Marriage & Divorce - 29 December 2007

she tells me she thaught she was going to be able to deal with it but she cant and its made me hate her.i get so angry that ive suggested divorce but that just make it worse.it gets so bad i want to just run away.she wont let my past go.she is constantly bringing up my past.i do love her but i cant hadle the fighting and screming.im going to have a heart attack if it doent stop.i feel it coming on.

2007-12-29 10:00:37 · 11 answers · asked by kim s 1

OK I found out a week ago that my husband was in debt by $5000.( He had tranfered balances before to a 0% APR credit card with a max of $3000. But then he went and remaxed out the cards he did the balance transfer on! ) . Ok, so this morning I get a call from the $3000 card wanting a $500 payment ! He did a cash advance ! and they are now charging 71% APR ! To make matters worse that card is maxed !

So I talked to his dad. He had me look through all his statements ( not good because my husband dont like me to do that ) and I did and we found out he owes $7500 at an average of 35% APR !

Im afraid he's gonna yell at me for telling his dad, but Im scared ! Im afraid we're not gonna make it financially ! Even though my husband told me "dont worry , I got this handled. Dont tell my parents " because he owes MORE than he told me about and its growing !!!

Any words of advice ?

2007-12-29 09:39:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I like this woman and I think she likes me but I have no money ($60 bucks a month after bills because of child support). So I feel like I wont be able to treat her the way a woman should be treated. ie Taking her out, buying her Roses when we go out, Paying for everything.
I mean I treat her nice and compliment her but she deserves someone better than me.
So how do I let her know I'm not good enough without hurting her?

2007-12-29 09:07:02 · 21 answers · asked by Joe S 3

we have been married for 4 years and lately all we do is argue atleast twice a week about stupid stuff but i feel like we are not understanding eachother, He is away right now for a while and i dont know if i should continue waiting for him

2007-12-29 09:04:41 · 8 answers · asked by B 1

Write me if you want to fall in love as we hold each other under the moon and stars as we kiss and have passion to last forever.

2007-12-29 08:53:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am considering marrying him. I am deeply in love with this man and we are both here in the USA

2007-12-29 08:51:40 · 9 answers · asked by angel_annie_63 1

My boyfriend and I have been together as a couple since 10th grade and we got married three weeks ago. We are both 25 years old and Christians. We saved ourselves for sex until marriage. Well our first night together as a couple we have sex and to my surprise his penis was barely three inches long when it was erect. I had to put on a play just so he was thinking he was making me happy. I dont know what I should do? We dont believe in a divorce so dont give me that answer.

2007-12-29 08:45:20 · 24 answers · asked by js2_26 2

So I am a married woman, with kids. He is a married man with kids. We are both unhappy with our spouses and have been going on with an affair for about a year. I don't want to leave and neither does he for the sake of our kids. But we want to be together. It really sucks. Neither of us want to hurt the other spouse, and I don't think we are being selfish. Our affair started being about sex only, it has grown to a very strong love. We want this to work for us we want to be together in the futur, we know we just can't now.I have heard that this type of thing was possible, is it really? Does anyone have experience with these type of things working out? I guess I really want to know is, can our love for eachother with stand the test of time? This love is so fulfilling for the both of us, we always say if only....we would be together now.

2007-12-29 08:38:03 · 9 answers · asked by superchic 2

Come to find out he is into little girls and other women and is bi sexual.He makes me sick.I want him gone.

2007-12-29 08:15:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

sex is the route cause of most health problems divorces and money.Good sex can solve all above problems so refer all yr sex problems here and live happily

2007-12-29 07:37:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

We married very young and have been together for 7 years. I want desperately to try anything, including counseling but though she has agreed to try, she seems almost disinterested. I messed up in the past, pushing her to move to the big city before she was ready, and we've faced a lot of obstacles including the loss of her mother.

She says that I'm a great guy, she still loves me, and I'm her best friend, but the passion is just not there, and because of that lack of passion the chances are "slim" that we'll stay together. Is there anything I can do to bring back that passion? I really don't want to lose her.

Thanks in advance for any help....

2007-12-29 07:28:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dear friends,
I got married 13 years back. Marriage lasted only for 3 months and my wife left me. During those 3 months, she harrassed me like hell. After a year I filed for divorce on mental cruelty, but court did not grant divorce on 'insufficient evidence'. (Some of the witnesses died before the trial). Then I appealed in HC [Mumbai] and now it is still in pending. My wife is contesting this case in HC also. Except this case, there are NO other cases. NO criminal cases, No poice complaints etc. No children. She is working in Govt Bank as officer. For all these years, we are living separately in different places.
My wife now, says that she will file a criminal case as I am not able to prove my case against her. She says that 'not able to prove her mental cruelty' is itself a cruelty. Is it possible? If so, what are my options?? But, courts know that witnesses died before the trail. I know that I can content in SC, if lost in HC. Please advise, Thanks in advance

2007-12-29 07:23:21 · 10 answers · asked by Gurra_Nada 1

your wife or your mother ?

2007-12-29 07:07:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-29 06:37:07 · 42 answers · asked by Sweet T 1

2007-12-29 06:32:57 · 17 answers · asked by Bad Azz Bunnie 22 1

my boyfriend just proposed a couple days ago. I am really happy but for some reason its been buggin me. His proposal wasn't really planned out of too thoughtfull. he came up behind me, put the ring in my face in just said will u marry me? I know it really shouldnt' matter and I should be happy, but it didnt' seem like too much thought was put into it. I was expecting something a little more romantic. he didtn' even get on one knee like the traditional way. I jsut need to know how to get over that and just be happy w/ our engagement. I just feel kinda hurt and I dotn' know why.

2007-12-29 06:28:23 · 14 answers · asked by princess 1

My wife gives me a very hard time whenever I tell her that I'd rather not go to see musicals or operas. I hate going to them and they make me insane with agony when I'm sitting there. I've gone to a number of them in the past because she likes them, but I can't sit through any more.

She says I'm not being a good husband b/c I don't want to go w/her. However, I like to watch football and basketball (I know this is very stereotypical, but it's true), and have never, ever made her feel bad about not watching the games w/me. I figure, if she doesn't like to watch the games, then why on earth would I want to make her sit through something she doesn't like? I'd never do that. Why doesn't she think the same way about the opera & musicals?

Why is it that I *must* endure the operas & musicals in order to be viewed as a good husband? I don't get it. She *knows* I don't like them. What enjoyment could she get if I'm sitting next to her, when she knows I'm suffering through it?

2007-12-29 06:19:39 · 5 answers · asked by Reggie 3

I noticed that as me and my boyfriend's love started to grow and develop, we started arguing alot. We are normally happily in love one week, and not speaking the next....but we still love each other, and are growing closer...
Is this normal or a warning sign..??
Does this ever happen before couples get married, and does it continue..??

2007-12-29 06:13:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Finish this phrase. I ask this every few months and get very interesting responses. So, for me: My spouse does not know I ... When we recently had our antique claw foot bath tub's inside re-finished, at $440, I did not get to one of my 3 years olds quick enough when he said he had to pee and he got to the bathroom before me and left a tiny palm print in the tub's new finish. (you have to know where it is to even see it, but he would crap if he knew it had a flaw, due to the cost)

2007-12-29 06:07:46 · 13 answers · asked by Sheila 6

I posted an online personals ad pretending to be my ex, to see what kind of girls he could get. I didn't use his name or photo, just described everything about him.

I'm really upset with him - he broke up with me by not calling anymore. No explanation.

All my friends insisted I was way too good for him anyway, even when things were going well. So I wanted to see if they were right, and so far, they are. The only women who've responded are trashy and already have kids.

2007-12-29 06:01:59 · 23 answers · asked by monicanena 5

2007-12-29 05:52:12 · 10 answers · asked by Rabi Ranjan 1

Any suggestions

2007-12-29 05:48:29 · 10 answers · asked by Stacye S 3

I have been with my partner for 13 months and have a major problem. His ex wife. He has a child with her and has to go up there to pick the child up every week or so but when he does he spends maybe 5 or 6 or more hours up there. He says that shes a lovely woman and that he actually loves spending time with her and its tearing me apart. He says im possessive and jealous and our relationship is hanging by a thread at the moment. Before he was with me he was intimate with her 3 times since they have been divorced but he says not in the 13 months that hes been with me. He says that he has to keep a good relationship for the sake of his daughter. Its tearing me apart because I have an ex husband who I have a good relationship with but I would never say the things to my partner like he has said to me about loving to spend time etc as I dont do it with my ex husband. Please any advice would be appreciated and can anyone see my point of view.

2007-12-29 05:39:09 · 26 answers · asked by Broken hearted 1

Here's what happened. I got married in July and my husband and I seperated in November and it is kind of my fault since I was cheating on him with this other guy whose 20. I'm 25 and so is my husband but the age thing isn't the point. He used to work all of the time and leave me alone and never had time for me so it's not completely my fault. Now that we've seperated I've started dating the other guy. Now everyone keeps saying mean things about me behind my back, And I'm sick of it . What can I do?

2007-12-29 05:23:54 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-29 05:22:51 · 41 answers · asked by Ssshhhh Im becoming aroused™ 3

Ok so I found out that my husband is having a affair with his co-worker. He has the balls to ask me to take him back anyway, the thing is the girl is married.
My question is would you tell her husband, should he know or should I just leave it alone.

2007-12-29 05:01:53 · 16 answers · asked by liitlebitt_03 2

Cheating partners should you tell or not.Friends tell they are cheating on their spouse and than you have to look at them in the face ,and thats a hard thing to .That happen to me a few years ago to a close friend .I told and she never fogave me. I don't feel guilty for telling ,rather I would feel gulity if she caught AIDS from the jerk.

2007-12-29 04:39:51 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm thinking and have been thinking about getting a divorce from my husband i was originally going to leave come the end of summer both of my girls would be in school and i would be able to support my children better then i could now, however, now i have a problem i'm pregnant again, it's my husbands i thought maybe this is god's blessing for us to save our marriage but ever since he found out he has been ignoring me and my girls and constantly wanting to hang out with his friend, who just seems to be his best buddy all of a sudden when he couldn't even stand him, he has to do get drunk with him every weekend instead of spending time with us, i know i'm not much fun right now with morning sickness and being tired, but i think he should be here at home with us not out every weekend with his friend, he doesn't even come home. I know i'm more emotional right now, but i'm scared to leave now not that it was going to be easy before but now with a newborn coming in the summer i'm scared?

2007-12-29 04:38:31 · 16 answers · asked by pandiepoo 1

my husband wants a divorce but i don't. what should i do.

2007-12-29 04:13:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

early and found him asleep in my bra and silky bikini undies! LOL!
He says he must have sleep lwalked. Somehow he manged to even wear a matching set!
What would you say or do?

2007-12-29 03:44:44 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous