Is it right for a mother to keep a child and a father apart simply because she wants to? If there is absolutely no basis for the isolation, how can she morally, and legally keep them apart? Isn't that not only unfair to the father but also to that child? And what will she tell the child when he gets older?
2007-07-13 07:47:15 · 14 answers · asked by A P 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Before we go off bashing this father for no reason:
He would like contact, his took the paternity test, he pays child support. He has contacted the mother, repeatedly. No $ for a lawyer.
2007-07-13 08:17:43 · update #1
Legal system is in your/his favor. Every Judge decides the best interest in the child is to be in contact with both parents. Regardless, if he pays child support or not. Not paying child support does not keep a parent from seeing their child. Unless, of course you are arrested for non-payment.
Investigate further into getting an attorney. Not every attorney will charge outrageous fees for the Judge to make an order for visitation. It is a standard visitation for both parents. If she does not follow, she will be in contempt and they can take away her rights or have her arrested if the Judge decides to. Call around for family law attorneys and tell them the situation. Call someone locally to make it less expensive. You will be surprised how much help is out there.
2007-07-13 08:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by horsecrazy72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently this is not set by the courts for visitation. Is she an unwed mom? Is the child's father on the birth cert? Is the father paying support? If there is no legal set up as to visiting and the father doesn't know to take legal action; out of meaness she will probably pull it off. There must be some reason as to why she is doing this. Yes it will have an impact on the child sometime in its life. When the child asks later in life she will give her reasons I suppose.
2007-07-13 08:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's very selfish & unfair. Most likely she is trying to punish the father but it ends up hurting her own child just as much. Unless she has an actual legit reason
(history of physical abuse, drug abuse, etc.)
She doesn't have any right to seperate a father & his child.
She should try thinking about if someone was not letting her & her child be together.
I'm sorry you are having to go through this
Try telling your mother how much this hurts you too & remember to be respectful to her even if she is wrong & hurtful, she's still your mother.
2007-07-13 08:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how she feels about the father or how he treats her personally. As long as he's a good father to his child, she has absolutely NO right to keep his kid away from him. Even if she lies and tells that kid that his father is the one that doesn't want to be in his life, the truth will eventually come out and the kid will hate her for it. She's being very selfish and thinking only of herself. Shame on her.
2007-07-13 07:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tiacola Version 9.0 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't take the excuse "I can't afford an attorney"...you don't need a lawyer to fight for your rights. There are plenty of non-custodial parents that go to court pro-se, meaning without attorneys...it takes research and legwork - but if they truly want to be a part of their child's life - they will do what it takes.
A non-custodial parent can also cut back on a few luxuries and save for an attorney, Get rid of the cell phone, don't eat out, if they smoke - quit, go from all the channels on the satelite or cable to basic, bag lunch to work...
A non-custodial parent shouldn't allow the word CAN'T to be in their vocabulary.
2007-07-13 18:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no legal reason why this father would be considered to be unfit as a parent he should be allowed access.If he cannot afford a lawyer perhaps he would qualify for legal aid.It would be worth his time to check this out if he wants to get access to his child.I am answering assuming that the father in question would be a loving and caring parent.Good luck in his battle for his rights.Take care.
2007-07-13 13:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this i right, and if he is doing everything right by paying child support , then maybe he should seek out a fathers right group which may help him with a lawyer.
2007-07-13 10:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not right. Not legal. Not fair!
If the child gets to know their father, there is nothing she can tell the child later on. She will be resented for it. Depending on the child that could be very messy for her.
2007-07-13 08:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by ja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that is pretty unfair. unless the father is a killer or molester he should have contact with the child. the mother should not push her feelings about him onto the child. the child will learn the true nature of the dad soon enough.
2007-07-13 07:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by lulu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call it emotional abuse of the child. The father needs to deal with this legally if he wants to. Maybe he doesn't care.
2007-07-13 08:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋