my BABY'S DADDY don't know what he wants....to be with me or just pay child support ..... wat do i tell him?

Answer 1

show me the money

Answer 2

You tell him that the decision is his to make....

THEN, you know your rights as a mother in so far as you can take him to court to get child support payments from him. Hopefully he will at least choose to be part of the baby's life if not yours.

I have aniece going thru similar at the moment. She's only 17 yrs old, and was forced to marry the father. Now father doesn't want to married AND a father to boot. I told her the same thing. It's his decision as to what he's going to do. You can't make them love you and you can't make them be a daddy when they don't want to be.

If he chooses not to be a part of the baby's life other than paying that monthly check, then it's his loss, not yours and certainly not the baby's. You go on and raise your baby to be a good person and "Dad" will have to answer for his lack of responsibility later down the road.

Answer 3

For you and your baby, tell him you want to get married. As a matter of fact, take him to your local courthouse and get a marriage license and a marriage certificate. They cost less than $100 and take a couple of days. Take your parents and his along as witnesses. They'll love it. Tell him you want to do this for your child, and no matter what, he will be paying for your child for the rest of your life and for the rest of his life. Some father's think support payments stop at 18, but children have a tendency to need more than just money and you two will be required to provide it. Don't take "no" for an answer. So, you both would be wise to begin your moral commitment by marrying and then start "playing house" in the real world instead of the world of make believe. Your child is innocent of it's illegitimacy and deserves both of your love and commitment now.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you're the one waiting for an answer so you won't be the one telling him anything.
He'll do whatever he decides he wants to do... More than likely he'll pay child support and go on with his life. There is nothing that you can tell him b/c it's simply his choice.
You can't control what another chooses to do or say or behave, etc...

Answer 5

Let him pay the child support and let him go off somewhere to decide what it is he wants to be when he grows up, he is just the father, you are the Mother. You deserve to be happy and do you need his unknowing behind around - no. Get the support, raise your child and be at peace. Oh, break it to him nicely but sternly. God Bless.

Answer 6

Tell him to go away and think about it, you dont need the extra stress. I went thru that similar situation years ago and was absoloutley crushed when my the boyfriend said I want to party and sleep with heaps of girls before I come back to you in 9 months and we can move out together I told him to stick it but unfortunatley I lost the baby but now I look back and it was meant to be.

Answer 7

You can't make someone want to be with you. They either do or they don't. However, that's beside the point right now. First thing is first and that's the baby. He is responsible for the baby whether or not he is with you.

Answer 8

I guess you can't make him be w/ you. As long as hes helping support the child i wouldn't care. He'll just be missing time w/ his child. Doesn't seem very responsible though.

Answer 9

If you love someone there is not even a question like that. Get rid of him and fnd someone who will love and respect you regardless and unconditionally

Answer 10

If he doesn't know if he wants to be with you, then he's not worth being with.