i need custody of my kids?

Question

2 1/2 years ago i left my ex (baby mama) and put myself on child support for our two kids. i left because after 8 years of her not working, not cleaning, not cooking, not doing anything but talking on the phone, going to the mall, hanging out with her friend after they got off from there jobs because they cared enough about there men to help them at least in that way. this women dosn't want anything out of life but to sit on her *** at her mother's house paying no bills but her cell phone and thinking of new ways to spend the $900 in child support that i give her every mo.i don't want my kids to grow up like this. they deserve better, my new wife is the complete opposit and more of a rolemodal for my kids. how do i get custady of my kids

Answer 1

I understand your anger with this but honestly it is really hard to get a child away from the mother. Pretty much she would have ot be doing drugs and turning tricks in front of them to have a judge take them away. Even if all she does is sit at home and do nothing the judge most likely will just make her go and get a job. 900 a month is really a lot of money. You must have one hell of a good job! Like every one else said try and find the best attorney you can afford and get those kids. Try not to talk about this infront of them. It really makes things hard for the kids. Trust me on this one that they hear and sense more then what you know. Just make sure you are doing this for the kids and not to just to throw one last jab at her. (not trying to be mean but think about what you are doing really well first) This would hurt the kids and tear up what they know and are used to.

Answer 2

Thats the problem you got a new wife I would not put a new mother on your kids that is the most F****** up thing you can do and also find a new wife while your kids are still young.

It dopes not sound she is doing drugs or anything else and you seem just as mean to her saying she doesnt care about you and criticizing what she does with her life. Maybe she does a good job with the kids maybe she stays at home with them a lot.
And just maybe she would give you more visitation.custody rights if you asked becasue I am sure she cares enough about her kids to do that.

You sound like you are just being vindictive but who am I to judge because I had an ex who screwed me over and had another woman taking care of my baby and that feels like CRAP. Plus I think it hurts the children.

Answer 3

What most men don't seem to understand is that we don't take the child support that you send and put it in a separate bank account that they will get when they turn 18 because some of us are alone and we need that money to help pay for the child's clothes, electric bill and utilities, and weekly groceries. Now I understand that this girl is living with her mother and not working, but unless she is laying up doing drugs abusing your children, then I doubt very seriously that you have a chance in getting full custody of these kids. Divorce sucks, and it really sucks for the kids. Your kids will see through visitation of your new wife what kind of a role model she is and if they want to follow in the direction of step mom.

Answer 4

This woman sounds exactly like my dads ex Gf whom he has a 21 year old son with. For 15 years my dad paid child support and not a cent went on his son, it all went on her and her new husband so finally he had enough and took her to court and they allowed him to stop paying the support which angered her a lot because thier went her free ride. When she got pregnant she told him the baby was not his and lost contact but then 6 months after the child was born she contacted him saying it was and it was not one of those things where oh your the dad and you had a right to know it was more of your the dad I want money to spend on my idiot self.

I would suggest you take her to court, you and your wife have jobs where this girl is living with her mom with no job. Chances you are going to get the kids is every high because unlike her you are financially stable and able to take care of he kids and have your own home

Answer 5

If she initially got custody of the children, it will take a lot for the courts to change custody. You will have to show that you are an active part in your childrens life who has great influence in how well they are doing. For example, do their homework with them and have a teacher sign it off that you did it. Go to ALL the teacher conferences....if they are not in school yet, then get involved in something that includes them or get them into something like sports or whatever that can only improve their lives. And document every wrong move she makes. Like missed days of school and stuff. I just hope you are not in CA or WA cause those states are Liberal as F*CK and they screw the dad over every time.
Or if she gets caught with drugs or gets arrested.

Answer 6

You will have to prove your children would be better off living with you than their mother. If the children are preschoolers, most likely, a court will not take them away from the mother so the step mother can raise them. When a child is about 14(depending on the state's laws) he can help choose which parent to live with.

Answer 7

You say a lot about what you don't like about your ex and how much child support you have to pay, but not a single word about how you love your kids. Not even how many there are or how old they are. You don't sound like you care about anything but yourself and your money. Hope the court sees it the same way I do.

Answer 8

You have to take her to court, so get a GOOD lawyer. Depending on where you live, you will probably have to prove that she is a bad mother and does not provide for the children, seeing that she is living with her mother might make it harder, because she can claim that it provides them with support that they need.

Answer 9

you have to prove that she is a bad mother and it would be in the children best interest to like with you but it would be very hard for the court to take kids away from their mother is their aren't in danger, you need a good lawyer

Answer 10

Yes take her to court or have her write a letter stating the reasons why you all should have joint custody. WIth joint custody you can both spend time with the kids and you won't have to pay support.