As I was growing up, my mom always tried to hide me and my brother from my dad, and she would tell us mean stuff about him daily. He is a good man though, and is the one who got custody of us and raised us. I know many other children who have moms who do the same thing to them, I don`t get why they do this? Its like they don`t want their children to have dads. I think most of the time the dad gets fed up with the moms doing this, and basically just gives up and leaves. Anyone know why moms do this to the kids?
2007-07-13 08:54:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A couple years after having me, my mom had a baby girl. While witnessing my stept sister grow up every time I visited. I notice my mom would lie to my stept sister a lot, and she barely even knew who her real dad was. During this time my mom dated many men, and my stept sister would often called them dad. Lately my stept sister got took away from my mom and my grandma got custody of her.
2007-07-13 08:57:53 · update #1
Well my mom had custody of us for awhile, and we we`re living really bad. My dad would pay her child support, but when my dad got us back when I was five, from then on she never paid him a cent of child support.
2007-07-13 09:14:33 · update #2
Unfortunately some parents cannot get over their bitterness towards their ex and put the children in the middle.I think Judge Judy says it best that parents need to love their children more than they hate each other.The children ultimately suffer for the parents bad choices.I am sorry I cannot say something to comfort you, just know that you have done nothing wrong.You are entitled to your feelings and perhaps by talking to someone you will be able to at least understand that when parents break up it is not usually due to the children but a breakdown in the parents relationship.When parents put the children in the middle of an adult dispute they are trying to exert power and control over the ex and that is a far cry from love.Life does get better.Do not stop believing in yourself and dare to dream.You do not have to go through life alone unless you choose to.Take care.
2007-07-13 09:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this situation it is obvious that the parents are split up. Many woman feel that they got the "short end ot the stick" when it came to splitting up. Or maybe they were cheated on. Or maybe they got dumped with no job or other means of income. Or maybe they haven't been getting child support. See what I mean?
I believe it is WRONG to talk bad about the other parent in front of children or to hide them (unless the other parent is a danger or a threat). But I think some women get very bitter and feel like "oh yeah?!? Screw with me will ya? I'll show you! Try to find your kids now!" Not nice
2007-07-13 09:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Morra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I dont think that your mom should have did that because kids are sensitive when it comes to their parents or guardian and if they hear anyone talking bad about them they will immediatley turn away from that parent or person who continues to try to put down someone who the kids really love or just really care about.Well maybe the reason why your mom acted like that is because something went wrong in the relationship(cheated, accusations, lying etc...) but those are still no excuse for you mom to confront you kids about.
2007-07-13 10:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by C.J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they do it to punish the dad for something they did. They threatening to keep the kids away from the father hoping he will give in and do as the mother pleases. Like if the dad was caught cheating the mom might say "you not gonna see your kids until you leave that slut alone". I don't think alot of mom realize that they are also punishing the kids along with the father. I personaly hate when women do that! Its childish and selfish!!!!!
2007-07-13 09:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by tender loving dyke 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you had a mom like this.She is very immature & is looking for the perfect man to take care of her & he doesn't exsist.Therefore she gets mad & talks worse & worse about each failed relationship.
I am a grandmother raising grandchildren who's mom is still doing this bit! Trouble is,she tuly is picking bad men or turning them into bad men!
She doesn't even know who her 15yr old's dad is,but she continually lies to him & changes dads & stories!He is very confused by her.
Her dad was a bad man,but I divorced him & have not been in anymore relationships.She cannot use my example as an excuse.
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2016-09-29 22:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. I think it is partially because of emotions left from their relationship to the dad. I know my husband's ex-wife does this with their child and when he stopped allowing it, she began finding other ways. Too many parents use their children as pawns.
2007-07-13 09:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some parents cant get over the hurt they feel when a marrage ends, and try to protect their kids from hurt, or use the kids to inflict hurt in return. Don't judge your mom or women too harshly.
2007-07-13 08:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women like that are losers. That's why. They put themselves before their children.
2007-07-13 09:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋