when it comes to parenting what really pisses you off?

Question

I can't stand people who keep having kids just for the sake of having them. Even if they know they are not being as good of parent as they can/should be.

Example ~ I know this couple (not married) who have 5 kids & they live in a 2 bedroom converted into a 3 bedroom house. They have to older ones babysit a majority of the time & they really never do anything as a family "unit" They will leave the kids home & go out to dinner etc... They make the older 2 ages 15 & 13 work odd jobs with other family members to buy clothes etc. Money shouldn't be a problem for them they both work & have good jobs. They just like to spend it on dumb stuff for themselves. Now they want another baby??? WTF?

Answer 1

I admit I'm not the best parent I can be, but I try. I guess what pisses me off the most about parenting is when you're standards of parenting and rules are different than everyone elses in your family who watches the kids from time to time and so there is no sability or whatever. I will say no to something and then someone else will say that its fine. It's hard to get your kids to know right and wrong when they have other people they trust and look up to telling them different than what you are saying.

I also hate that when there is lack of discipline in other children that come over and then totally disrespect you when you tell them no they can't do something because it's just not something you do at your house or whatever.

(I also kinda know the situation you were refering to all to well.. (curtosy of extended family))

Answer 2

So you have decided to be the moral police.. and say what and how this family should live..?

You seem to know ALL about their finances to be able to say what kind of jobs they have and if money should not be a problem.

You have also been able to see into there lives 24 hours a day to see to weather they are doing anything that you see as family time.

Amazing that you also know what those 15 and 13 spend all their money on.

My parents had a 3 bedroom house and 3 children, which ment that my brother (and I am a girl) had to share a bedroom most of our young years.

My parents also made my brother watch me, and my mother didn't even have a job.

My parents also made my brother and me have a paper route, which ment getting up before the sun came up because we did this before school and my parents got the money for it nd we got 5$ dollars a week in allowance ..

I also make my 17 year old work full time and buy everything thing she needs, down to food, clothes and bathroom stuff.

Were my parents bad parents.? Am I..?

Answer 3

Tell me about it girl. My neighbors are the exact same. They are in their 20's and have 6 kids, and another on the way! They would have 7 but one of their babys died a few months after it was born, but they had adopted it. It was fine up until they adopted it then suddenly it died. I got very suspicious after that and seeing how they are. The kids just run a muck all the time, the oldest girl age 14 watching all of them while the parents just "hang out". The mother is a stay at home mom and still has her oldest watch the kids while she does nothing! And worst of all, my husband saw the father of those kids out one day about a week after my first and only son was born and actually told my husband, "Now we'll know you're a real man when you get her pregnant again next month." What a hick! He continued to recommend we have lots of kids cause they're so handy to have around the house; like kids are servants! Like I said, what a hick. I'm not against big families at all, I plan to have one myself. But parents need to have kids for the right reasons and treat them like they're kids.

Answer 4

Well I dont really hear any abuse or neglect going on in that home! Some people just like bigger families... its a choice we all have as parents. I grew up in a very good enviroment at home... I am the oldest of 4, we all lived in a 3 bdrm home, I had to babysit my younger siblings to do my part in OUR family, I also started working in the summer at 13 and bought my own school clothes and things and it taught me good work ethic and responsibility. We didnt go to a bunch of expensive things but instead as a UNIT we would sit around and play instruments and sing together or play board games and cards. Maybe you should not be so hard on this family

to answer your question... something that really bugs me is parents that spoil there kids rotten, never show them any attention but instead just buy them some material object. Never teaches them what life is about but instead just hands them anything they want just to shut them up and get them out of there face

Answer 5

Parent who don't take responsibility for their children. I get sick of seeing children who spend 3 nights a week at home if they're lucky, children playing in the middle of the road unsupervised, children as young as 5 vandalising property, starting fires, stealing, and walking around the city at night without their parents. I'm tired of parents who blame the media, the government, the schools or the next door neighbours dog for what their children do wrong, instead of looking at their own actions and parenting. I understand that all parents make mistakes, but there comes a point when they're just not being parents!

Answer 6

1. Teenagers and early 20's having kids in Australia for the government baby bonus payment, which is 5 week's income for me, but to them they think it's like winning the lottery.
2. Parents that don't do anything anymore, because they have kids now. All the more reason to do those things, ie: go skiing, camping, holidays, bike riding, you name it. My sister in law has 3 teenage kids that have had only 1 holiday in their childhood. My kids get minimum 4 holidays a year. Kids need experiences, not toys or expensive clothes.

Answer 7

UGH! What a horrible situation for those kids!

My neighbors completly irritate me. They have 3 kids, ages 7, 5 and 2. There are constantly asking my other neighbor to babysit and when she's not available, they'll come ask me. Without any notice. " Hey, we're going out to dinner and it's late, can you watch our baby?" Or " We're going to a festival and don't want to take the baby, will you babysit?"

Why have kids if you're not going to be responsible for them?

Answer 8

People who don't realize what a blessing they have been given drive me crazy.

Also, people who are too lazy to discipline. I have seen some really out of control kids and the parents don't do anything!

Mostly, I just think verbal or physical abuse is disgusting. I have heard people cuss their children out and I just want to throw up.

Answer 9

We liveon a private road, so we are allowed to take our seatbelt of, whatever. Well I was watching myneighbor go up the road and his 5 year old was sitting on the edge where the window is (it was down). We live on a dirt road that it very bumby, he could've easily fallen out.

Answer 10

this is just one I've noticed. Women who shop in grocery stores or retail stores, out several feet in front of their small children and never glance behind them to check on the kids. The poor things are on their own, trying to keep up with Mom , even in the parking lot!!
another-Moms and Dads who do not buckle kids in car seats and seat belts.