Ok so I found out that my husband is having a affair with his co-worker. He has the balls to ask me to take him back anyway, the thing is the girl is married.
My question is would you tell her husband, should he know or should I just leave it alone.
2007-12-29 05:01:53 · 16 answers · asked by liitlebitt_03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank for all the answers, I dont want to cause this pain on anyone, I do know her husband and he is a good man. Its ashame! on one thought I think he should know. Because I'm glad I know. But I dont want to hurt anyone and her guilt serves her right. I dont care if she becomes single or not, this is the 2nd time he has cheated on me. I will not take him back. I really do think they deserve each other.
And to the one who said take it to his job, I have kids he holds there health insurance that would only hurt my children. Want a little laugh about all this? He is a police officer.
2007-12-29 07:25:33 · update #1
2 wrong don't make it right...i would dump him and forget about her..good luck..
2007-12-29 05:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sandrine C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely tell. It's too delicious not to. BUT be forewarned that if she knows you know, she has probably already begun telling her husband lies or weird stories to cover her *** if you come forward. Your hubby may even side with her because of his job. If you tell her husband, you have to have some kind of solid proof.
That woman probably smiled in your face quite a few times---that is all the fuel I would need.
And eff being 'mature' about this.
2007-12-29 07:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by GodivaChocolateStarfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the husband and the whole office! The husband has a right to know and deal with it! Wouldn't you have wanted to know sooner? Don't you dare take him back.
2007-12-29 05:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anais 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, leave her husband out of this. That's her problem, don't make it your problem. You've got enough on your plate, as it is.
You only want to tell her husband because you want someone else to hurt as badly as you are hurting, now. It won't help. You'll still hurt just as badly, with the added complication of spreading your pain around.
2007-12-29 05:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow my husband and i where seperated for 8 months and he had an affair with a married women they where both murdered 5 weeks ago the pain that i went threw to first see the coroner come to my door and tell me that my husband was killed ,then to learn with a married coworker, that really hurt me ive been goen threw hell the last month with the grief of still caring and loving my husband then his death so gl to ya i would not forgive him they say people find love at work mine sure did and it cost him his life what a terrible thing that happened to the 2 of them so gl to ya jewels
2007-12-29 05:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by jewels 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
how is you telling the husband going to change anything, i think you should just leave it alone and deal with your own problems.
Plus if you want to make things work with your husband and you go on telling her husband there may the chance that they will both be single and go ahead and be together.
you should really thin about the possible consequences that your actions may bring.
2007-12-29 05:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by mayrad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether or not you want to take him back. If you tell her husband, they could possible split up, making her much more available on a full time basis for your husband.
2007-12-29 05:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by K M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry..... that this Has Happened .... TO YOU!.... BUT.....
YES..... All ... PARTIES..... Need to Be Involved..... TO GET THE MATTER STRAIGHT!
“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil = = is that good people do nothing.”
I am SURE...... He is ONLY SORRY...That HE GOT CAUGHT!
HE... Is Not.... Sorry THAT.... HE HAS RUINED.... TWO... MARRIAGES!
I would EVEN INVOLVE..... HIS WORKPLACE! Many Companies..... HAVE A RULE.... ABOUT... FRATERNIZATION... OF CO-WORKERS !
“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil = = is that good people = = do nothing.”
Thanks for Asking ! RR
2007-12-29 05:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her husband should know. and he'll find out whether you tell him or not. she can't keep her dirty little secret forever. those type of things just have a way of being found out.
2007-12-29 05:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him....and I wouldnt get back with hubby either....but i give props to him for confessing...most men dont...and she's a dirty slob anyways...who cares if she gets hurt..you did
2007-12-29 05:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone with her husband and just deal with yours
you don't know what her situation is like and if it is meant to get back to him too it will
2007-12-29 05:08:43 · answer #11 · answered by jenny s 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋