My neighbour and I used to be good friends, but we've had a disagreement over some money she owed me that she spent on her car, and our kids have always played together. The thing is that she did a pretty awful thing and I'm just ignoring her now. I have no problem with her kids coming over, but she keeps coming with them and acting like everythings fine. I'm trying to let her know I'm not fine with it but don't want to take it out on the kids. What can I do?
2007-07-15 22:24:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think your absolutly right in not wanting to get the kids involved, dont punishs the children for adults disputes. you really need to talk to her when the kids arent around, tell hersomething along these lines, you know, ------------ Its really not ok that you havent payed me back the oney you owe me, should we do payments? I really dont want this to effect the friendship that our kids have but I feel like your taking advantage of me, we really have to get this resolved because im feeling really awful about this situation.
good luck
2007-07-15 22:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Probably the best thing you can do is be honest and tell her. If you've already had an argument, tell her that although you don't really want to be friends with her anymore, you don't want to interrupt the kid's friendships, but you really don't feel comfortable being around her or having her in your house. Make it clear that her children are still welcome there but she isn't. If you've not really discussed the problem, bring it up with her and say that you still want her to pay the money back, the problem hasn't just gone away in your book. Again make it clear you don't want to involve the kids. Then if she chooses to make it personal, unfortunately that's up to her. Good luck!
2007-07-16 06:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are doing a really good job of not involving your kids in this already. I think what she did was absolutely scummy, so if it was me, I'd not let her through the front door ever. She needs to know how badly she has betrayed your friendship.
It reminds me,just a little bit of an incident years ago. I lived in a shared house when I went to uni and one saturday night we had a party. Somehow a bunch of locals found out and turned upo outside demanding to be let in. There were about 20 of them, non of us knew anyone and we didn't want to let them in. They threatened to smash our windows if we didn't let them in so we had no choice. But a short while later some of my house mates were talking to them! I couldn't understand how my friends could act like their behaviour was acceptable. Your neighbour is one of those party crashers!
2007-07-16 05:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by cobra 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe you actually have to tell her you are upset and get it sorted out. It is obvious she wants your friendship and wants to make up
2007-07-16 05:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
face up to her.
2007-07-16 07:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋