Around this time of year, my b-friend goes into a funk, grieving for a dead fiance who died in a car crash 8 years ago. He misses her very much and is very, very sad. The problem is that I am in his life and he seems to be rejecting me since he is comparing how he felt when he was with her vs. how he feels with me. I'm very torn since I am certain I cannot possibly compete with the memory of a dead woman and should bail, but isn't it jerky of me to bail on someone who's hurting so badly? Shouldn't I wait until he's out of his funk? Otherwise, he's a healthy, happy person who has a wide variety of interests and energy. Should I wait until he's out of his funk to talk to him about really letting go? Is it possible to assess that he'll never let go and if I stick around, I'll face rejection every year about this time?
2007-01-16
06:30:25
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