Parenting - November 2006

....I get so many answers telling me to "paddle his butt" or some such?

Are we really that slap happy towards our children in this country?

I'm not completely anti-smacking, but there has to be a VERY good reason for me to do it.

People are entitled to their opinion of course, but I'm surprised that this so often is their opinion.

2006-11-04 23:49:19 · 21 answers · asked by Hello Dave 6

....he says he's too old for Mum or Mummy now (he's 10). My friends say I shouldn't let him, but I can't think of a good enough reason to stop him.

Parents - did your kids do this, was it a phase? I like being called Mum, I hope it hasn't gone forever.

2006-11-04 23:12:34 · 40 answers · asked by Hello Dave 6

I am 13 years old- I dont really know my height I think im about 5"4 and im 103 pounds and here are alot of stuff I do with my friends and what I think normal 13 years like.

Limewire pro-P0rn!

Jacking off alot-(only gay people dont)

Watching movies like cannibal holocaust,ferox,torched, and all those movies =)

Doing prank calls and ringing doorbells at 2 in the morning for fun on the weekends with friends.

Sneaking out on weekends very late just making lots of noise and exploring peoples backyeards.

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Those are the common things I do with most of my friends and most of that stuff is normal for a 13 year old to what i think.

2006-11-04 21:24:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

night until the early hours of the morning from one of my daughters so called best friends my daughter expects me just to put up with it and let it go what would you do? i'm asking any self respecting parent of a 16 year old

2006-11-04 20:07:10 · 16 answers · asked by . 6

The past few times my husband and I have gone out, we've come home, taken the sitter home, and then gone to bed. *Mind you our sitter doesn't ask for payment through our meager finances, but through other ways* Then we wake up at three am drenched in our own sweat because she turns up the heat to the highest temperature on the thermostat. Is there a way to tactfully discuss this with her, or should I just say: "Please don't do that. If you are cold bring a sweater."

Two things to keep in mind:
1) Our heat is free...but we keep waking up drenched
2) She's from South Africa and this often happened last year but not to this extent...

Thanks!

2006-11-04 19:13:23 · 15 answers · asked by nmhflute 2

My 8yo boy is really good at soccer but lacks the competitive drive his father and I have in sports? How do I inspire him to push to be better without breaking his love of the sport or being to pushy?

2006-11-04 18:55:21 · 4 answers · asked by Susan and Grant O 2

When I was 7 weeks preg my child's father asked me to get an abortion. I refused and he sent me an email telling me we were done. He cut off all contact with me and didnt plan on telling his family about our child. I contacted his family before I went into labor and told them It took them four months, but they contacted me and want to be apart of her life, which i have no problem with. I have taken her for a visit and I plan on taking her for another visit on christmas. My child's father said he wants to see her during this time. I dont think he cares for her at all, he just wants to impress his family by letting them think that he is trying to be a good dad. She is now 5 months old and he doesnt give me any financial support and he doesnt even contact me. If or when he does its on yahoo i/m and briefly. I dont mind my daughter seeing her grandparents but I dont want her with him Would I be wrong to bring her to see them before he comes home from college or after he has already left?

2006-11-04 18:51:05 · 6 answers · asked by confused346 1

she swears at me an throws things is well an hits her sister i have asked her has she any problems she says no i have asked her why shes so naughty all a get is caues a feel like it. i try to ground an give her no pocket money. i would really be greatful if a could have some good advice.

2006-11-04 17:42:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

kids modeling

2006-11-04 17:17:14 · 12 answers · asked by muralidhar b 1

Thanks for your replies to my last question.

The boy just turned 13.

The child's dad is in denial. He took his son to see a counselor and told him that the boy behaves just fine. So, the counselor said I didn't like kids; "the girl friend whom doesn't like kids."

I raised three children of my own and was a teacher for 20 years. Kids do like me, and I like them.

2006-11-04 17:09:07 · 4 answers · asked by Rosee 3

My best friend and I were talking the other day--we are normally at odds on things like this. I'm the kind of person who thinks people can change over time--he disagrees. We both don't know what to think about this one.

Seven years ago a two boys brutally killed a three year old boy. They lured him out of a mall took him to train tracks, beat him, and inevitably killed him. It obviously was premeditated. They have been in a juvenile detention center since and are getting out with their records wiped clean after just eight years. Do you feel these boys could have changed in just seven years after doing something so brutal? What do you feel the punishment should be? As a parent how do you feel about this? What if you were the parent of the boys who committed such an act, do you think your feelings would change?

2006-11-04 16:43:28 · 17 answers · asked by .vato. 6

2 1/2 years ago i left my ex (baby mama) and put myself on child support for our two kids. i left because after 8 years of her not working, not cleaning, not cooking, not doing anything but talking on the phone, going to the mall, hanging out with her friend after they got off from there jobs because they cared enough about there men to help them at least in that way. this women dosn't want anything out of life but to sit on her *** at her mother's house paying no bills but her cell phone and thinking of new ways to spend the $900 in child support that i give her every mo.i don't want my kids to grow up like this. they deserve better, my new wife is the complete opposit and more of a rolemodal for my kids. how do i get custady of my kids

2006-11-04 15:54:45 · 11 answers · asked by inforser3078 1

I live in an isolated area in a town of 498 people. My job is seasonal, and I get laid off six months at a time. We struggle to make a living here, but everybody in the family is really happy (beautiful surroundings, quiet, low crime, good schools, good friends). The kids don't want to move (four kids, ranging from 18 to 8). I recently received a college degree, but there are no opportunities nearby. Should I search for a job elsewhere even though my family would be disappointed to move?

2006-11-04 15:53:32 · 10 answers · asked by sublimetranscendental 3

I have a 4 year old daughter who has always been around her father and his family. He has visitation everyother weekend with her and has had that since she was 8 months old. When she is home and her fathers name is spoken she gets upset and says that its not his name its daddy and that it is ugly to say his name and she gets hit in the mouth...She has called crying begging to come home but his family will not let her. What do I need to do to get something done about this?

2006-11-04 15:43:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

hw many dads
do you want more
acidental or planned
do you regret the # of kids or not having any
how old and what are thier names

2006-11-04 15:43:31 · 32 answers · asked by babygirl 2

He wets the bed, nightly.
He has very obnoxious temper tantrums.(kicks and throws)
He cries and screams cuz he doesn't want to do homework.
He calls his dad names and cusses him.
He calls step mom names and cusses her in defiance.
He gets XXXXX on the toliet.
He spills food everywhere when he eats....and stains his face.
He throw clothes and towels all over his room and bathroom.
He breaks/destroys things/too;s/games/bikes in order to get a new replacement.
He is defiant.
He argues with adults and gets mad and says shuthehellup.
He won't get ready for school in the morning...often late.
He drinks out of the milk carton and juice bottle we all use.
He throws trash on the floor.
He won't brush his teeth.
He never walks in the house; always stomps or runs.

I think the boy needs medical help but the dad says boy's behavior is all my fault.

2006-11-04 15:32:25 · 18 answers · asked by Rosee 3

Although they are a very happy clan, they are inseparable and feed off of each others energy. They are disrespectful of their belongings & don't think twice about destroying things. I'm at a loss - they don't seem to learn from being in time outs or losing a priviledge because they go right back to doing what they were being punished for. I think what they need is one on one attention or to be separated for periods of time - how does one do that?

2006-11-04 15:16:34 · 11 answers · asked by Pandora 3

My parents are drained physically and financially. Can anyone help ??

2006-11-04 14:46:44 · 6 answers · asked by Mummy Boy 1

I am college educated, married for 13 years to the father of my two children, aged 12 and 10. He is enlisted in the military, so we have had the opportunity to travel, live in various cultures and be exspoed to many things. I was raised in a "traditional" home..two parents, stay at home Mom, church on Sundays. My husband was raised by his mother after his parents divorced when he was 2 and lived most of his young life in small towns, attended Christian schools. We are homeschooling our oldest (we had issues with the public schools on learning disabilities) while our son attends a special school for children with autism. However, we are considered very "non-traditional" by many of our peers. We have always been open with our children about drugs, drinking, sex, various religous beliefs, alternative life styles, political views, etc. We choose what our children watch by what they are interested in , the level of violence and depiction of sex.

2006-11-04 14:35:14 · 10 answers · asked by Annie 6

2006-11-04 13:58:14 · 15 answers · asked by o0o_415_o0o 1

I baby sat for a family with four kids 5th grade, 3rd grade, 1st grade, and 2 year old (with special needs.) I was supposed to babysit for this family over a 4 day weekend. The older boys were horrible, the were wrestling to the point of getting hurt, not listening, and just being rude.

I called the parents after 24 hours and asked them to come home early. The Dad made arrangements to have another babysitter take over (Thank God, these kids were a nightmare) he said they would work out paying me when the got back.

Well it has been a week and I called and the Dad informed me vhe would not be paying me since I backed out. That this was a horrible thing to do, and that I have no idea what it feels like as a parent to have someone do this to you.

Advice? What should I do?

2006-11-04 13:28:48 · 20 answers · asked by samanny 5

mine is 10, I don't leave him home alone yet, but im just wondering if it would be ok for like an hour or so. I have a new job and cant find a sitter for after school.. he is mature for his age and an only child, so no brothers or sisters to help him get in trouble

2006-11-04 13:24:36 · 38 answers · asked by ~Kim~ 2

What do you call your grandparents? I have always called mine mammaw and pappaw. My fiance calls his grandma and grandpa. Our girls calls everyone but their father' s stepmom mammaw or pappaw; they call their pappaw's wife nana. I kind of wish my girls could call their grandma's mammaw and grandpa's pappaw.

2006-11-04 12:24:28 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am specically asking about girls. I have yet to hear or meet a girl with the syndrome. I have seen some boys with it. If so tell me about them please.

2006-11-04 12:14:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Also, what is a reasonable price to charge? Could you please giveme your email address so I can email you?

2006-11-04 12:13:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean in every aspect of parenting from infant-adult, to being a role model, to a caring being parent.

I have no opinion. I was wondering what other people thought. My cousin was told this yesterday and I was just wondering how other people felt.

I do have a HS diploma--so please don't tell me to get one!

2006-11-04 11:37:56 · 46 answers · asked by .vato. 6

I'm not to sure what it is, maybe the migrane, the flu, the fact the has distroyed everything and broken just about everything or the stress of being a single parent while me hubby is deployed. NOT TO SURE!!!
About 30 minutes ago, she went into the kitchen and threw the dog watter and food everywhere, this was after a day of screaming at her lungs for not getting her way and just being a pain in my ***. Anyway. After she did this. I went off in a rage and grabbed her by her arm and smacked her hard on her butt. But as I was going to smack her again I stopped and she was screaming at the top of her lungs I put her in her crib and she laid there crying.
I am sitting on my couch crying my heart out and trying to figure out why did I snap. I swore I was never going to a raise a hand to my child, I have popped her on the hand before but that was about it.
She is sitting in her room right now laughing and playing and I'm still on the couch I want to hug her and tell her I'm sorry

2006-11-04 10:21:45 · 14 answers · asked by I'm a mommy 1

I am wondering if a mother wants to raise her baby to be Vegan, can she breast feed him/her? Is human milk considered to be an animal product the way that cow milk and eggs are? Would this mother have to feed the child formula? Is baby forumla Vegan in itself?

2006-11-04 10:19:12 · 15 answers · asked by Mint 3

2006-11-04 09:26:40 · 12 answers · asked by Rita 4

I've been considering it and was just wondering if anyone does homeschooling or was homeschooled and how it is. Thanks.

2006-11-04 09:20:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous