i really want a myspace but...?

Question

ok so ALL my friends have a myspace page and i want one REALLY bad because its summer and i don't really see all my friends from school. so i figured a myspace would be a very good way to keep in touch. well heres the problem, my parents are like the myspace nazis. they watch all the dateline nbc catch a predator things and they think myspace is like this horrible website and all the people that use it get stalked and raped and they just refuse to let me have one. i am 15 years old and i would definatly keep it private and only accept people as friends who i know. would should i do? is there anything i can say to them to change their mind? i'm like a really good teenager (lol that sounds corny) but i have good grades, and i never get into trouble at school or anything. what should i do?

my friends alreay have AIM and my parents won't let me go on that either...i have a s/n though and go on when they aren't home. haha :P

Answer 1

I have 3 children, and I will not let them on MySpace either. The bottom line is that even if you take all the precautions, there are no guarantees that a predator would not slip through your so-called "private profile." Perhaps you should watch some of those TV shows with your parents and you would understand that predators find out very personal information about you and can pretend to be someone you know.

We didn't have MySpace when I was 15 and I got along just fine. If your friends are true friends, they will not judge you for not having a MySpace.

Your parents love you very much. Imagine how heartbroken they would be to have to bury their daughter all because she wanted to throw a temper tantrum like a 2 year old and sneak behind their backs to get a MySpace account. How would your friends feel if something like that happened?

You have plenty of time to grow up and do grown up things, but you only have a few short more years to be a kid. Cherish it while it lasts sweetheart, because when the real world hits you there will be some days you'll want those years back.

Answer 2

I know some people who are the same way. My dad would listen to all those news reports saying if you have a myspace, you're going to get raped and die. However, I'm over 18, so he doesn't tell me whether or not to have one.
The fact is if you know the dangers of the internet in general, and you know what to do and not to do, you'll be fine. Myspace is no worse than any other site on the internet, or the mall down the street. People need to realize that pedophiles are everywhere. and if you're that scared about pedophiles, you should be scared about going anywhere outside of your house. I find it ridiculous.
The kids you hear about on the news have something in common. They were all ignorant enough to give out their phone numbers, addresses, and meet people they don't know. It's all the same. That comes from their own stupidity and every teenager or person in the world does not deserve to be treated this way because of someone else's ignorance.

There isn't really much you can do, because you're not an adult. However, you can suggest one or both of your parents set themself up a myspace. then add you as a friend so they can make sure you're not doing anything they wouldn't want you to do online. or you can try to convince them that you will keep it private and only add people you know in real life.

myspace is a good way to keep in touch with friends and family. i have friends and family all over the us, and that's the only reason i use myspace.

good luck.

Answer 3

You can set up your profile so its private... and so that people over 18 can not contact you at all. Theres also a setting to where someone has to have your email or last name to even send you a friend request. You can lock your page down so good on there now so I dont think theres anything wrong with you getting a page. Just make sure even if you take the above steps that you

1. dont use your real name as a display name
2. dont place any type of identiflying information on your page you may even want to change your state to a nearby state


Give your parents the password so they can see your page and info or have them make a page for themselves and add them as a friend.

Answer 4

I have a myspace and i was really afraid to get it at first but after my friend showed me all the privacy settings you can use its not bad i love it i am a parent and i wouldn't trust my kid to have his either unless i could set the settings on it but if you are cautious than i don't think it would hurt. Just be careful and don't talk to anyone but your friends. some parents are hard to deal with mine were pretty over protective and yes i did sneak around a lot but i was smart about it and never got in to much trouble. now as i have gotten older i realize they were just trying to protect me. but in all honesty almost anything on the Internet can be dangerous. Trust your instincts and good luck!

Answer 5

I will agree with them...myspace is a creepy place full of creeps. I am an adult and recently deleted my account after creeps bothering me -- even after I made my account private!
My main picture was me, pregnant. I couldn't count on both hands twice the amount of sexual advances I got.... the deed is done, let's have some fun, eh? Makes me sick. I got a lot before the pregnancy picture, but I got even more after. That is just sick. And this is just one example of the creepiness of myspace.
So, really, I can't blame them for not particularily wanting you on myspace.

I don't understand why they won't allow you to have an aim/yahoo/msn account, though. If you can prove who you are talking to is who you say they are, and don't talk to random strangers, I don't see the problem. You may still be young, but at the same time, they should try to trust you and allow you to demonstrate some sort of responsibility for your actions, as long as you don't betray their trust!

I don't know how to convince them though. Try compromising somehow? You know your parents better than I do... try to think of something where you can meet them half way...

Answer 6

Your parents are trying to watch out for you because myspace is dangerous. Ask them if you can have an AIM or Yahoo Instant message instead. It's alot safer and you can talk to your friends. you dont need a myspace to talk to ur friends!

Answer 7

My daughter has MySpace and as long as it's set up as a private account, it's secure...people have to know your last name or email address before they can even request to be added as your friend. But it's good they love you and care about you....many parents don't. Count yourself as lucky and find another way to communicate with friends that they will agree with. Try http://www.imbee.com

Answer 8

myspace isnt that bad of a site. if you do stupid things on it then yea it can defiantely be dangerous. but tell you parents that you will keep your page on the private setting..which means that anyone who isnt your friend wont be able to veiw any of the info that you post on your page and will only be able to see you display picture. also make sure that you dont put your location on it ANYWHERE. if you want to put some location on it make up a false one..like the location of you heritage..for example a hawiian person would put hawaii as their location allthough they might live in new york or something...if your profile is one private setting then it is okay to put pictures of you and your friend on your page...and anyone that you dont add as your friend will only see your display image and that cant really lead to anyone harming you.
make sure when you get friend requests that you KNOW they are your friends that you know in real likfe an in person. dont start talking to anyone who say they know you but that youve never met and if you ever feel threatened then you can block that person.

myspace really isnt dangerous as long as you be safe about it and you can have your parents read this whole answer if you want them to so they can let you have one.

if they still dont let you have one then..if your friends also have facebooks then get a facebook accout (facebook.com)... its a much safer site thats pretty much just like myspace (exept i like myspace better).

hope it works!


btw..im 15 years old and ive had a myspace since l was in 7 or 8thgrade and nothing has ever happened since ive been smart with it :]

Answer 9

Well, myspace has it were you can set your page to private, and also set it so no one can add you unless they know you personally, so they have to have eithre your email address or know your full name. Explain to your parents how strongly you feel the need to do this and offer that you'd allow them to monitor everything. Your parents are only intending your best interests, so don't be too upset.

Answer 10

well i have 2 answers for onem ( i had a problem that but i expalined this to my parents and i have one)
1. Tell them that ONLY (friend name), (friend name), and (Friendname) would be allowed to see your myspace profile and only them no one else no matter what they cant see it and they cant see your picture either and you dont even have to put a picture up for your friend to see if they dont want to.
2. Get IM and make all your frriend get IM too