in the growing stages fathers seem to apply more authoritarian control on their daughters,
and when some of these girls grows up they seem to transfer the same forced respect to their male partners. others hold the rage until they are old enough to resist. then god helps the guy that pisses her off.
it is not democratic when something out of the ordinary happens, because the position of authority is much more than less taken by any male who is present, no matter how stupid he may be.
all of a sudden it's alright i'll take care of this. or you stay let me see whats going on, i will go for help. if it's 2 guy around they ask each other questions in order to solve whatever.
on the other hand girl want guys to "share" their plans with them, but whenever the guys suggest that they take control. he gets, oh! so why don't you do it. or why are you having me do this, is there something going on that i should know about?
is this somewhat clear?
2007-07-16 08:15:49 · 12 answers · asked by jonasc1r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, it's correct that a father teaches his daughter through the methods he uss to raise her. But most studies show that being raised by an authoritative parent teaches kids how to be authoritative, not how to be submissive. Children who never have a authoritative parent grow up pushy and mean - they've never had to back down in an argument with their parents so they don't know how to let someone back down from an argument with them.
2007-07-16 08:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by David S 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Iam rather unclear on what you are asking. However to answer the original question, you would have to see the example that the father is setting for the daughter.
Some of this may be motherly influence, meaning that the mother allows for the man to be dominant. There is nothing wrong with this but there should be a balance demonstrated in front of the daughter. If a daughter is influenced by a father that exhibits this type of behavior toward her mother, or any other woman in her father's life, then yes, you may say that he is unintentionally training his daughter how to accept this male behavior.
2007-07-16 15:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ask_Me_All 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I see where you're going, but it's also that these dads were trained by their fathers to take control, I guess. It's just been a continuing cycle of male chauvinism since the beginning of the modern era.
How would you change that?
2007-07-16 15:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Grandpa trains me to obey HIM. Because it's purely right. However, Since my parents deserted me and I'm being raised my Grandparents...Grandma is bedridden and Grandpa has a few mental issues including ADD...I have to watch over oth of them...I am the main house keeper, The one who dose everything around the house, I have to obey them. I have to be true to them, because no matter how you look at it if I would be bad It would hurt both of them very much...And plus, I'm a lesbian and I don't have a boyfriend, only a girlfriend, and both of us are pretty true to each other...We sort of control each other, havving the same ammount of power...So, no, not really.
2007-07-17 01:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Decent parents who believe in discipline have earned respect. If a guy thinks the respect he gets has to be forced from a gal, why in the world is he with her in the first place? And there are PLENTY of girls that do respect the guy's wishes. Like if he wants to go somewhere, she'll say okay, and they'll go there.
Hope I answered your question. I don't think I fully understood it.
2007-07-16 15:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe so. At all. I totally wear the pants in my relationship with my boyfriend of over two years. My father thinks it's great that i refuse to get my heart broken or to be toyed with, therefore, if anything, my father wants to train me to not be controlled. He simply wouldnt let that happen.
2007-07-16 15:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard things like.. I donno.. you marry your father or something, meaning you always find a man that's like your father. I know that from experience, with dating and all. and I know from my mother. her father is tall and skinny, and he's very controlling, and she thought she could escape that by finding a man who's short and not so skinny (aka my father), but she ended up finding the guy who was exactly like her father. yeah, it's kinda just a guess. but I think if your father was controlling, you'll most likely end up finding another man who's controlling and stuff.
2007-07-16 15:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Suzanne.? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What??????????????????????????????
We are not in the dark ages. My husband does not control me. And I do not control him. We totally respect each other. I respect him enough as a man and my husband and he respects me enough as his wife and a woman. We compliment each other.
Isn't that the way it is suppose to be?
2007-07-16 15:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by ANJANETTE C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im almost 27 and my dad still tries to control me. i think thats just the way males are period
2007-07-16 15:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men in general don't. Maybe yours did.
2007-07-20 12:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Old Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋