this is where you pray to all the gods that you did a good job with her.

Answer 4

No, it is not fine. You caught her , How long before you catch her doing something else? If you had not caught her then you would not know, so what else don't you know? As a lady yourself ,once being young, Were you ever kissed at a young age ? What did it lead To?. You know like I know that once you start the hormones really start to raging then what?

I know you can't keep your eye on your child at all times, and trust she knows this too, the next time she will probably be a little slicker when she does it , or take that next step.

Answer 5

First of all, you need to know whether they're having that romancing moment sensually or innocently. You wouldn't want your daughter to be some sorta slut or devirginized 13 year old, 16 year old sex/romance addict, 18 year old whore and having an "I-don't-know" life after. You wouldn't want her to be hurt or condemned so much about your words either.

Find that guy and awake him with a shock of what he's doing as well as your daughter. It's not too late for her to fix things up. Now, do something before it's too late...

Your daughter could be in the first stage of starting a sexual relationship or a decision that could ruin her life...

It's really too young for her... Think like a responsible parent in everything you do....

Answer 6

There's nothing really "wrong" with it. Its what kids that age try. Still, I wouldn't encourage it.

At twelve years old she's still young enough for you to keep track of where she is and who she's with a good part of the time. You can't police her all the time, but if you know where she is most of the time she won't get much opportunity for "romance".

I think I'd tell her she was too young for "that stuff", but I wouldn't embarrass her by re-hashing it over and over and throwing it in her face as if she's evil. Instead, I'd make sure she had something to do a good part of the time afternoons, wasn't out after dinner, and was with a relative on both weekend days (unless she was in a group activity where there was little chance of privacy).

I wouldn't announce, "I'm going to keep you busy, you evil person" :) I'd just find ways to make sure there was something she needed to be doing.

When it comes to no out after dinner (or not too long after dinner in Summer): I would just tell her, "I don't like what I've seen going on. You're too young, and you're too young to be out too late after dinner."

Answer 7

Were they full on making out or just innocent stuff? She's going to learn all about it eventually, so hopefully you didnt freak out on her so she feels comfotable talking to you about that stuff.

Answer 8

A simple kiss is fine.

Answer 9

if that is all she did. i wouldn't be too too upet.
refresh the birds and bees talk with her.
let her know that she doesn't need to feel pressured to do more at her age. and for her not to rush things.
then have dad meet the boy and put the fear of god in him.

Answer 10

well if my mom saw me i wood b wierded out but she wood feel the same way!