why can't 16 year olds now see the hurt and misery they're causing people i was getting death threats last

Question

night until the early hours of the morning from one of my daughters so called best friends my daughter expects me just to put up with it and let it go what would you do? i'm asking any self respecting parent of a 16 year old

I've refused to let my daughter go and live with this family..My daughter has grown up in a loving caring family she has had a curfew while she has been living with me to come in for 10.30 and no later..This girl has offered my daughter a roof over her head so that she can stay out all night get drunk have sex with many different boys (unprotected) my daughter is only 16 in the area we live it's dangerous out on the streets after dark.. All i'm doing is trying to get my daughter to come to her senses but this girl she wants to live with is pure evil..

Answer 1

why don't you call that girl's parents or the police? remember that YOU'RE THE PARENT AND THE ADULT!

Answer 2

As you say she was brought up in a loving caring family.She is exploring her boundaries of the rules in the family.The new influence in her life is making her think that the other way is great.She needs to stop admiring and following people, and have her own brain to think of something original.I am sure she has the intelligence to ask questions "is this person really honest, trustworthy, is this really what I want?"

She cannot see that at present.She will be a pain in the *** for a while. Sounds like she has a chip on her shoulder.

I would not call the police because that will just make ur daughter resent you. They don't solve this family stuff anyway. They turn up after the brick is through the window. As for death threats.These little punks are all wind and noise, trying to scare you off.Through all the swearing shouting and stuff, on their own they ain't tough.

But since I hung around with people that I thought were cool, when I look back at it..they were just loosers that enjoyed standing about outside talking crap, or deciding to bully someone.Getting drink from shops looked cool.When in trouble..these so-called friends looked after themselves

But I really hate the attitude of UK sometimes, that "having a drink" is cool, and makes u feel great with your friends.Young ones seem to think that is right. Drink culture and advertisements show a reality of wonderful beautiful people having a great time.

The ladette culture is one that u do not want your girl to get involved in.My sister did that.

It would help that she puts her energy into a sport.Idiots exist here too,which annoy u, and put u down.
Hope she is fine soon!

Answer 3

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. I think that you should get onto the police, i know that this may be scary, cause i know a lot of these kids have parents that are just as bad as they are, but they can't be allowed to get away with this. Unfortunatley this is a sign of our times and kids think that they can get away with anything. There was a time where kids were taught to respect adults and i know that when i was younger i would never have dared to even talk back to my elders not to mention doing what this so called friend is doing to your daughter and you. And for anybody that is cynical and thinks that i am in my 90's or something i am 23 years of age and would still never dream of trying to make somebody elses life unbearable. Stick up for yourself and i hope that the police can be of help to you.

Answer 4

Look, for God's sake, if you don't take control of the situation, this little madam will always get away with it. Give her a scare, call the police. She needs to learn that you can't go around making threats.
She's 16, act like a responsible adilut and put a stop to it.
Tell your daughter that, under no circumstances, is she to have contact with her.
End it now and your daughter's friend will have to accept the consequences for her very stupid actions, comething that doesn't seem to happen enough these days.

Answer 5

I would try to approach the other parent and see if you can't get these girls to work out their differences. I wouldn't call the police or behave in an accusatory manner towards the other family unless taking to the other parent failed. Of course if you honestly fear for your safety, or your daughter's, you should take action as well.
Remember, there are two sides to every story. Your daughter may have engaged in some unflattering behavior, herself. High school girls can get UGLY!

Answer 6

If you're able to prove the death threats - take it to the police - quickly.

You need to ground your daughter too and stop her seeing this lunatic.

Or you could simply let her live her life, the way she wants to - but don't offer her any more support - even if things go terribly wrong for her - which they surely will. If she's determined to live the way you describe then let her - she'll soon realise the mistake she's made.

Answer 7

Any form of bullying is wrong, by putting up with it your saying to your daughter that its ok to do it. I would talk to your daughters friend 1st explaining what she is doing is hurtful and wrong and that if she keeps doing it you will contact the police. If she still does it go to the police; she is above the criminal age of responsibility to know what she is doing! cyber bullying is still an offence like any other bullying and the police will get involved (we had a 13 yr old arrested for it recently) good luck

Answer 8

As I ABSOLUTELY AGREE with everything that's been said here although one of them could have put it a little more politely (!) [but under the circumstances it's expected] there's no more to add really. On the other hand, if she was mine, 16 or not, a belt round the ear would only be part of my reaction to her behaviour.

Answer 9

You should report Death Threats to the police, the child needs to be taught a lesson, perhaps a visit from the police might make them think about what they are doing!

Why were they sending them to you anyway - have you done something to them to make them do this?

Answer 10

Call the police! Friends don't act like that and death threats should be taken seriously.

Good luck!

Answer 11

It appears that teenagers seem to think 'its cool' to be cocky, cheeky etc etc......They really need a slap at times,,, but PC won't allow it,,,hence the problems being faced with......it worked when I was young (now 46)...

Inform the parents & threaten them that you will inform the police if you dont get an apology !!!!!!!! Dont let it drop.....