For example if you do not allow your child to drink soda do you tell relatives, neighbors, and friends not to give them any? Or if you take away their video game system do you tell their friends parents to let you play. Or do you tell their teacher not to let them do something because they are grounded at home.
I say this because on of my sons friend’s mom told us not to let her son play video games because she does not like them. She also said not to give her child sweets or soda.
2007-07-14 11:00:35 · 13 answers · asked by ....... 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Seems just a little controling to me, but at the same time I can understand.
2007-07-14 11:05:10 · update #1
I don't broadcast our house rules to everyone, but if someone else is caring for my child, I might share a rule that is really important to me.
If the other mom doesn't like video games, it's fair of her to mention it -- but not when she drops him off. If the child had been invited over to play them, it's a little late for her to protest. When invitations get issued, or accepted, that's the time to ask 'Just to check, is xxx OK with you?' or 'What are the boys planning to do?'
If she doesn't permit soda, she should mention it, too, before the kid comes over -- and offer to provide an alternative. She could say, "We don't let Jimmy drink pop, so I'd be happy to send some fruit juice with him."
If the child is grounded for behavior issues, it's not fair to ask the host parent to enforce your rule. That's the time to keep the child home, and remind him that he's being punished for a specific reason.
Your punishments shouldn't be things that the teachers should have to enforce. Really, what would he do at school that the teacher should need to keep him from? Reading? Playing ball?
2007-07-14 11:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sue 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your child's friends parents do not allow certain foods you need to honor that, and also with video games. Ever since video games came out the childhood obesity problem has gotten much worse. My son will be allowed to play video games, but ONLY if he gets out and gets some form of activity daily, and gets his homework done.
2007-07-14 18:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, I let relatives know if there are certain things I dont allow my child to do , especially with TV and video games, I think they will respect your opinion more than you think. They should realize its nothing personal about them, your just doing what you think is best for your child, and most people understand that.
2007-07-14 18:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by 2angels 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandmothers are the worst offenders about not listening to the rules of the parents. Now I am one, so it's get even time.
My son was allergic to milk, so I told people not to give him any. Many people, like his kindergarten teacher, gave it to him anyway. Or they gave him yogurt or ice cream, not thinking that would count as a dairy product!
People taking care of other people's children need to respect the rules of the parents.
2007-07-14 18:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a parent takes it serious enough to ask you not to give something to their child or allow their child to do something. Then who am I to question it. While you are an adult, you aren't the child parent and the parent's wishes should be met.
2007-07-14 18:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by Reicherts-713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, on the rare occasions that someone else is minding my children, I expect them to enforce my rules for my child.
2007-07-14 18:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, have rules and guidelines and expect them to be adhered to! There will always be gray areas, but you should not leave your child with people you do not know and trust , so? There you have it the perfect answer! LOL!
2007-07-14 21:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by max d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If a kid comes to your house and they have
certain rules about "their" child, then you should
follow them, as you would want them to follow
your rules for your child. It's not controlling, it's
called parenting and you may not agree with
their style, but its their style nevertheless.
2007-07-14 18:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Chingona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I tell other parents. More importantly, I let my kids know that I expect them to follow my rules whether or not I am there.
2007-07-14 19:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, because I would expect them to respect my wishes when their taking care of my child. If my child doesn't do it at home, they shouldn't be allowed to do it anywhere else.
2007-07-14 18:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Di 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋