both parents die...advice on who should get custody of our children?

Answer 1

I am the youngest of four children. My oldest brother is 10 years older than me.

When I was very young my parents had set it up for us to go to my mothers parents if the event would happen that they were both to die. Their thinking was that her parents were in excellent health, still very active and since they lived within a 10 minute drive from us were very active in all of our lives.

However, as soon as my oldest brother turned 21, they changed it so that he would recieve all of their money, the house, cars, and even us. They felt that he was responsible enough to take care of us until we were all 18 and to understand how to get money out of our college funds.

My parents told all of us that their main concern was that we would be taken care of financially and by someone we knew. They also wanted to make sure that no matter what we all got to stay together.

I suggest picking someone that your children know very well. If at all possible make it someone near by that would be more than happy to take care of your children. If children can stay in the same schools thats a plus too. Also pick someone that you know will make sure to continue to raise your children the way you have already done. At least this is what my husband and I plan to do with our children. (currently our thought is my parents)

I hope this helps :-)

Answer 2

Look at things like financial stability, trustworthiness and general liking of the person. Aunts, uncles, godparents would be the first choices. In some cases the grandparents would get custody. Usually a blood relationship to the children is favored in a court unless specified in a will.

Answer 3

This is a question only the parents should answer, they know who they find the most trustworthy to take care of their children. Most people would say grandparents if they are still young enough to care for the children, but again it all comes down to the people you think will 1. love your children as much as you do. 2. will provide financially for your children, so that they have everything you would want to give them 3.will provide a good home environment/ dicipline and education so that they become good people in life.

Answer 4

The children need to be kept within the "true and natural" family and not fall into the hands of Child Protection Services and placed in foster care. When you make out Your Last Will and Testament designate a family member who is willing to take physical and legal custody of your children. The things that will need to be done is a home-study, a psychological and psychiatric evaluation of the designated family member.

You don't want your precious children to become a state statistic number now do you?

Answer 5

A family member or a really close friend. Talk to people about how they would feel about taking on your children if something were to happen to you. I bet that there would be a family member or a close friend that would jump at the chance to do it.
I would check into many factors before decided who to put down. Like the grandparents, are they going to be able to take on young children and give them everything they need? Or would they be better with an aunt or uncle who is more likely to be able to transport them everywhere they need to go and be able to chase them around and get what they need for them.

Answer 6

You will need to provide more information to get a good answer. Are you trying to set up a will? There is no one answer as to who would be best to get custody. You will have to think about everyone you know, their personalities, how good they are with kids, whether they would be able to take care of more kids if they have some already, whether they can provide well for the kids, etc. You should also talk with them about it and see if they would be willing to do this for you, should the need come about, though one always hopes that there will never be a need!

Answer 7

That's something you will have to decide and put in a will or some other legal document. Make your decision based on age of the person raising your kids (someone who's not going to die shortly), who you trust to have your kids' best interest at heart, who can best afford them and use the money wisely that you leave, who do your kids love, etc.. I have an idea, don't die until you're old!! Your kids will appreciate that very much.

Answer 8

1. Whoever they named in the will.
2. If no will, whichever family member had a significant relationship with the children and in physical, emotional and financial state to care for the children the best.

Depending on the children's ages their feelings should be considered.

Answer 9

Whichever close family member you feel will raise your children the best, and will take on the responsibility of raising your children. I say the children's aunts/uncles should be who you look at first, maybe the grandparents if they're still young enough, otherwise just designate godparents who you think will raise your children the best.

Answer 10

Whoever you think would best take care of your children after you die would be the best choice. Also, talk to the people before you designate them as the will be care givers to make sure they are ok with it.

My aunt and uncle decided who would get my cousin by asking a simple question to their family, "If you were taking care of our son and found that you couldn't care for him as much because of severe illness, would you let him be with another family who could better care for him?"

The answer they believed to be in their son's best interest was the deciding factor in who was designated in the will.